winning back a Taurus woman?

I hurt my Taurus girlfriend deeply and now she's avoiding me like the plague. I've tried to apologize and reassure her it won't happen again, but she just won't listen. How do I get back my stubborn Taurus? I want to keep apologizing but fear that this might come across as desperate and drive her further away. She means everything to me and I know I did a dumb thing, but do Taurus ever change their mind for a partner after they've had their trust betrayed? Can a Taurus offer some guidance please?

Posted by MrVirgo
I hurt my Taurus girlfriend deeply and now she's avoiding me like the plague. I've tried to apologize and reassure her it won't happen again, but she just won't listen. How do I get back my stubborn Taurus? I want to keep apologizing but fear that this might come across as desperate and drive her further away. She means everything to me and I know I did a dumb thing, but do Taurus ever change their mind for a partner after they've had their trust betrayed? Can a Taurus offer some guidance please?

1st question: What did you do?

My Virgo brother has been kicked out by his Taurus wife numerous times but they are still together.
He complains a lot and they have trust issues, but they love each other.

We had a date, I stood her up to go to another party with my pals. Not proud of myself for what I did, but I'm really sorry and wanna get back with her.

Hmm, that alone doesn't sound like a deal breaker. I'd be annoyed for awhile but not end a good relationship over it (though you don't actually say if you're in a relationship). If it were one of several inconsiderate incidents, however, I might cut my losses. I have a very difficult time trusting after I feel betrayed but have given second chances (and even third) in some cases.

Posted by MrVirgo
We had a date, I stood her up to go to another party with my pals. Not proud of myself for what I did, but I'm really sorry and wanna get back with her.

2nd &3rd question: HOW old are you?? & How LONG have you two been together? Because if its VERY early in the beginning stages, she DEF sized up your potential and weighed her options and decided to bail while she still has more control over her emotions. She's not sticking around for the rest of the show...or YOUR show rather.

SECONDLY...Being stoodup is one of the most disrespectful & annoying thing to ever experience. Its IMMATURE & SELFISH of you. If the date was ALREADY set, you keep it! A mature stand-up guy doesn't run off with the frat boys, they TELL their friends they have a prior engagement, and move on..idiocy.

Let this be a lesson for you MRVirgo...Taureans don't like to waste their time, on someone who DISRESPECTS them and their time.

I've been stood up before.. at a restaurant, I was seated and everything. He wasn't by a boyfriend but he DEFINITELY didn't hear from or see me again. The House manager of the restaurant, walked by my table & noticed my OTHER party hasn't arrived and asked me what happened..-I told him- then BOOM! He COMPT'd my ENTIRE meal (drinks incl'd) and he threw in a dessert ( of MY choice)..he then introduced to the HOT Italian chef, who gave me his card with his number, with a promise to not stand me up..that definitely softened the blow of that night. I didn't take up the Chef's offer, b/c I met my Scorp shortly afterwards..

Posted by BullGem
"Its IMMATURE & SELFISH of you."

Yes, he acted like an immature and selfish douche. But he recognized his mistake and is trying to make up for it. His taurus obviously means enough to him that he'd want to redeem himself.

Do you suppose the mature thing for her to do is to bail without at least talking it out? Even if she chooses to dump him eventually, that does not excuse the fact that she's being incredibly immature herself by avoiding him.

I understand the taurus standpoint to rid yourself of anyone that disrespects you or makes you feel as though you're wasting your time, but her behavior is another kind of disrespectful. He wants to do the right thing here and apologize, and maybe she will forgive him, maybe not, but she, on the other hand, probably has a ridiculous, almost delusional sense of entitlement.

The mature thing would be to at least hear him out. What she does afterwards, is her choice.

She IS entitled...
To R-E-S-P-E-C-T! He's DEFINITELY finding out what it means to her..

"Sorry" doesn't magically fix everything for everyone. Its not about being mature in her case now, its about: "Do I want to go through this sh*t with...HIM?? Does HE have what it takes?? IF she's anything like me.. she's no nonsense.

Come CORRECT or stay away.

...Still waiting on MrVIRGO. C'mon dude.

Come CORRECT..means to do things right the 1st time. ...yea ppl make mistakes but don't f*ck up with this simple,BASIC, common sense type of situation.

I don't think its over though, they WILL talk again.
She's just annoyed and not trying to hear him right now and just wants her space.

Her tolerance level to BS is VERY low. Sometimes one strike is all it takes. Why carry on when there is always someone else than can and WILL do better, the 1st run through.

I commend Mr.Virgo for "trying", but he's gonna have to do ALOT better and STAY that way.

Posted by Torro

Posted by MrVirgo
do Taurus ever change their mind for a partner after they've had their trust betrayed?

No.

