Learning to Shut Da Fuck Up On Dates (The CJ and Denise Theory)

Being born with all this Gemini energy as a Cancer - I'm easily quiet, but if you get me talking, I might not stop.

I learned this hard way being on dates and being in relationships... I use to snitch on myself or display verbal weaknesses.

When I was on a date and a girl got quiet on me, I would get nervous - thinking she's losing interest or I'm boring her...

I have talked girls out of being with me, liking me, and fucking me... I just rambled and tried to sell myself.

When I was young I didn't realize my talking was basically selling myself, or being scared of silence. I just thought women love to talk.. So I did the talking.

But I had to realize, my talking is coming from my fears.

A fear that I'm not keeping her entertained.

Fear that she's getting bored.

Fear that she doesn't like me.

So my logic was to keep talking.

When I grew to be more intuitive and better at reading a setting or situation.. I began to wonder "why are girls so quiet"?



As I talked more, the women got quieter.

I find women to be just as silent as men, maybe even quieter than men.

But if it's just you and her, the chances of a woman running her mouth is broader.

Truth is.

Women do love to talk. If you let them.

Mothafuckers got to stop being scared of a little silence...

If a woman gets quiet on you, that's not your Que to bring up another subject.

SHE shut the fuck up. So let HER continue the conversation...

This doesn't mean she's bored, losing interest or doesn't like you.

Sometimes girls shit test this way... When women shittest, they just feeling out your weaknesses.. It's not always deliberate, and I always say women don't know they are shittesting you.

They just do meanie shit, to see how you respond... How weak or strong are you.

In this situation, are you gonna sooth the silence and try to make up for her silence or not give a fuck?

This reminds me of GTA: San Andreas - when CJ began to date Denise, which is the first of CJ's many girlfriends introduced to us in this game.





When you go to pick Denise up... CJ is silent. He says what's up or whatever, and then you don't hear shit from CJ until they drive a few distances away from Denise's house.

Denise then begins to talk, ask questions, talk some more.

For anybody that loves this game and had played it - you remember CJ not saying much..

He would day "Uh-huh".

"I'm listening, honest"

(CJ and his many girlfriends; starting with Denise)



Which will be heard at the @ 00:50 second mark.

I'm not saying to be a dick like CJ and basically ignore her..

I'm just saying let her talk and shut the fuck up.

I like to ask women questions and come with a follow up question after she has answered it.. But I never talk about myself or get to talking too too much.

Most dates, me and a girl won't say a word to each other for the first 40 minutes..

But I bet she breaks the silence before me.

Because I'm not validating the bitch.

She might think I find HER boring, I don't like HER, she thinks I'M losing interest...

And to be honest, that's where you want the power.

Now if you having trouble even making conversation, I would say you thinking too much like CJ ...

CJ only was quiet, not listening and not mentally invested because his mind was somewhere else.

He solely went on these dates to get the ass, eventually.

It don't matter with which girlfriend, CJ was just a player like that.

So if you having trouble with conversation, you need to chill the fuck out and stop thinking about what's to come after the date and what her booty and titties look like.

You gotta pass through a lot of fuckin hoops... You can't just expect to show up and bang.

You ain't turning her own, creating sexual tension, passing her shit test, checking her... Nothing...

Y'all think just showing up isenough, and a girl suppose to fuck you.

Posted by virgoop

i don't know but there was this Cap hookup i had and we both knew we're just gonna bang. but he'd make awkward conversation with me and i had to make him shut up by making a move. sometimes fucking is just more comfortable. talk later whatever.

It sounds like he don't ever get that lucky, and was nervous.

Posted by virgoop

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by virgoop

i don't know but there was this Cap hookup i had and we both knew we're just gonna bang. but he'd make awkward conversation with me and i had to make him shut up by making a move. sometimes fucking is just more comfortable. talk later whatever.

It sounds like he don't ever get that lucky, and was nervous.

yeah it's been a while since we've last seen each other.

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I use to do nervous chatter..

He need more game.. But that's how you took over seduction

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