Panda92
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A virgo not acting like a Virgo?
You want security?? TELL HIM or LEAVE. ALL this "blah-blah-blah" about him working and gyming it, doesn't matter. What DOES matter is how he's treating you. No number yet?? WHY? and why are you so available for him whenever he beckons, you jump. Free and empower yourself. Virgos value those who value themselves 1st.
Reference: I'm a Taurus who was raised by TWO Virgo Parents, one born in August, the other born in September.
Reference: I'm a Taurus who was raised by TWO Virgo Parents, one born in August, the other born in September.
Well first off, it's doubtful he's a Virgo Sun, Virgo Moon, Virgo Rising, with Virgo Mercury, Venus, and Mars... and all of it in Virgo's 6th house. Basically, he's not 100% Virgo. As Sun, it's his image and strongly noticeable, but it's not ALL that there is. His Virgo could even have 'issues' expressing itself.
That aside, Virgo likes comfort as you do, and finds security in the routine and in things that 'already work'. The messenger 'works' and for all he knows it doesn't bother you, because you haven't asked for a phone number. I know you're the lady, but ASK for it, if you want it. If he holds back that's a red flag to the potential-side-gf you're wondering about, but if he doesn't hold back, problem solved. If he's slightly edgy and his only reason sounds like it's 'out of the routine', tell him you want it for emergencies. Then it's yours. Or even tell him you've been waiting for him to ask. This might baffle him, but it's honest and straightforward, which is nice.
Virgo, as an aspect (pretending that 100% Virgo is what's being talked about), does not provide security. Virgo walks nervously into a brand new space and searches for the things that need improvement, then sets about quietly 'fixing' them. And when stressed, this 'fixing' can take on a whole new critical zeal! Once everything's humming smoothly and easily manageable, Virgo has created 'security' in this act. It might not be the more noticeable security that Taurus craves. Taurus' zest for creature comforts do not come naturally to practical Virgo, but are appreciated. Earth, after all. Creature comforts are yummy. It's more likely you'd create the major securities, and he would fine-tune them to perfection.
He sounds very cuddly! Wanting to be near you doing the seemingly-nothing's in life, and smooching between working, not so 100% focused and lost in his task. You've only known him for a month and so you can't know all of him, but it sounds like you like how he is when he's with you. The major complaints are the potentials. Maybe he does have an ex he thinks about on the side... but if he was pining strongly for her, it's doubtful he'd be so sweet with you. Maybe it's still a sore spot. Maybe it hurts to talk. You're right about the lack of rushing.
That aside, Virgo likes comfort as you do, and finds security in the routine and in things that 'already work'. The messenger 'works' and for all he knows it doesn't bother you, because you haven't asked for a phone number. I know you're the lady, but ASK for it, if you want it. If he holds back that's a red flag to the potential-side-gf you're wondering about, but if he doesn't hold back, problem solved. If he's slightly edgy and his only reason sounds like it's 'out of the routine', tell him you want it for emergencies. Then it's yours. Or even tell him you've been waiting for him to ask. This might baffle him, but it's honest and straightforward, which is nice.
Virgo, as an aspect (pretending that 100% Virgo is what's being talked about), does not provide security. Virgo walks nervously into a brand new space and searches for the things that need improvement, then sets about quietly 'fixing' them. And when stressed, this 'fixing' can take on a whole new critical zeal! Once everything's humming smoothly and easily manageable, Virgo has created 'security' in this act. It might not be the more noticeable security that Taurus craves. Taurus' zest for creature comforts do not come naturally to practical Virgo, but are appreciated. Earth, after all. Creature comforts are yummy. It's more likely you'd create the major securities, and he would fine-tune them to perfection.
He sounds very cuddly! Wanting to be near you doing the seemingly-nothing's in life, and smooching between working, not so 100% focused and lost in his task. You've only known him for a month and so you can't know all of him, but it sounds like you like how he is when he's with you. The major complaints are the potentials. Maybe he does have an ex he thinks about on the side... but if he was pining strongly for her, it's doubtful he'd be so sweet with you. Maybe it's still a sore spot. Maybe it hurts to talk. You're right about the lack of rushing.
