Unsent notes to the man who doesn't want me.

I am coming to terms with the fact that the man I was in love with didn't share exactly the same feelings I had for him.

I think he is a good man.
I think he was very interested in the beginning,
I think he tried to be as honest and upfront as he could (we are unevolved beings).
I think I wasn't ready to get together with him.
I think I was afraid of being myself once I saw the potential to get hurt.
I am sure I need to work harder on raising my awareness and self esteem.

Anyway, I heard that a good exercise to get your head around a break up (or any hurtful relationship situation) is to write unsent letters to the person concerned.
I write notes from time to time.
Will share them hear in the hope it might help someone.

"I like you, I miss you a lot, but I can't keep on hanging on a string.
We can't meet up, we don't skype, we don't even talk on the phone anymore.
Let's stop messaging, I want to move on to either getting back to the blissiful content estate I was in before meeting you or openning my heart to welcome someone available for me.
No hard feelings. I will always have fond memories.
Much Love"

"Dear T Man
I thought I would be ok with having it casual but I realise now that it doesn't work for me. I will go no-contact after this message so I can keep my emotions in perspective.
All the best.
GF"

"You know, I just thought about it all and I realised that long distance / casual affairs are not for me. I can't see anything changing any time soon so I think it is best if we stop here. I will always have fond memories. xxx"

"A flower requires sunlight, water and nutrients from the soil to grow; however, it also depends on the environment as well as your gardening skills."

"Remember that email? I don't like the lack of communication/attention/care. The distance is also a chalenge for me. It must be my Venus in Aries. I don't have patience specially since I have tried my best. This leads me to think my best isn't good enough, so I just quietly swim away."

Are u supposed to actually send them for the excercise i am going through the same

Posted by goldencrab
Are u supposed to actually send them for the excercise i am going through the same

No, no. nooooooo
Don't. Send. Them. Never.

It is to help you understand your feelings, the way you see him, the way you see yourself.

It will help you be more aware of your true self, of what you want, what you don't want in the next relationship.

It is supposed to show you how your feelings change as you grow. It is for YOU, and your benefit.

It is called UNSENT letters.

Ok?

Fell free to post your unsent letters too.

Oh and in the OP should read 'here' not 'hear'

We need an edit button in this goddamn forum….

Good job starlover!
Congratulationson your freedom!

I keep mine too, so I can remind myself ever until it is ingrained in my psyche. I don't want to make the same mistakes with wrong men over and over and over again.

"I wouldn't be the better woman I am now if it wasn't for you arriving, staying and leaving my life"