She probably won't be coming back around after what you did, I know I wouldn't. But it all depends from person to person, my advice is you better do something fucking breathtaking if you even want her to consider going out with you again.

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Breathtaking...earthshattering..The WORKS.. yup!

Posted by BullGem
Oh, sweetie. I feel for you.

I don't know what to tell you here. If my boyfriend stood me up, I'd be angry, sure. But eventually I'd forgive him. Maybe that's just me. I don't like to let my pride rule me for too long, so I'd eventually work with myself and with him to move past it.

*shrug* Hope she forgives you.

I think at this point, the best thing you can do is let her know that you are sorry. Find a way to tell her that. Because, if you take too long to let her calm down, her anger will move on to resentment and couple that with pride and she may never let herself forgive you.

I see. thanks

Posted by queenofdawn
Hmm, that alone doesn't sound like a deal breaker. I'd be annoyed for awhile but not end a good relationship over it (though you don't actually say if you're in a relationship). If it were one of several inconsiderate incidents, however, I might cut my losses. I have a very difficult time trusting after I feel betrayed but have given second chances (and even third) in some cases.

noted. ty

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Posted by MrVirgo
We had a date, I stood her up to go to another party with my pals. Not proud of myself for what I did, but I'm really sorry and wanna get back with her.

2nd &3rd question: HOW old are you?? & How LONG have you two been together? Because if its VERY early in the beginning stages, she DEF sized up your potential and weighed her options and decided to bail while she still has more control over her emotions. She's not sticking around for the rest of the show...or YOUR show rather.

SECONDLY...Being stoodup is one of the most disrespectful & annoying thing to ever experience. Its IMMATURE & SELFISH of you. If the date was ALREADY set, you keep it! A mature stand-up guy doesn't run off with the frat boys, they TELL their friends they have a prior engagement, and move on..idiocy.

Let this be a lesson for you MRVirgo...Taureans don't like to waste their time, on someone who DISRESPECTS them and their time.

I've been stood up before.. at a restaurant, I was seated and everything. He wasn't by a boyfriend but he DEFINITELY didn't hear from or see me again. The House manager of the restaurant, walked by my table & noticed my OTHER party hasn't arrived and asked me what happened..-I told him- then BOOM! He COMPT'd my ENTIRE meal (drinks incl'd) and he threw in a dessert ( of MY choice)..he then introduced to the HOT Italian chef, who gave me his card with his number, with a promise to not stand me up..that definitely softened the blow of that night. I didn't take up the Chef's offer, b/c I met my Scorp shortly afterwards..

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yeh she said I was being unreliable and disrespectful. My bad.

Posted by LunarMaiden
My Virgo brother has been kicked out by his Taurus wife numerous times but they are still together.
He complains a lot and they have trust issues, but they love each other.

I hope she loves me enough to forgive me.

Posted by TAURUSbelle

Posted by BullGem
"Its IMMATURE & SELFISH of you."

Yes, he acted like an immature and selfish douche. But he recognized his mistake and is trying to make up for it. His taurus obviously means enough to him that he'd want to redeem himself.

Do you suppose the mature thing for her to do is to bail without at least talking it out? Even if she chooses to dump him eventually, that does not excuse the fact that she's being incredibly immature herself by avoiding him.

I understand the taurus standpoint to rid yourself of anyone that disrespects you or makes you feel as though you're wasting your time, but her behavior is another kind of disrespectful. He wants to do the right thing here and apologize, and maybe she will forgive him, maybe not, but she, on the other hand, probably has a ridiculous, almost delusional sense of entitlement.

The mature thing would be to at least hear him out. What she does afterwards, is her choice.

She IS entitled...
To R-E-S-P-E-C-T! He's DEFINITELY finding out what it means to her..

"Sorry" doesn't magically fix everything for everyone. Its not about being mature in her case now, its about: "Do I want to go through this sh*t with...HIM?? Does HE have what it takes?? IF she's anything like me.. she's no nonsense.

Come CORRECT or stay away.

...Still waiting on MrVIRGO. C'mon dude.

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c'mon I'm never gonna repeat it. I already feel lower than a worm, don't be to harsh on me. Just want my bull-headed babe to take me back 😢

Posted by BullGem
"Its IMMATURE & SELFISH of you."

Yes, he acted like an immature and selfish douche. But he recognized his mistake and is trying to make up for it. His taurus obviously means enough to him that he'd want to redeem himself.

Do you suppose the mature thing for her to do is to bail without at least talking it out? Even if she chooses to dump him eventually, that does not excuse the fact that she's being incredibly immature herself by avoiding him.

I understand the taurus standpoint to rid yourself of anyone that disrespects you or makes you feel as though you're wasting your time, but her behavior is another kind of disrespectful. He wants to do the right thing here and apologize, and maybe she will forgive him, maybe not, but she, on the other hand, probably has a ridiculous, almost delusional sense of entitlement.