Posted by Draumstafir
He sounds very cuddly! Wanting to be near you doing the seemingly-nothing's in life, and smooching between working, not so 100% focused and lost in his task. You've only known him for a month and so you can't know all of him, but it sounds like you like how he is when he's with you. The major complaints are the potentials. Maybe he does have an ex he thinks about on the side... but if he was pining strongly for her, it's doubtful he'd be so sweet with you. Maybe it's still a sore spot. Maybe it hurts to talk. You're right about the lack of rushing.
Yes! Honestly, I really do like him. Which is crazy. Because i never fall for a guy this quickly. I dont believe in love at first sight but this Virgo is definitely different. The first to different! We barely know each other but our chemistry is off the chart. Im taking it slow by not initiating the dates and I dont go find him. Sometimes he will not find me for a few days (i think this is normal for a virgo) and im not bothered by it. But he always comes back.
I heard Virgo are the most loyal. Which makes me think whether he's really cheating or not. The only thing he would explain about his status is that they broke up in 2011 bcs her parents disapproves (racial issues) but they're still close. I dont want to believe his reason straightly thinking he may be only be saying it to sugarcoat things Its working well between us bcs we're from the same race. Probably he's into me cause like u said it works.
Because he wont give me security, i'm making his own actions as my security. Now, i do prefer if he doesn't have my other contact details because if he were to bail, i guess it would be easier to move on since we were only connected through messenger which i can block him. I dont need to worry if he were to bother me at my personal num or email after the relationship. I dont like knowing if there's a chance for him to contact after we were to end. The hope will just tend to disrupt me.
But I need more insight to figure out this Virgo. Does Virgo likes it when the girl is the one who initiate things? And pressuring a Virgo to answer questions (in this case, questions that he wont be comfortable with), is it a good thing? Bcs since its only about to become a month, i dont think its in my place to pressure him. Hmmmm
Maybe by tomorrow some more Virgo Suns will have been online and read this, and can give Sun input. 0:-) I'm not a Virgo Sun, but I do have a 6th house Virgo Moon, Descendent, Vertex, and Ceres. Astrologically this means I'm not going to 'come off' as a Virgo, but it's very near and dear to my heart, and comfortably placed. Even if the emotional core might not be considered 'comfortable' for Virgo. An example of the aforementioned thought, that he could have some very prominent non-Virgo placements at play.
Generally what I've noticed, is that Virgo loves to intellectualize and there is no such thing as a scary question, so long as it's presented logically. But while the mind is lightning fast, brand new subjects can catch one off guard, all full of ideas-that-are-not-yet-words. This will usually get stuttering or general unease, as it's processed. While processing, 'pushing' causes STRESS! Best to come back to it a day or so later. I do this a lot with my friends... I'll be all excited with THE ANSWER (a week later). Of course by then they've lost interest, lol!
Having 'hurty subjects' doesn't sound particularly Virgo, if he's been given the time to process and formulate a good answer for you. Sounds Water-like. No harm in that. It's cuddly!
Being the girl, go ahead and initiate whenever you see fit. ABOVE ALL ELSE do whatever is natural to you, within reason of not attempting to harm others while doing so. Because it's when you are yourself that you attract (and keep) those who are best for you. 🙂
Now... initiating with Virgo is about as useful as initiating with Libra. That = a lot. Why? Libra will debate for hours on which decision is best, so if you 'offer to decide for him' it takes the stress away, most times. Unless he's got his mind set on something, which is essentially rare. Virgo will stick to the tried and true because it's comfortable, rarely venturing out to explore the new. Sometimes it's fear, but more often it's just that from so far away, that unexplored thing doesn't look so very interesting to pull away from the close-at-hand thing that is at least known to be somewhat interesting. But hey, YOU'RE interesting. You're going to such-and-such and you want me along? And I have no tasks that need to be done right now? Well, okay... I can try that potentially-uninteresting thing because you are there and you are interesting. That is how initiating can be very useful.
