What's with the hot & cold behav. of a taurus?

Heya all... I need a bit of insight (desperately so I think, LoL!).

Can anyone tell me whats probably going in the mind of this male taurus? He blows hot and cold all the time.

Short history: we met randomly, clicked and spent a few hours together just talking. Since we live in different cities, that was the only time we saw each other.

For weeks after that he calls every other day, never fail to send text with the sweetest things said. There were even hints that this could be more than just a random meeting and there might be a future together (although very subtlely hinted).

But for the past few weeks, the calls have not been frequent at all. But when he does call, he sounds so genuinely caring and interested.And just when I thought he has lost interest, he sents sweet random text.

I'm at lost here. Does he like me/ has he lost interest? why the mixed signals? I think I've fallen for this guy, however stupid that might sound considering we've only seen each other once.

Thanks intellectualbrat- to answer your question, I'm 27 and he's 26.

And funny you mention how they are observing. He is, cause he remembers things i mention and do and make comments on that.

I guess I have to be more patient? But it just kills me sometimes (pardon the drama queen mode 😄 ). Especially when I hear his voice on the phone and when he dissapears after that.

I do have another question- what sort of hints are those? and what does a bull do when he decides he's not interested (what signs should i look for).

LOL @ GB.

Hahaha. trust me, I'm tempted to do that. haha. well, for the moment, I'll just try to not make a big deal out of it, I guess.

So GreatBull, share some thing with us girls- what do you bulls usually look for in a girl? And do you guys usually butter up things just to get us all fired up?

Yes they are challenging!..We also live in different cities, and I have been waiting to see him?. I told him to be spontaneous if he wants..Well after catching him a bold face lie.....He said he was going to bed early saturday but his phone accidently called me from a party where he was having a great time!!! I am dissapointed with the choir boy act! I want him to have a good time he works hard, but after hinting for him to drive up he says that he was too tired and the precipitation was not good! Well he played himself...Mr I do know wrong but work hard and go to school. He was partying like a rock star....! Im not mad but just keep it real..tell the truth "Im lazy and I dont feel like making the trip!" LOng story short after realizing his phone called me for 13 minutes. He tried to play it off with some more butter about how he was calling me to share his moment, and continued to call allllll night long (after getting busted) I was smooth---I called the next AM and said what was the sense of urgency! Oh! I wanted to share the moment with you! He continued his lie when we should have just been laughing. What happended to my night in shining armor.

Well he finally decides to drive up spontaneously at 11:00 sunday night.. out of the blue. He called four times giving me blow by blow about where he was on the road. His last message was I am going to turn around in DE at 2: 30 am in the morning if I dont hear back. HELLLLO Im sleep! going to work at 6:30 AM not answeering my phone. I was off for four days and no interst in driving. Is it because you got busted why now! too much game and butter.

Is he stupid are just narcistic...truth be it told I was at my ex..tired of the procastination and the precipitation! Four months and you blow up my fons and texts but cant take a drive. How about train? He told 250.00 dollars too much cheddar..Rail road wont be taking advantage of him! LMAO I DONT DO CHEAP! What happend to this generours taurus. I geuss I got the broke one! Im not a gold digga but I dont need no broke $ #@@! No flowers, no dinners. no birthdays, no holidays, no vacations!! I was thinking what do you do.......

IM WAITINGGGGGG...NOT! WInk..WInk...WInk..

Thanks Intellectualbrat :-)

You seem to get your bull really well! You're not a taurus yourself? and yeah, do write more if you remember anything else.

This crab (read:me) is obviously quite smitten with this one bull. Haha.

yeah I only act hot and cold when somebody gives me a reason to act that way...possibly me falling to fast over a guy or when somebody stops being loyal and they still expect me to be loyal...I would say that its always a reason for behavior like that

Turns out that he's just a player after all IntBrat. After a few days of no contact (and after telling me that he just can't wait to see me soon) his status is now in a relationship. I guess, he's not the guy i thought he was-just another one of the guys.

Is that typical of a bull? lying through his teeth?

I guess it's no (1) then, I didn't play him. I could have sworn that he was sincere back then. If there's anyone who is a smooth talker and a good actor, he is. Well, I know better now. Just wishing that I didn't fall this bad for this guy.

LOL@trobin39: Your Taurus guy has already shown you he is a idiot, don't know what else it is you need to see..

