Cancer girl confused by Virgo guy

New here, but hoping for some insight. I recently ran into an ex-boyfriend of mine after many years. We'd split years ago mutually because I'd had a little girl & didn't want to tie him down at a young age himself. Seeing eachother after all these years has been amazing. It's like NO time has passed. We are drawn to eachother, extremely in tune with eachother & have this unbelievable connection. Just as we did all those years ago. In fact, we've both admitted it's a little scary because we're both married..albeit not fully happy but still..we just cant help the way we feel. As a side note, we are simply enjoying eachother's company-there is nothing physical, only emotional as a deep friendship filling voids.He has been very open & honest with me about his feelings & I have done the same, but being a cancer girl, it's very easy for me, so I have only followed his lead, not wanting to scare him away. I'm a FEELER. He is a THINKER. We're geared differently that way, but our connection is undeniable. He has recently learned of the possibility he may be losing his job. This has left him extremely stressed & our contact has dwindled, but not stopped. He has been very open with me about this and even told me he's not pushing me away on purpose, that he just needs to organize his plan of action and isn't much into chatting or talking. I can accept this and I understand it, but the feeling is also lacking from where it was. Being a cancer, my imagination is running wild and I am hoping I haven't scared him away in sharing my feelings for him, as he has done with me. I can give him space, but it's driving me crazy...I'm a nurturer by nature and I feel helpless. For me, if I were in this situation with my job, I would NEED him there for me, but he seemingly needs to work this out on his own.

Is this common for Virgo's? And if you were in this situation with your job, how would handle it? What would you need from me? Space? Time? Support? Would things return to normal when you'd tackled the problem? I just don't know, I'm very confused. Sharing a lot one moment, then not. I don't want to add to his stress, yet it's hard for me to stay away & not offer support but I do want what's best for him. I just don't know what that is? I have never had a connection with anyone like this ever-only with him & it's very special. I feel a sense of loss with the lack of contact from where it was & wonder if it's normal for Virgo's? BTW, he's on a cusp-Leo/Virgo. Thank you

Thank you all so much for reading my post and taking the time to reply....you used my mind and made me feel better. Cajunspirit I really appreciate your input....I had a feeling I was in the right place of where I needed to be and your replies really pulled it all into persective for me. You are right....we are both married yet we have no plans for disrupting our current lives....it's just that we are both seemingly fulfilling an emotional void we have both been missing in our lives for a very long time, despite our efforts to regain that with our repective other's. It's just nice to have someone who understands eachother so well without the restrictions of having to expain, or fight for our feelings where our spouses are concerned....sort of a non-judgemental emotional stability without reserve. Something I have never had with anyone, except for him. For whatever reason, and I don't know how he does it, but he seems to be the only one who can ground me and pull me from my constant dreamy state...he offers me a does of reality without judgement. On the flip side, I seem to enighten his mind and bring a peace to him with all my silliness, dreams and laughter so it's a realy nice balance, very comfortable and one I am not ready to let go of...which is what brought me here. WGMador, you are absoutely right...he did give me those explanations but the moment I saw his struggle, and wan't hearing from him as much, my cancer imagination ran away with me....probably due to the sense of loss I was feeling and not talking to him as much we had been. Silly I'm sure, especially after reading your reply..you're right, he DID tell me.

Ironically tonight, he did email me to let me know to not not worry and to assure me he'd ot forgotten about me. He i working through everything and says he has so much to tell me....he wants to talk to me, or see me this weekend. I guess this cancer girl let her imagination win out this time so I really appreiate the input from you and Cajunspirit. It's nice to know that there are people who are willing to help other's...especially strangers and that makes it even more specia, so, from the bottom of my heart..thank you both. Very much.

I did have to giggle though Cajunspirit..I'm curious as to how us cancer girls baffle you? LOL!!! If I had to venture a guess, it would be our constant dreamy state & need for assurance (when, as in my case, seems totally unecessary, since I had it all along and STILL didn't see it) ;0)

Idk....


Seems you're both putting yourselves in a vulnerable situation for obvious reasons. Given that, I say your expectations ought to be minimal.