Another one bites the dust?

Well, I'm really confused as to what to think so if you could PLEASE help me, that'd be appreciated.

First, it all started by me telling Mr. Virgo that I liked him. Apparently, he got a little weirded out, not in bad way according to him, but it was shocking. He had recently just got out of a serious relationship that last over a year. He said he isn't looking for a relationship right now, but if love comes along he isn't going to pass it up. (even threw in that I do have a chance with him) Everything got a little rocky, but now we're really good friends.

Just recently I kind of gave the impression that I'd given up. He just started to seem like a different person then what I'd expected him to be, and I got tired of the mind games. He is WAY more experienced than I am, to say the least. Which it bothers me to a point, but it's not something I completely hold against him. On that note, because I wanted to get over liking him, my friend and I kissed at a party that Mr. Virgo was at as well. And to my stupidity, he was the first one to see us. The next day Mr. Virgo claimed he wasn't bothered by it, but he kept bringing it up. Enough times to annoy the shit out of me. A couple days later we talked about it. He said I hadn't ruined my chances with him by kissing my friend. Which at this point I wasn't really worried about it anymore. I told him that I'm not going to wait for him. If someone comes along then that's good for me, and the sames goes for him. We agreed that if it's meant to be, it'll be.

During this time, a little issue keeps occuring. My friends I introduced him to keep bringing up him and me up in conversations that are awkward, because we keep our private lives to ourselves and each other. He seems to really get bothered by it. He just says we're just good friends. We haven't done anything, except kissing each other on the cheeks. We do sleep in the same bed, cuddle, and talk about all sorts of things (personal, intimate, random). But just the other night, my friends had brought the subject up again and he got weirded out I guess. He ended up sleeping elsewhere. He blamed it on him being tired, and feeling bad for keeping me up when I have to work early the next morning. Which I don't really believe. I guess I'm saying that I don't know what's going on. My best friend is really worried about me because he tells me one thing and everyone else another. She doesn't want to see me get hurt. Any advice?

The best advise is to stay clear until he figures it out for himself. Obviously he isn't comfortable with other people knowing that you guys *could* be intimate. This is a tale tell sign that he isn't into you. But, you have to consider that he's gotten out of a relationship. The last thing that he is thinking about right now is pussy..... what he is thinking about is what he did wrong to lose the girl that he WAS intimate with. Allow him to turn to you as a friend. That's what he needs right now. He's confused by females right now, and you're adding to his confusion. He probably doesn't want any extra pressure right now, and he's being respectful towards you by giving legit excuses rather than blow up at you. So, obviously he does care about you............

As for you baiting him over kissing your friend.... you did that on purpose to see how he would react. It was a silly game, but obviously you got the reaction that you wanted out of him. If he keeps bringing it up, it's not because it's bothering him, it's because he's baiting you to see what your thought process was behind your action. And he probably got the answer that he was looking for. If it was something that was really bothering him, he wouldn't bring it up at all. Noticed how no virgos have responded to your thread yet?? It's because the very nature of your post is bothersome.... you are messing around with someone's emotions, and toying with their head.

Ok I don't know how to do the copy and paste from people's posts so I'll just do it all in one post.

Let*It*Be:
I know how I wrote I made it sound really bad, but I was getting annoyed with the fact that he kept playing games with me, so I did it to him. It wasn't a repetitive thing. It was just those couple things. But I've learned my lesson, trust me. As for the mind games, he would tell me I had a chance with him and that kind of stuff. Then he would tell my friends that it would never happen. He admitted to saying that because he "didn't want them all up in his business", and if he said possibly, "they would ask a million questions". I don't know, I just didn't get it. But yes we did agree that if someone better comes along then so be it. But I guess I was trying to let my feelings subside and they got the best of me. And no, my friends know what he's been telling me. They weren't very happy with him.

We talked about a lot of this today. He did admitt to leading me on and he apologized for it. He said that he isn't looking for a relationship, which I already knew. But I don't think I can be friends with somebody that I like. It would probably be better if I cut my losses. I know it sounds selfish, but this isn't the first time I've been down this road. (everytime I tried staying friends it ended badly) He was practically begging to stay friends because I'm "down-to-earth, fun to hang out with, chill, not afraid to try to anything new, etc." He didn't want lose me as a friend. He considers me a best friend, which I didn't know. I thought I was just a good friend. He kept telling me he wanted to work things out, and he wants me to try to stay friends. But he was still going back-and-forth between only being friends and the "future" spiel. I'm still lost. I guess I'd rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. It'll hurt, but what the hell, I've been through worse. Any ideas?

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

ya all make me feel bad about being a virgo. we all don't use people to gain knowledge.

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