Generally what I've noticed, is that Virgo loves to intellectualize and there is no such thing as a scary question, so long as it's presented logically. But while the mind is lightning fast, brand new subjects can catch one off guard, all full of ideas-that-are-not-yet-words. This will usually get stuttering or general unease, as it's processed. While processing, 'pushing' causes STRESS! Best to come back to it a day or so later. I do this a lot with my friends... I'll be all excited with THE ANSWER (a week later). Of course by then they've lost interest, lol!
Having 'hurty subjects' doesn't sound particularly Virgo, if he's been given the time to process and formulate a good answer for you. Sounds Water-like. No harm in that. It's cuddly!
Being the girl, go ahead and initiate whenever you see fit. ABOVE ALL ELSE do whatever is natural to you, within reason of not attempting to harm others while doing so. Because it's when you are yourself that you attract (and keep) those who are best for you. 🙂
Now... initiating with Virgo is about as useful as initiating with Libra. That = a lot. Why? Libra will debate for hours on which decision is best, so if you 'offer to decide for him' it takes the stress away, most times. Unless he's got his mind set on something, which is essentially rare. Virgo will stick to the tried and true because it's comfortable, rarely venturing out to explore the new. Sometimes it's fear, but more often it's just that from so far away, that unexplored thing doesn't look so very interesting to pull away from the close-at-hand thing that is at least known to be somewhat interesting. But hey, YOU'RE interesting. You're going to such-and-such and you want me along? And I have no tasks that need to be done right now? Well, okay... I can try that potentially-uninteresting thing because you are there and you are interesting. That is how initiating can be very useful.
You really, positively, can't judge loyalty based on a Sun Sign alone. And it's likely that after only one month, he's as hesitant as you are about the loyalty of the relationship, and for the same reasoning as you. He may even, honestly, be still checking the website to see who else might come along, because neither of you are 'exclusive' yet. Is he going to outright tell you? Well, seeing you storm off, yell, or cry, is counterproductive to continuing an attempted relationship with you. If you seem calm and rational, and not angry, just neutral-curious, probably. To him, YOU might lose interest and bail, and he might need a Plan B. He's been hurt before, too. What's he asking you to do? Come read books at his place while he does paperwork. How many girls jump with excitement at that? Not many. How many would continue to, for the long haul? Fewer still! Those who do would be keepers, for sure. The percentage is SMALL. Even though it IS what life tends to be like after the dating phase is over, the percentage of girls who want to be wined and dined, or at least excited by inexpensive sight seeing, is HIGH. Is he going to keep his window open, in the event you bore of him and might bail? Probably, until he's sure you'll stay a very long time.
That's more practicality than 'playing' when it comes down to how many non-Virgo's really do tire of Virgo simplicity over time. Yet he won't want it to hurt you IF he's doing it. The one I'm dating kept his open for a long time. It bothered me, but I didn't push. He's bored of it now.
If you want him to shut that window and seal it, you have to be 'exclusive'. And if he is of the loyal sort, exclusiveness after a short time frame may be a scary thing. But putting the subject out there as a thought to consider (letting him know you'd like it) is harmless. Though so you know, many of us don't have the sort of energy it takes to invite multiple people over to our HOUSE (each separate from the other) as many times as he does for you, so that's a pretty danged good sign right there. 🙂 Especially since he's doing that, yet NOT trying to get in your pants! And I say this as a girl in the same boat as you... the number of suitors dwindles when that door has its big red X. But when it's important to you, it's worth it. You hang on to that for as long as you see fit. The day will be more special when it comes, because the man would have to be a patient sort who never tried to hurt you along the way.
That's more practicality than 'playing' when it comes down to how many non-Virgo's really do tire of Virgo simplicity over time. Yet he won't want it to hurt you IF he's doing it. The one I'm dating kept his open for a long time. It bothered me, but I didn't push. He's bored of it now.
