Wiping the slate clean

So we've addressed the fact that Taurus folks have the ability to completely remove someone from their lives if pushed too far, What I want to know is, What happens to those people after you've decided you know longer want to have them in your life?

EX: My boyfriend (scorp) sometimes asks me questions about my previous relationships, My answer more often than not is: "I don't remember" It seems to me that after I've decided that a person will no longer be a part of my life, I forget most if not all things about them. I remember very few details about my past relationships & the things I do remember usually revolve around the final wrong doing that pushed them out of my life. It's as if not only have I made the actual person go "POOF" but all of the memories associated with them as well.

I can look at my daughters father today, & remember very little about ever being in a relationship with him which is sad in a way. It's as if I've had a child with a stranger, but a stranger I spent many years with. My B/F doesn't understand how I can completely wipe someone out of my life & when I say I don't remember, I think, he thinks I'm holding back when in reality....I REALLY don't remember! Any of my other fellow Taurus peoples do this?

Well, I don't do it a lot (maybe 5 people in my life), because most people never get me to that point, but yes. Typically it's friendships, and not romantic relationships where this has happened. I don't hate the person(s) I'm indifferent which means I have no time, energy or inclination to think of them further, so yes, in some respects they "cease to exist" since they are no longer in my life. If someone has really hurt me, I think it's a defense mechanism too, because thinking about them may hurt me, so I kind of "erase" them from my memory to protect myself.

"then you will realise that sometimes - such questions are asked because someone wants to measure up ..., give you what the other have not, or avoid what the other did."

I totally understand this, I said something to this affect in another thread, I too ask about the ex's.....ALWAYS a big mistake BTW LOL at any rate, I don't answer because I simply don't have one. I just don't hold on to things that are no longer important to me I guess? I had a convo with my scorp guy last night about this, He was talking about a ex G/F who cheated on him with a friend/co-worker YET he still has her phone # & speaks to her on occassion. OK I DO NOT comprehend this LOL WHY would you want to remain in contact with someone who KNOWINGLY did something that they knew was going to hurt you?

If someone does something to me knowing that their actions are going to hurt me, When I find out.....They become dead to me, No they don't get to keep me in their life in any way, shape or form. They don't deserve to be graced with my presence LOL I wasn't always like this, I gave out way too many chances in the past, when I was younger but in the last couple years I don't deal with it any longer.

CanTaur

I'm with ya...once I've had it--POOF your gone. Problem is even if I really wanted to bring someone back into my life whom I've POOFED--I don't think I could (Wouldn't trust them). And as for those ex's, It's the same as CanTaur said, I don't remember a thing about our relationships/or minimal amounts except the final deed that made me do away with them. Anyway, I think I know deep down in my subconscious that anyone that has been POOFED in my life--wasn't supposed to be in it anyway.

It's our defence to forget, I do it too and it freaks me out. It's like I have no control of it.

I do the same thing. I will remember "certain" events that took place while I was with that person, but I rarely remember anything about the person. If I see that person again, they look like a stranger to me, an acquaintance but nothing more. I guess that's why I never talk about my past, because I try to never think of it.

"If someone does something to me knowing that their actions are going to hurt me, When I find out.....They become dead to me, No they don't get to keep me in their life in any way, shape or form."

Me too!

I'm a Gemini and this is exactly how i do things but i think more extreme then what i'm reading here... i detach quicker than i started. lol maybe thats why my bull doesn't test me, he knows as fast as he will forget me i will him. but i don't see him ever forgetting me haha :-p and you should see the look i get when i say that to him 😢