LarsC
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Breakup with a Virgo girl
She loves you, she always will
Posted by TrifleYes, she had said timing was off....she waited, plans never concreted. Guess she just wants to cut her losses as I'm still occupied looking after family. I never cheated on her, but because last year I was neglective and became working harder and under stress, I think that broke the last straw.Posted by LarsCDid you even ask her the very reason she wanted to break up with you (no assumptions)?
The girl I was with has Virgo Sun and Libra Venus (me Leo Sun and Virgo Venus) and wondering if she suggested a break – I'm guessing it's likely final?
We got along superb for many years with romance and love/care/support for each other, but because this year I was stressed with emotions of family and busy working for something of our future, I neglected to be romantic and caring to her. She tried being there for me but seems I just forgot to reciprocate my love to her. My stupidity. I also poured myself into work to make more money because of wanting to move to be with her.
Then suddenly without discussing she just broke up with me. I did ask her if she loves me and she said yes,....but whether this love is just an object that is now shelved away and cannot be brought back to see light of day.
Can anyone with her similar signs tell me what she maybe thinking? I know she's been keeping herself busy. When I text her, I think she's being polite to reply. Otherwise, she doesnt instigate txt to ask me how i am etc. I know it's too much to ask.
I guess I need to accept reality and understand that she's done with me... 😢
Did you both do something to somehow salvage the relationship before the breakup happened?
If she's being polite with you post-break up then just take it as a posituve sign that she is civil with you and does not hold grudge against you...if she's not initiating anything with you, it's because she is starting to move on with her life since having the realization that you are not doing anything from your end to woo her back...click to expand
Posted by TrueFantasywe leos are such suckers and fall hard as we are fixed signs...still patiently waiting, in hopes of a reconcilliation or possible a chance in the future, especially if it was factors out of our hands and not a compatibility issue. ...and i have been telling her how much i've miss n love her 😢
She's moving on. I have a strong feeling she replied to be polite but at least you're in a good place in her heart.
Posted by Triflei thought similar... virgos are very accountable/responsible but maybe lack communication skills? had hoped if she had problems with how i neglected or how me having her wait is an issue, she should red flag it in my face. i would definitely smarten up my act. but still no excuse on my part for neglect so i blame myself mostlyPosted by LarsCWouldn't love be put into a test when hardships occur in a relationship. The fact that she left you when the going gets tough, means that her love for you is not that strong and she's just not meant for you.Posted by TrifleYes, she had said timing was off....she waited, plans never concreted. Guess she just wants to cut her losses as I'm still occupied looking after family. I never cheated on her, but because last year I was neglective and became working harder and under stress, I think that broke the last straw.Posted by LarsCDid you even ask her the very reason she wanted to break up with you (no assumptions)?
The girl I was with has Virgo Sun and Libra Venus (me Leo Sun and Virgo Venus) and wondering if she suggested a break – I'm guessing it's likely final?
We got along superb for many years with romance and love/care/support for each other, but because this year I was stressed with emotions of family and busy working for something of our future, I neglected to be romantic and caring to her. She tried being there for me but seems I just forgot to reciprocate my love to her. My stupidity. I also poured myself into work to make more money because of wanting to move to be with her.
Then suddenly without discussing she just broke up with me. I did ask her if she loves me and she said yes,....but whether this love is just an object that is now shelved away and cannot be brought back to see light of day.
Can anyone with her similar signs tell me what she maybe thinking? I know she's been keeping herself busy. When I text her, I think she's being polite to reply. Otherwise, she doesnt instigate txt to ask me how i am etc. I know it's too much to ask.
I guess I need to accept reality and understand that she's done with me... 😢
Did you both do something to somehow salvage the relationship before the breakup happened?
If she's being polite with you post-break up then just take it as a posituve sign that she is civil with you and does not hold grudge against you...if she's not initiating anything with you, it's because she is starting to move on with her life since having the realization that you are not doing anything from your end to woo her back...
