How do you know if Virgo is interested in you?

I have a problem figuring out a Virgo male. We are both in our late 20's. I haven't know him that long yet. We met in late January, and almost from the beginning I found him fascinating. I'm an Aquarius so I'm always curious about everything. In many ways, I feel he understands me very well and I him. He has said that he likes me very much. Then, another time, he says he sees me as a good friend (he goes back and forth). Friends are very important to me so I don't mind him and I being friends. What I don't understand is in the beginning there was a lot of talking and text messages. In the middle of the month of February the text messages became less and less because he had to go to work. He works at sea and is gone for weeks at a time. When he was going to go to work at sea, I figured I had lost him. Why would he hold contact with me? I won't see him for months. Strangely enough, he has kept his word. He doesn't text message really anymore. What he likes to do now is call me at least once a day and talk. He is very open about himself and sometimes I don't understand why. Is he testing me? If he only sees me as a friend, why be so frank? Last weekend, he was out partying (there was a weekend break from working)and he called me early Friday, Friday night, early Saturday, Saturday night and early Sunday. All the times he was drunk and very talkative. Normally, he isn't drunk when he calls.I knew he had called the right person as he knew my name without me ever saying it once. I'm I misunderstanding his actions? Does he like me but doesn't want to get hurt because he wants to get to know me and thinks I'll reject him? Is he saying one thing about being friends but actually wants more than friendship? I have told him, I've experienced pushy and aggressive guys and I'm not fond of them. Could this be the reason why he could be playing cool? I must say I do like him very much but I don't exactly know where I stand. I wonder him being cool is to keep me guessing. He has said he's worried he will bore me. I told him I didn't think that would ever happen. I was right. In fact he is the complete opposite of me. I think that is why opposites attract.

If anyone could come with some advice, it would be greatly appreciated as I wonder if he is afraid he's falling for me. Thanks.

Thank you Virgotome in responding to me. I have to say what you wrote really got me thinking and Aquarians can think a lot. I never really thought of it that way. He is still confusing to me. I have read about Virgos on this site and he seems to be a typical Virgo. I read somewhere on this site that Virgos like to talk about ex-girlfriends and boy does this guy. He has an ex-girlfriend he says he just can't get over. He says he never falls in love but this girl is the one for him because he fell for her. I really don't understand why he tells me this. He is still at work and phones me practically every day. He says he loves and hates her at the same time. I listen because he really seems comfortable in telling me about her. I have also read someone wrote that Virgo talk about ex-girlfriends because they want you to know what mistakes have been made and so they aren't made again with the new person. From what I understand from him, the girl is a real winner (I mean that to be ironic). He says she is very loose when drunk and always has guys around her. I can't understand why he feels she is the one for him when he can't trust her. I haven't fallen for him, although I do like him as a very good friend. Besides, I don't want to play second fiddle to some other girl.

Can anyone explain if the way he is behaving is normal for Virgos? Are Virgos so hung up on one girl? If so, why would he talk about her in such a negative way to another girl?

I would appreciate for any advice as I would like understand why he behaves the way he does. Thanks.

I know what you're saying Virggotome. I've read when it comes to ex-girlfriends, Virgo gets over them quickly and doesn't look back. I don't understand. Why does he talk to me about her? From what I understand from him, he wasn't able to handle her past and he broke up the relationship. Now he has been single for a few months, and suddenly realizes he can handle her past. Why can he handle it now? When I ask him, he says he knows she is a girl he should never have fallen for but has.Wonder he is just settling. I can't figure this out. He feels very comfortable talking to me about her. As I wrote in my previous post, he says she is very loose (which means sex with tons of other guys). He says he can't trust her but she is the one for him. He says she likes to act all nice and everything but is far from that. Why would someone like this want to be with a girl who obviously isn't interested in him. He seems very confused to me and that is why I let him go on and on about her. Although, I can tell in his voice he is angry with her. He said he's starting calling her but she gets tired of that after a while.

Can Virggotome or anybody else give more insight? Is this normal Virgo behavior?

Well 1 thing I can almost guarantee here is if he does get back together with this girl, it won't work out. No way, no how.

As said in a previous post, Virgos are gone once relationships are over & from what I've seen with mine, the 1 time he did go back to a g/f it was a disaster.

He'll come to his senses. Probably after he thinks it over for 5 months. You know how Virgos have to ponder every little thing!!

I know what you're saying Help66. I sometimes wonder by him telling me about her, he wants me to talk bad about her. I absolutely refuse to do so. Therefore, I think that might be a reason why he wants to talk to me about her. Looking from my point of veiw, I can't see why he would want to be someone who doesn't respect herself. I think it has to do with that she is playing hard to get at this moment but my personal intuition is, she is not interested in him anymore. You are absolutely correct, Help66, their relationship won't work. I did ask him why he suddenly was interested in her again. His response was when he saw her again, the feelings came back. I can understand that but still, I feel, he should let go and find a girl he can respect.

Does anybody have more comments and help to come with?

When my Virgo male & I first met, he was in a relationship. If you'd call it that.

There was an instant attraction between us but I didn't want to interfere so I never asked or talked about his g/f. However, he found me easy to talk to I guess & talked about her all the time. A true Virgo luvs to talk & most of the time it's always about themselves.

I think you're doing the right thing by not commenting, I'd let him figure her out for the loser she is all by himself. I'd just listen faithfully & be there for him.

It's funny to me Virgos come on so strong & claim they're so independent, don't need others, etc. Yet any little thing that bothers my guy he tells to me. Like he can't wait to get it off his chest so he can feel better or something.

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Thank you very much for your advice Help66. He called me today and said he wasn't feeling so well. I asked him if he was then going to have a quiet night at home. Oh no he wasn't. He was going to go out partying. Obviously, he isn't too bad. I asked him if he was going to meet up with friends and maybe one in particular (meaning his ex-girlfriend). He said he wasn't going to be seeing her today. He was with her last night. He assured me there was no sex involved. Why he told me that I don't know. I'm not interested in his sex life. I asked him if he is back together with her. He said no. I asked if he wants to get back with her. He said this: Yes. No. Maybe. No. Sounds confused to me, and I told him so. He then told me that her family is a bit of a problem. I asked if they didn't like him. He hesitated a little and said: "Well, yeah...". I said when it comes to family you can't change that. I asked him how he and his ex-girlfriend were getting along now. He said they are friends now. They talk better now then when they were together.I then asked if he was content with that. He said no. I really don't understand him. He seems like a lost soul. It seems like to me that he wants what he might not be able to get. I think his ex-girlfriend is playing it cool because she knows exactly where she has him which in my opinion makes him like a fool. Acting so desperate a man should never be. I am a friend of his but in this case I think he is acting foolishly. I haven't said that to him but I have hinted it by saying maybe that the two of them are better off friends. He then went on and on about how she is the one for him and everything. I do have to say by getting to know him, I have learnt so much. More than I ever thought I would. I guess that is what happens when you get to know someone who is a Virgo. They show you real life both the good and the bad.

My experience with Virgos suggests they hold on to those they love with all their might. I have known some to pine for six or seven years after a break-up.

They is a strange, endearing, vulnerability to the Virgo man, especially when they are in love. I think they have a hard time with commitment.