Do All Virgos Play Games

I am a Scorpio female and I have had 2 serious relationships and they were both Virgos. The first Virgo I was with for 11 years and for the first 2 to 3 years he cheated on me. I stuck by him and eventually he settled down and things ended up being okay. I ended up splitting with him. I met another guy soon afterwards and we hooked up and a few weeks later I found out he was also a Virgo. We were together for 2 years and towards the end of the relationship I found out that he had been cheating on me with an ex (they had been split up for about a year before I met him) he had been with her prior to me. They had been together for 10 years. Now we have been split up for 2 1/2 years and he has been living with this other woman (Aquarius). He has gone out of his way to make sure that he still communicates with me on a regular basis(so he is cheating in a sense because he is doing it behind her back). He says that he still talks to me because he might split with her and whatever and that he has a plan and he knows what he is doing. My questions are: Do Virgos ever really love a person? Do they always play games? Do they really have things planned out when they say they do? Do Virgos feel like they need more than one person to love them? Does he really keep me around because he has this plan or is he just playing me because he can? Or did I just happen to get 2 Virgos that liked to cheat on me.

Please remember that I loved these Virgos very much.

"Do All Virgos Play Games"

Some of them does, some of them doesn't. They aren't saints and they aren't devils in playing games than any other sign. However, they have all prerequisites to play games.

Anyone no matter what sign will play games if YOU allow them to. This last Virgo male friend of yours has you right where he wants you...a man who truly loves a woman will never leave her - he left you. It appears to me that he does not know what he wants but he does indeed have his "playmates" ready when he wants them.

I really don't mean to sound harsh here and I apologize if I am...The most important thing here is YOU, not him. What do YOU want and need? and honestly, once and more often than not - when a man cheats, he will do it again. Don't think you can change him - only he can change himself.

Bottom line, You sweetie are sending him the msg. that his behaviour is okay and acceptable to you. Why pay for the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Hi! spunkym31

comments:
Do Virgos ever really love a person?
Depends on how you define the term 'really love'. All I can say is my Virgo can love and need a proof of love.

Do they always play games?
Not really. My virgo thinks too much. He is stimuated by thinking.

Do they really have things planned out when they say they do?
Not always. My virgo loves planning. He has his set ideas about soemthing. But, quite often, he can't make a decision.

Do Virgos feel like they need more than one person to love them?
Possible. They need attention. They want to love and beloved. Some are even in love with love. So you can find some virgos who are so loyal to his mate while others are so unfaithful.

Does he really keep me around because he has this plan or is he just playing me because he can?
Hmm...let say you allowed yourself to be included in his plan.

Advice if you need:
You hope he will have a good plan for you in the future so you stay in this relationship? I think he has a plan as far as you fit into his plan. Look long and deep into your love towards him and find the answer. What love is. What your love is. From my experience, love is the key but not the only thing that makes relationship last.

It's your choice, anyway. If you love and believe in him, stay with him and open arms to whatever comes into your life. All you can get at the end is personal growth or a lesson of life. If you feel something imperfect in your relationship, true to yourself. Considering two virgos hurt you with the same reason -- cheating, I think you shouldn't allow yourself to be put in that situation again. Don't be second best. You might have a desperate hope that this man is your soulmate but the best thing to do is walk away.

(so he is cheating in a sense because he is doing it behind her back).

He's not cheating on her with you. I think you need to rearrange your thoughts on that. He does not see it as cheating. Simply because he's not in a relationship with you. I don't know how old this man is, but he sounds immature.
The answer to your orignial question. No, I don't think ALL Virgos play games. You can't make an absolute on that. I have been involved with a Virgo for a number of years and I am also a Scorpio. To get to the heart of it, I think you have to first and foremost ask yourself what you are looking for in someone. A Virgo can seem a little "gamey" and I guess it's that analyzing that they often do. It's kind of like they want to see where your head is. I experienced some of what you went thru' also. In that Virgos do tend to want to hold on to people, even when it's obvious that something is over. Mine did that with me with a Gemini he had been seeing for several years. Until it bit him in the butt. She lived a distance a way and he would only see her every few months or so. Obviously, she thought something was there. But in the end I had to tell him. SHe's not just waiting for you OK? Virgos sometimes have to be hit with a dose of reality about things. She later married someone else and it was someone she had been seeing all along. I stood back and just did nothing. In my case it took something drastic for him to open his eyes. I had a near fatal car crash and then his mother died. I don't have a problem with Virgos I get along with them pretty well. We were friends first, for five years. Then he moved it up a notch and we started to see each other. I find that sometimes they are our of touch with what they are feeling at the time. How I handled it was to let him go and do what he felt he needed to do. I continued to call him sometimes - and we would talk, but I wouldn't allow it to go any further than friendship. Until he could work on himself and I could work on myself. A Virgo can be crazy about you, but until they define it - there is nothing you can do. I stayed because I knew I loved him - it took him a minute to get it. And I have to agree, they are loving, caring, and helpful.

