Fighting with my Virgo mom

I'm aries. The problem was school -- a few weeks ago I missed three days because I was sick and I only told her about one of the absences. Which was wrong, I know, but I can't stand listening to my mom yell at me, or forcing me to go to school when I'm really not fit too. I've needed to see a doctor since August. When I told her this, she told me I was lying about being sick to get out of cross country (obviously, if I wanted out of a sport, I would just quit, not lie about needing a doctor).

Then I got so sick I was forced to quit the team. Still my mom didn't even try to get me to a doctor until three months later, and when we finally went there was an issue with insurance, and I didn't get to see one. Two months later I still haven't seen the doctor, and shocker, I'm sick again. My mom still thought I was lying so I missed school.

Finally I proved to her I was unnaturally sick by taking before and after pictures of "cycles" when I'm sick. For 2-3 weeks at a time (before my period) I gain over 15 pounds of water weight. I took a picture, two weeks apart, one when I was 135 lbs and the other I was suddenly 150 and she finally believes me and makes it a serious goal to take me to the doctor.

The school just barely called her about the absences and we get into a huge fight about it tonight. She acts like her refusing to take me to a doctor wasn't a big deal, even though I apologized about not telling her about the absences. Then she brings up how I used to skip school over a year and half ago, (a stupid phase I went through) a resolved issue, to somehow prove that I am wrong now, even though the situation is entirely different. I only missed two days (I didn't tell her about). But she has to act like she did nothing wrong, and it's all my fault because I have the track record. I wish she would focus on the now and forget about the past already!

Now were not talking and I don't know how to approach the situation. I'm sick of her never-wrong attitude and bringing the past into present situations to make her 100% right, when it just isn't always so.

She sounds like she feels horribly guilty. We can be quite the stubborn and overly-proud sign, and if we feel our egos stand a chance of getting bashed (Virgos hate to be wrong, we really do) we'll sometimes act a fool (silent treatment, or blaming others instead) in retaliation. She'll come around, because she was WRONG, and she has to face up to it.

If you WANT to (only if you want to, I don't think you should have to) you might try to approach her and talk calmly. No faultfinding, no fingerpointing, and just talk about the issue itself, and what you think is the best thing to be done to help you get healthy again. She'll break, lol. We hate to be mad at people (well, us females. We would rather just be cordial than to be enemies), so I can only imagine she'll turn into mush, and apologize shortly thereafter.

I'm so sorry to hear about how sick you are though, and wish you a speedy recovery 😢

My mom is a Virgo also, she is exactly the same way. Maybe its my rebellious nature, but the more she tried to force me not to/to do something, the more I fought it. We get along a LOT better now that I live 1000 miles away. She really just wants whats best for you, and in her mind, (virgos!) it is Go to School, Go to College, Get a Career, Get Married, Have Kids, Die.

I just wanted to let you know that it is possible that your mother has alot going on things you would not know about or even think of...It's also said that aries and virgo's don't get along. I know that to be a lie since it usually only happens when it's someone the aries does get along with more or less. I am VIRGO so I'm sure it's possible for her to be going through other things and dealing with alot more than you might know.
As for for not taking you to the doctor is something strange for me since I know I would have but it's possible like the other person replied as that she will change her mind about the issue.Just like as for the most part some of us do not like to be lied too especially if the truth is being told because of being blamed for things also.You might feel blamed wrongly but it might be about somethings you have yet to understand about your mother.

Virgos are right. Period. Appeal to our sensitive side, and make us feel that you are in need of guidence, advice, or something to that affect..then maybe, just maybe, you'll get your point across. 🙂