The timing was off was a lame excuse just to get an out from your relationship. She should have told you that she felt neglected if that truly is the reason why she left you so that you could have done something to remedy the situation before the breakup happened.click to expand
Posted by DivaCanLeoYou can have love for someone and not want to date them.Posted by Sunsetvirgothat sounds trifling. she loves you but she doesn't want to be with you
She loves you, she always willclick to expand
Love can sometimes morph from romantic to just purely affection.
Posted by bubbythewhale1Thanks very much for your input. Are you guys still...together?
I have a virgo sun libra venus & my ex has a leo sun virgo venus, we broke up A LOT.
Not sure what made us keep trying but we eventually moved in together, I wanted to talk through our issues first but he made it seem like what's more important is A) knowing whether im coming with B) making a plan and working towards it, I felt like my feelings weren't taken into account, I respected that he was trying hard to move to the next step but I felt like whats the use in building if the foundation is crumbling.
Moving together didn't solve our problems, he became really busy so I tried to keep myself busy too... got a job & made friends, spent more time with my coworker since he was always busy and the energy at home was uncomfortable majority of the time. There was a lot of love in the relationship but there was also a lot of pain.
My situation may not be like yours at all, I was willing to communicate but he had severe trust issues and it was like walking on eggshells discussing things with him at times. If you two generally communicate well I think talking face to face with minimal judgement from both sides would help no matter what you two decide.
I'm the open one who was telling her how to express her feelings so we can know each other better for better foundation. We are both very patient and nurturing. And she did learn to open up. We were very stable, barely any fights, mostly just tiny disagreements, we both have libras in our planets so we like keeping the peace and manners intact. We never have trust issues such as cheating etc.
Now that we are on FRIEND status, she is closed off so i dont feel right to pressure or pry into her feelings. I know it's one-sided but I emailed her few times with my thoughts and apologies....such as, sometimes my responses may come off as unappreciative/selfish when I thought I was being considerate. I'd said i give her space and let her go if she wants. She didnt respond...*shrug*
guess like most said, take it as a big loss and move on. =______='
Posted by starwarsI get what you mean...i'm looking after a terminally parent, a waiting game. No one else is available to look after her. The Virgo was willing to wait at first but my mom is still here and she basically gave up now. I didnt want to burden her with my responsibilities. Actually I understand that she ended it also for my sake.
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so you already know the reason behind the break up, yet you did nothing about it leaving her to her assumptions?
explain yourself and motives if you want to work things out, if not just let her be cuz it seem like she's moving on
Maybe I dont know if I can offer anything at this moment so it comes off as i'm dilly dallying.
Posted by starwars: ) Thanks.Posted by LarsCsorry to hear about your mom, hope things get better.Posted by starwarsI get what you mean...i'm looking after a terminally parent, a waiting game. No one else is available to look after her. The Virgo was willing to wait at first but my mom is still here and she basically gave up now. I didnt want to burden her with my responsibilities. Actually I understand that she ended it also for my sake.
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so you already know the reason behind the break up, yet you did nothing about it leaving her to her assumptions?
explain yourself and motives if you want to work things out, if not just let her be cuz it seem like she's moving on
Maybe I dont know if I can offer anything at this moment so it comes off as i'm dilly dallying.
I'm sure a Virgo would like to be involved than neglected even if it means 'burden', but if you think this is for best then it is what it is.
best of luckclick to expand
It's my protective Leo side not wanting her to get drained like I do. Most of my thinking lately of being considerate may come across as selfish (ie., still not having married her is me trying to protect her but she may see it as a false promise broken.) You asked very appropriately and honest to say, I cannot offer her anything concrete at this moment.
Guess i'm just wanting to know if Virgos would give a 2nd chance in the future when timing is better? And if I should keep in contact or distant myself until she msg me again?
Posted by DivaCanLeoI know how you see it.Posted by LarsCVirgos always leave when you need them the most.Posted by starwarsI get what you mean...i'm looking after a terminally parent, a waiting game. No one else is available to look after her. The Virgo was willing to wait at first but my mom is still here and she basically gave up now. I didnt want to burden her with my responsibilities. Actually I understand that she ended it also for my sake.