Hello spunkym31,
I'll advise you to cut all ties to him. You see their love is addictive and their looks and sorry nature will make you pity them. Don't be fooled. He's playing games making up with you everytime and wants to keep you as his friend while he's cheating. he will continue cheating because he doesnt know what love his. He doesn't love deeply. He can only love when he wants sex or a big favour from you. He is mercenary.

The worst relationship you can have is with a virgo. Today he's so sweet and all..the next day it's a different story. You want know where you are in the relationship. They are quite unstable and very indecisive. I believe in what someone posted that 'it will be a cold day in hell' when a virgo man decides what they want. Unfortunately all these things about them make them loose nice women. They are not lucky in love trust me.

I think you'll be much happier if you can cut off from him. It will hurt but you'd feel much better. I had the same experience. He's got a new girl in his life and still wants me to be his friend only God knows why. I told him that I know his game and that it was up. He was really a nightmare!

Any body kick back when they find they are just "subject of entertainment", Virgo or not, this Cancerbuddy religiously believe on his BS..

Don?t listen to his crap because what he says is what he believe? not necessary true..!!

Relationship with others means working out and stay patience and understanding.. don?t believe everyone act as the way you like.. or even wish for.!

If your partner, worth your time and effort then stop being selfish and invest the time and efforts needed?. No matter how long will it take!

Other people negativity may destroy something that could be beautiful..!!

Time and efforts?. Also a bit of forgiveness in the process?! Is all you need.

What I call a "brave human being" is whom that accept and respect what or how others are.. Especially in close relationship!

You want to find your way in or out?? Then, you are coward and most probably deserve this and any other problems that might show up in the future.. because its all about YOU and YOU .. and YOU?!

Stop being selfish, if you want to meet the future..!!

How can you judge me when you never let me understanding you.. and worst.. you never let yourself to understanding me in the first place..??

This is where problems starts..

Say Virgo..?? bah?

Hey Ya'll,
Dreamy-Eyez, here. My closest friend is a Virgo, and his love life is very messy. It use to piss me off of how his girlfriends would run to me to cry on my shoulder about their problems with him. I was his "sole confidante" who he bears his soul to out of trust. So, I know him pretty well for the most part. I think the thing that cause him the most problems is holding back his true feelings on things to a point to where it got worst. He saw alot of potential problems, yet he ignored them. Those potential problems eventually grew and started effecting others. I got so pissed off when I get a phone call late at night from his girlfriend, whose sobbing on the other end of the line about him. Then in turn, out of insecurity, she slept with his room mate when he went out of town. Another one of his girl friends was overly controlling and demanding. He cheated on her during a time when he reached a point to where he was thinking of a way to break up with her. I felt sorry for the Leo girl he used as a "tool" to spite his Sagittarian girlfriend. In a way, he did it on prpose because he didn't know how to tell his girlfriend, so he let his actions speak for him. I'm starting to see that it's only the rare few who can actually be happy with a Virgo. So for all the people who have bad experiences with a Virgo, just consider yourself as "Not the One". Dreamy-Eyez, out.

"Other people negativity may destroy something that could be beautiful..!!"

Thanks for bringing back a balance, Qbone. There are times when I read virgo board my heart was so moved by these love hurts. I feel sorry for them and I'm afraid these things could happen to me some days. What keeps me neutral is looking back at the essence of "relationship" and be objective.

When negativities meet positivities, there's a balance on board :-)

maymaid

For one thing, if virgos are such bad bad guys why people find it's so hard to walk away from them? I'm curious about that.

I am not so sure about Virgo thing.. or start sign's chart stuff..

I like to be what I am and I love to be who I am? people are different? I have said it million times.. and still do? it's all depends on cultural/education/race/societies? etc..

Virgo stuff? or star sign stuff is chasing the rainbow and you will never know the truth.

The real truth is inside you.. find it

This horrible things will never happen if you are wise enough to know that people are different and their will power may differ from your own..

You have your dreams about your future? they also have their own dreams.. sometimes?. Most of the times those dreams are compatible with each other.. but.. sometimes they are not..

We are not here to judge ourselves and our actions.. we are different.. remember..??

Virgo or not?

And believe me maymaid

Most of those complains are made by drama queens and also staged (faked) information.. don?t believe for what you read?

Some resident of this board are way stupid than you think.

The lead is...

If you are serious enough in your questions, then you mostly persuade about your inputs.. And at the end you will be convinced or not.!

Others just put something to "say something"? based on nothing..!! I call them idiots..!

and no worries.. i defend at best i can here..

THAT'S RIGHT!!! WHAT HE SAID!

Dreamy-Eyez, out.