The mature thing would be to at least hear him out. What she does afterwards, is her choice.

ouch! I'm not perfect, neither is she. And it's not like I've treated her like this before.

Posted by BullGem
Mr.Virgo IS coming to correct, that's what he's trying to do. He felt entitled then to stand her up and he is learning the hard way that it's not how it works with a lady bull.

But I don't see how her being equally immature and disrespectful is going to get her that respect. You want respect, act in a respectful way. Avoiding him is stupid and catty.

If she doesn't want to deal with him she can tell him that to his face instead of letting her absence do the job for her. It's cowardly.

In that way, the memory Mr.Virgo will have isn't going to be a nice one. She'll be nothing more than a uppity bitch who left without a single word...not worth respect in my book.

And yeah, 'sorry' doesn't magically fix things, but that's why you work at a relationship after it is said -and hopefully meant. And Mr.Virgo is trying to work on it and I sure hope that he truly is sorry.

I know she has every right to be mad at me. Her silent treatment is turning me into a nervous wreck though. I just wish she'll realize that I'm not Mr. Perfect. I'm bound to screw up sometimes like everyone else.

Posted by TAURUSbelle
Come CORRECT..means to do things right the 1st time. ...yea ppl make mistakes but don't f*ck up with this simple,BASIC, common sense type of situation.

I don't think its over though, they WILL talk again.
She's just annoyed and not trying to hear him right now and just wants her space.

Her tolerance level to BS is VERY low. Sometimes one strike is all it takes. Why carry on when there is always someone else than can and WILL do better, the 1st run through.

I commend Mr.Virgo for "trying", but he's gonna have to do ALOT better and STAY that way.

What I did was stupid I know. I could have just said no when my mates bugged me to join them. -_-

Posted by Torro

Posted by MrVirgo
do Taurus ever change their mind for a partner after they've had their trust betrayed?

No.

She probably won't be coming back around after what you did, I know I wouldn't. But it all depends from person to person, my advice is you better do something fucking breathtaking if you even want her to consider going out with you again.

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I will

Posted by BullGem
You don't seem to get, Mr.Virgo, that I'm sticking up for you. But you have to learn 🙂 Tough love, sweetie.

thanks lol. I do love her and hopefully when she comes back, I'll definitely make it up to her.

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Posted by Torro

Posted by MrVirgo
do Taurus ever change their mind for a partner after they've had their trust betrayed?

No.

She probably won't be coming back around after what you did, I know I wouldn't. But it all depends from person to person, my advice is you better do something fucking breathtaking if you even want her to consider going out with you again.

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Breathtaking...earthshattering..The WORKS.. yup!

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lol. She won't be disappointed.

Posted by robyn808
LMFAO!

This doesn't really have anything to do with being stubborn, IMO she is sparing your life. We don't talk to people when we are angry because we will explode all over their face. 😄

Maybe she's just needs some time to cool off, or maybe she's seriously contemplating her future with you. If she hasn't broken it off already, then she will most likely wait until she's back to a normal state of mind and able to make rational decision.

lol I know what you mean because I've experienced it myself.

Well she's still acting cold and aloof but at least she's replying to my text messages again. I'll wait it out and when the smoke clears, do something very special and romantic for her. I know she's always wanted me to be more romantic.

Posted by MrVirgo

Posted by robyn808
LMFAO!

This doesn't really have anything to do with being stubborn, IMO she is sparing your life. We don't talk to people when we are angry because we will explode all over their face. 😄

Maybe she's just needs some time to cool off, or maybe she's seriously contemplating her future with you. If she hasn't broken it off already, then she will most likely wait until she's back to a normal state of mind and able to make rational decision.

lol I know what you mean because I've experienced it myself.

Well she's still acting cold and aloof but at least she's replying to my text messages again. I'll wait it out and when the smoke clears, do something very special and romantic for her. I know she's always wanted me to be more romantic.

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..Baby Steps on cracked thin ice...SLOOOWLY PLEASE.

Don't tell me you're one of those that are romantic WHEN or AFTER they've F*CKED up— SMH. DO better MRVirgo! Don't be cheap either. Send gifts to her, her favorite things..! The last virgo I dated was A penny pinching, lint picking guy.. ANOTHER Taurus Turnoff. DON'T be that guy.