If you want him to shut that window and seal it, you have to be 'exclusive'. And if he is of the loyal sort, exclusiveness after a short time frame may be a scary thing. But putting the subject out there as a thought to consider (letting him know you'd like it) is harmless. Though so you know, many of us don't have the sort of energy it takes to invite multiple people over to our HOUSE (each separate from the other) as many times as he does for you, so that's a pretty danged good sign right there. 🙂 Especially since he's doing that, yet NOT trying to get in your pants! And I say this as a girl in the same boat as you... the number of suitors dwindles when that door has its big red X. But when it's important to you, it's worth it. You hang on to that for as long as you see fit. The day will be more special when it comes, because the man would have to be a patient sort who never tried to hurt you along the way.
Posted by Draumstafir
You really, positively, can't judge loyalty based on a Sun Sign alone. And it's likely that after only one month, he's as hesitant as you are about the loyalty of the relationship, and for the same reasoning as you. He may even, honestly, be still checking the website to see who else might come along, because neither of you are 'exclusive' yet. Is he going to outright tell you? Well, seeing you storm off, yell, or cry, is counterproductive to continuing an attempted relationship with you. If you seem calm and rational, and not angry, just neutral-curious, probably. To him, YOU might lose interest and bail, and he might need a Plan B. He's been hurt before, too. What's he asking you to do? Come read books at his place while he does paperwork. How many girls jump with excitement at that? Not many. How many would continue to, for the long haul? Fewer still! Those who do would be keepers, for sure. The percentage is SMALL. Even though it IS what life tends to be like after the dating phase is over, the percentage of girls who want to be wined and dined, or at least excited by inexpensive sight seeing, is HIGH. Is he going to keep his window open, in the event you bore of him and might bail? Probably, until he's sure you'll stay a very long time.
That's more practicality than 'playing' when it comes down to how many non-Virgo's really do tire of Virgo simplicity over time. Yet he won't want it to hurt you IF he's doing it. The one I'm dating kept his open for a long time. It bothered me, but I didn't push. He's bored of it now.
If you want him to shut that window and seal it, you have to be 'exclusive'. And if he is of the loyal sort, exclusiveness after a short time frame may be a scary thing. But putting the subject out there as a thought to consider (letting him know you'd like it) is harmless. Though so you know, many of us don't have the sort of energy it takes to invite multiple people over to our HOUSE (each separate from the other) as many times as he does for you, so that's a pretty danged good sign right there. 🙂 Especially since he's doing that, yet NOT trying to get in your pants! And I say this as a girl in the same boat as you... the number of suitors dwindles when that door has its big red X. But when it's important to you, it's worth it. You hang on to that for as long as you see fit. The day will be more special when it comes, bec
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We met online and we communicate through a messenger; no phone number, no emails, no following on social network. Just instant messaging through the messenger. But yet, he asks me out quite frequently and willingly to pick me up from my place. But again, he didnt ask for my num at all. And we've went out together for 5 times in less than a month duration, all of which he initiated.
What puzzles me is that, I read virgo are distant and cold. I dont feel it with this guy. He keeps coming back. He asks me out alot. He gives me long hugs and sweet kisses all the time. He likes looking at me (always caught him doing this). And he even prolong our dates to spend more time with me. (eg: he said the date would just be lunch. But later invite to stay for tea, then dinner, then movie)
Other than that, I read Virgo are so into their work. They wont let anyone bother them or get in their way. I date another Virgo guy before who asked me to leave cause its his gym time. This guy invited me to stay at his place for the night to accompany him to finish his Master reports that was due in two days. So there he was doing his work, me reading a book on his bed and him occansionally come to kiss me and then continue with his work.
I know Virgo dont rush into things. And i know he's not rushing (bcs he didnt ask for my num yet anyway) but he looks pretty confident with me. But why is he, in some ways, holding back? But this is less than a month process. He didnt ask for sex either (maybe cause I'm a virgin and holding strong to it). But the main problem is, i think he may have a girlfriend but he doesnt want to clarify it. If i ask, he would divert the subject or just give a vague answer. Thats more f*cked up. Cause i really like him. And he looks like he likes me. But whats up with this Virgo?! Spending quite alot of his time and effort for me but yet dont want to move it forward. Is there a chance that he's playing me? 😢