Starfish never holds back, you keep me cracking up, never fails that you make me laugh

I have dated many Taurians and am married to one. Here's what's up: they are very reserved with their emotions and feelings. They don't share them with just anyone, they need to deem you worthy. If they trust you, they will open up. Watch out though *once* they do tell you how they feel it will be so intense, you won't know what hit you. Very passionate. It's all about timing though.
Mine acted hot and cold and I got super pissed (fire sign) and I noticed that they may like the fact that I chased them and gave them attention. They know they can trust me and I am reliable, I have shown this.
Time is a huge thing. Longer you know them, more comfortable they are with you. Don't expect to find anything out if you met a Taurus and are trying to get answers right away: you may just push them away.
Here's what you do: You try to NOT take the behavior personally. I know this is difficult as it can be hurtful. I lashed out and told him he pissed me off a few times. He actually told me "I understand why you are mad, you have every reason to be" so if it's not TOO confrontational then tell him how you feel. He will see you care enough to even bother with him. Taurians give everything of themselves and thus get hurt a lot. This isn't the type of guy who is going to chase you, remember, this is a fixed sign. WHEN they are ready they WILL tell you how they feel. Patience is the key. Took mine months to tell me but once he did I was floored. The way he spoke, the things he said, no one has ever said such beautiful and arousing words to me. If you can stand by your taurus and put up with the hold and cold bs: it's definitely worth it.

Posted by Taurianproblems
I have dated many Taurians and am married to one. Here's what's up: they are very reserved with their emotions and feelings. They don't share them with just anyone, they need to deem you worthy. If they trust you, they will open up. Watch out though *once* they do tell you how they feel it will be so intense, you won't know what hit you. Very passionate. It's all about timing though.
Mine acted hot and cold and I got super pissed (fire sign) and I noticed that they may like the fact that I chased them and gave them attention. They know they can trust me and I am reliable, I have shown this.
Time is a huge thing. Longer you know them, more comfortable they are with you. Don't expect to find anything out if you met a Taurus and are trying to get answers right away: you may just push them away.
Here's what you do: You try to NOT take the behavior personally. I know this is difficult as it can be hurtful. I lashed out and told him he pissed me off a few times. He actually told me "I understand why you are mad, you have every reason to be" so if it's not TOO confrontational then tell him how you feel. He will see you care enough to even bother with him. Taurians give everything of themselves and thus get hurt a lot. This isn't the type of guy who is going to chase you, remember, this is a fixed sign. WHEN they are ready they WILL tell you how they feel. Patience is the key. Took mine months to tell me but once he did I was floored. The way he spoke, the things he said, no one has ever said such beautiful and arousing words to me. If you can stand by your taurus and put up with the hold and cold bs: it's definitely worth it.

Yes .. Taureans are highly reserved and CONSERVATIVE, by nature and disposition, altho they will be relunctant to admit or state it. Both ... the women and men are Earth, and are DRY, expressing little ... to no .. emotional element. Taureans require the WATER element of the FEELING element ... and that is exactly what happens when they self-sabotage any potential relationship when they seek AIR and FIRE ... sorry to say, it will NOT work.

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Posted by Taurianproblems

Here's what's up: they are very reserved with their emotions and feelings. They don't share them with just anyone, they need to deem you worthy. If they trust you, they will open up. Watch out though *once* they do tell you how they feel it will be so intense, you won't know what hit you. Very passionate. It's all about timing though.
-they may like the fact that I chased them and gave them attention. They know they can trust me and I am reliable, I have shown this.
-Longer you know them, more comfortable they are with you. Don't expect to find anything out if you met a Taurus and are trying to get answers right away: you may just push them away.
Here's what you do: You try to NOT take the behavior personally.
-Taurians give everything of themselves and thus get hurt a lot. This isn't the type of guy who is going to chase you, remember, this is a fixed sign. WHEN they are ready they WILL tell you how they feel. Patience is the key. Took mine months to tell me but once he did I was floored. The way he spoke, the things he said, no one has ever said such beautiful and arousing words to me. If you can stand by your taurus and put up with the hold and cold bs: it's definitely worth it.

Yes .. Taureans are highly reserved and CONSERVATIVE, by nature and disposition, altho they will be relunctant to admit or state it. Both ... the women and men are Earth, and are DRY, expressing little ... to no .. emotional element. Taureans require the WATER element of the FEELING element ... and that is exactly what happens when they self-sabotage any potential relationship when they seek AIR and FIRE ... sorry to say, it will NOT work.

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DRY? DRY?? ...I beg to differ.. then again my Moon is in Scorpio so my Earth is on the Moist side..lol

I will agree about Air or Fire.. I tried each before...I LEFT both. No- can- do!

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