Having a fling with a Virgo man

Hi guys, I'm seeing a virgo man. I really don't know much about them but he seems arrogant which I hate and I also understand that he's 7 years my junior so he's got some growing up to do. He's educated and we have good intelligent conversations. I told him that all I want from him is the physical part and he said ok but I could tell that he was surprised by this. Now the question is because I live in a smallish town can virgos be trusted to keep secrets. Basically I don't want him to C*** block me when I'm actually ready to meet a guy I wanna be in a relationship with. BTW he's very attractive-like an 8 on a 10 scale so lots of girls go after him but I'm also pretty attractive.

Can they be trusted to keep a secret and not get jealous if i meet someone else in the future.

He's 25 and I'm 32. We have a similar educational background and that's where we connect. I hear him say things like, "I want you to call me intelligent" when I refer to how attractive he is. I told him that he has to earn that compliment. I worry because in the past one guy turned really nasty on me after I stopped seeing him and still talks about me to everyone. He was hurt because he said I love you and i said I've met someone else that I wanted to date (now my ex). That guy is a lot older. He made my life hell for a while and still tries to do that. I was very straight forward with him too.

Posted by undefined
He could want to brag about it afterwards. Not wise in a small town. Hate small towns for that crap. So much goss.

Your right but I've kinda a year without sex because I'm scared of this crap in a small town but I'm missing that physical thing. I've never heard him talk about his past conquests so I really am crossing my fingers here.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Not a Virgo, but every one I've known was good at minding their own business. They've also had Scorpio placements or prominent Pluto aspects so not sure how much, if any, that played into it.

I'd say to watch out for human nature though. People tend to want what they can't have.

Here is the deal.....This guy is, a greater than 8 looking dude....So very naturally all she wants is sex....no relationship. She needs a, less than 5 for a relationship.

So sad...

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That's not true. I tend to fall for guys who have more to offer then mere physical attractiveness. I appreciate beauty but there is some arrogance in him that I don't like. I'm a very kind person and very accepting but I am cautious due to past hurts. I also think that he is much more suited to be with someone who is about 24, 25 because I remember being 25 and not being sure of my place in the world. I see that in him and he needs to find his own path. He's been after me on and off for 2 years but I was in a relationship and for the last year I just wasn't ready for anything physical or emotional. Anyways, thank you for the comment regardless.

Posted by undefined
I hope for your sake too.. but it doesn't mean his buddies don't know... he probably wont want to speak about other women to a current one he is sleeping with. idk. it sucks. people are people at the end of the day.

I know couple of his friends know but that's because he was being unusually affectionate with me in front of his friend which my friend calls marking his territory. Nothing big but just touching my leg and sitting too close to me. Ugh just don't want potential husband materials to get scared off and him to become clingy. I'll keep you all posted as I see him again on Friday night.

Posted by beautifulday
Hi guys, I'm seeing a virgo man. I really don't know much about them but he seems arrogant which I hate and I also understand that he's 7 years my junior so he's got some growing up to do. He's educated and we have good intelligent conversations. I told him that all I want from him is the physical part and he said ok but I could tell that he was surprised by this. Now the question is because I live in a smallish town can virgos be trusted to keep secrets. Basically I don't want him to C*** block me when I'm actually ready to meet a guy I wanna be in a relationship with. BTW he's very attractive-like an 8 on a 10 scale so lots of girls go after him but I'm also pretty attractive.

Can they be trusted to keep a secret and not get jealous if i meet someone else in the future.

You most likely need to learn this lesson... but no... I think you will do it anyways and guys... or the better ones will look at you different if you have been loose just because a guy is attractive. It is the same with a man who has money... It is like they think people with not saying anything if they have a sugar baby. They will just not to his face and everyone will know...

You need to deal with your own prime self and raise your awareness not to let it control you. Grow up

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Is there not a different pool you can fish from? If you only want something physical, it's best not to shit where you eat and it sounds like word gets around fast where you live.

Also, if this is just about the hang n bang, I'd nix public displays of affection. It's the actions of someone who either sees you as something more or sees you as an object. Both of those scenarios have the potential to end badly.

Its a sad state of affairs here that there is not much out in this town as of now. Everyone waves and knows everyone. I moved here from a big city so I'm still trying to figure this small town stuff out. We have more girls than boys here which makes it even harder.

Good idea on public displays. I figured I'll completely avoid him besides saying a polite hello in public. Because its a small town we all run into each other all the time. i can see my ex's workplace from my window-can you imagine how hard that was to get over.

Thanks for the advise 🙂

I saw him last night and we talked and joked around. I was very direct with him and we discussed what we wanted and he said I look too stable and the type who wanted a husband. i said I do but I also know that your not that guy for me but I enjoy your company. I told him that he should have fun because 25 is pretty young and he agreed. I told him that its ok if he meets someone else but to just let me know and I'll be good and I'll do the same.

We shook hands on that. I think this conversation was the most direct I've been with anyone. Maybe his virgo directness is bringing that out in me.