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so you already know the reason behind the break up, yet you did nothing about it leaving her to her assumptions?
explain yourself and motives if you want to work things out, if not just let her be cuz it seem like she's moving on
Maybe I dont know if I can offer anything at this moment so it comes off as i'm dilly dallying.
Why would you want her? She sounds grossclick to expand
I justify it this way: it's having a big ass DEBT that i'm responsible to pay off. But if marrying her means she will be constricted in her enjoyment of life with my burden...how much do I also love her?
Posted by starwarsThanks starwars, it was on peaceful terms. Will do just that.Posted by LarsCI give 2nd chances if the person didn't intentionally hurt me, idk depends on your guys dynamic and whether you end it on good or bad terms.Posted by starwars: ) Thanks.Posted by LarsCsorry to hear about your mom, hope things get better.Posted by starwarsI get what you mean...i'm looking after a terminally parent, a waiting game. No one else is available to look after her. The Virgo was willing to wait at first but my mom is still here and she basically gave up now. I didnt want to burden her with my responsibilities. Actually I understand that she ended it also for my sake.
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so you already know the reason behind the break up, yet you did nothing about it leaving her to her assumptions?
explain yourself and motives if you want to work things out, if not just let her be cuz it seem like she's moving on
Maybe I dont know if I can offer anything at this moment so it comes off as i'm dilly dallying.
I'm sure a Virgo would like to be involved than neglected even if it means 'burden', but if you think this is for best then it is what it is.
best of luck
It's my protective Leo side not wanting her to get drained like I do. Most of my thinking lately of being considerate may come across as selfish (ie., still not having married her is me trying to protect her but she may see it as a false promise broken.) You asked very appropriately and honest to say, I cannot offer her anything concrete at this moment.
Guess i'm just wanting to know if Virgos would give a 2nd chance in the future when timing is better? And if I should keep in contact or distant myself until she msg me again?
if you end it to focus on your lives, then do just that. checking up on each other is harmlessclick to expand
And thanks to everyone else for the replies.
Posted by DivaCanLeoShe probably thinks that the healthiest thing to do is to take a break, and allow him to work and get himself together. As he said, she was there for him a lot, but he kept on pushing her away. That's not healthy.Posted by Sunsetvirgothat sounds trifling. she loves you but she doesn't want to be with you
She loves you, she always willclick to expand
I'm a virgo with libra venus too. What i can say is that i feel like libra venus makes me want balance in a relationship. If i feel like i give too much and you do nothing or so little, im just frustrated and unhappy, borderline depressed. It just makes me want to stop no Matter how a hard Time the other person is having, if i feel like they crossed my tolerance line i just break the relationship. That being said that tolerance is pretty high which means if i leave you must have completely neglected me. And no Matter how strong my feelings are, my virgo brain helps sticking to my decision. That being said i always give second chances if you are really worth it and that there is a radical change of behavior. But you have to be patient and hope i don't fall in love with someone else during the process.
Also, replying to texts at this level is pure politeness depending on the context. If it's small talk, it definitely is.
Also, replying to texts at this level is pure politeness depending on the context. If it's small talk, it definitely is.
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We got along superb for many years with romance and love/care/support for each other, but because this year I was stressed with emotions of family and busy working for something of our future, I neglected to be romantic and caring to her. She tried being there for me but seems I just forgot to reciprocate my love to her. My stupidity. I also poured myself into work to make more money because of wanting to move to be with her.
Then suddenly without discussing she just broke up with me. I did ask her if she loves me and she said yes,....but whether this love is just an object that is now shelved away and cannot be brought back to see light of day.
Can anyone with her similar signs tell me what she maybe thinking? I know she's been keeping herself busy. When I text her, I think she's being polite to reply. Otherwise, she doesnt instigate txt to ask me how i am etc. I know it's too much to ask.
I guess I need to accept reality and understand that she's done with me... 😢