Posted by Justsomeguy
MrVirgo...good luck in getting her back. I hope you do better than I did with a Taurus, I still miss mine dearly. I don't understand Taurus's because the way you were with yours, I never was with mine. I showered mine with too much with affection and being too available to her. I never stood her up (she did to me a few times), I sent her flowers multiple times, I bought her thoughtful gifts, I got her truffles and other candies she likes, I stayed up with her when she needed to talk, I helped her with whatever I could when she didn't have time, I wrote her poems, I was very romantic towards her, I never hid anything from her, I let her touch me when she knows I don't like people touching me, I let her into my heart, etc...and I guess I was just too predictable for her. Her and I still talk time to time but I don't make first contact anymore, sometimes she gets upset when I give her one word answers and thinks I'm throwing a fit at her...my heart still longs for her, even though she won't just be mine, she still keeps me on the side and it sucks because I know it and she is all my heart desires.

I miss the sweet taste of her lips, the soft touch of her skin, the way her body is shaped and blessed by Venus herself, I miss the way she'd grab me and touch me, I miss the way she would breath on me when we would have long kisses, I miss how just looking into her eyes I feel at home...she told me that she loves the way I touch her and that she doesn't feel pretty but the way I touch her and hold her makes her feel so beautiful. She said it just feels right to be in my arms...

As far as I know, she isn't with another guy (she explained what had happened in the past) and she still likes me, but I just don't get it, if she likes me and doesn't like anyone else, why is she so afraid to give me her heart already? I never have anything to hide from her, I don't have FB, twitter, Myspace, etc and I never hide my phone...:/ the price I pay for other guys's mistakes.

To me, a Taurus would be a perfect partner, I long for that loyalness and passion in the bedroom...good luck MrVirgo

Aww JSG, That was beautiful. I pray your wounds from Taurus heals..let the lessons you've gained from your experience with her guide & prepare you for the next. Don't be too predictable and available..switch things up sometimes. I do hope you find your match soon.

Posted by Gandalf
Taurus woman and a leo man? um.........

Also if you cows are interested here is yours ....

Taurus Female

Gemini Male 1074
Cancer Male 1038
Taurus Male 1031
Virgo Male 1024
Aries Male 1021
Aquarius Male 1005
Sagittarius Male 988
Pisces Male 980
Leo Male 962
Libra Male 962
Capricorn Male 959
Scorpio Male 954

I beg to DIFFER.... I can't STAND Gemini men. Haven't met a Cancer man. I loved a Capricorn/Horse,and a Capricorn/Sheep and I dated a Sagg/sheep. (he broke my heart)

And whyyyy on earth are Scorpios at the very bottom—?
Chinese sign wise...I am DOG and my Scorp is an OX. ..everything is based on Honesty and Trust. The OX makes the Dog's "nervous/anxious" nature, feel secure. He doesnt give me a reason to be Jealous. I love that about him.

Definitely taking this marriage graph with a grain of salt.

Rats are cool ppl. My sister is a Sagg/Rat Her Birthday is today and I'm about to go party with her tonight!! Whoo hoo!!

lol..😄

yea hate IS a strong word.. I just said I can't stand them. So unstable.

Posted by scorchedearth
i'm a rat and i like oxen boars dragons. i haven't met any monkeys yet but i'm sure i'd probably like them too.

Interesting......

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i'm a rat and i like oxen boars dragons. i haven't met any monkeys yet but i'm sure i'd probably like them too.

Interesting......

what's interesting about that, crab? lol

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So what's this about the Ox? 😉

Posted by Gandalf
Good luck in Afghanistan! I hope you return safely without much trouble .

As for your relationship i truly believe you are suffering from what girls call the "nice guy" syndrome. I would read up on it during the tour if i were you. I still think you are simply too accommodating for her. I think you truly deserve a nice girl for your great personality and hopefully you will get on but please work on yourself in the meantime.

Frankly this chick pisses me off and had i been in your situation i would have probably slapped her.

^^lol...Well...TOP of the morning to you TOO, Gandalf!!

@JSG- Focus your mental energies on yourself. You are about to leave.. Being the "yes" man..doesn't work for Taurean women.. gotta say "NO" sometimes. Not only will it challenge them, it will earn your RESPECT for standing up and not being malleable, it makes your "Yes-es" MUCH more appreciated. That goes for everyone. Even children.

Concentrate on attracting someone ELSE who will appreciate you for who you are. IF your mind is still focused on her, guess what? You fuel her to continue to haunt you. KILL the hope that you have attached to her. and her ghost will die.

You are NOT an Option. But the ONE and ONLY choice...(repeat that)...

Thank you for serving our Country.

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i'm a rat and i like oxen boars dragons. i haven't met any monkeys yet but i'm sure i'd probably like them too.

Interesting......

what's interesting about that, crab? lol

So what's this about the Ox? 😉

i love oxen. they're fabulous people! the the only boy i ever dated was an capricorn/ox. we're still best friends. and i also dated a taurus/ox who i got along really well with.

i just really like oxen!

what is your chinese sign, LM?

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Ox 😛

What are good matches for the Ox?