How to approach Virgo male

I have been good friends with a Virgo male for about 16 years. He has always appeared to like me and about 10 years ago he made a pass at me, but I wasn't ready to commit. We talk all the time, hung out and have gone to several concerts together. He has called and asked if he can come up and help me fix my house up so I can sell it. he has even came up and cleaned my carpets. He's dated several girls but none that he truly cared for. If one of his girlfriends happen to be at the house, he would always answer the phone to talk to me. He always answers to talk to me no matter who (male of female) he is hanging out with. When he calls me he always starts with,"hey sexy". I was joking with him one day and I told him before I turn the next decade, I would love to see what it would be like to do a strip dance. He told me I could dance for him! I told him if I came over in a trench coat with sexy clothes underneath, it would probably embarrass him. He said, "no...I would be thrilled. His mom died recently and she was quite wealthy. He told me he wanted me to go over with him before the estate sale and pick out clothing or anything else I wanted. Before we went over he gave me quite a bit of things he had already gotten from his mother's. I told him I felt uncomfortable going through his mother's clothes and he said that she would want me to have them. He says when the estate sale is over and things slow down a bit that he wants to go bike riding. I just wonder how to approach him to let him know I have feelings for him. He told me even though he has had girls, most of them meant nothing and they weren't special to him.I saw him a few days ago, but he was stressed by all the stuff with estate sale, will, bills, etc so I haven't heard from him in about 3 days. He is a really nice guy and we have always been able to talk about most anything. All of our phone conversations have been quite long.Should I write him a letter to tell how I truly feel? Should I send him a "thinking about you card"? Right after his mom died I was concerned about him and left a note at his house telling him I was concerned and if he needed to talk or just needed a hug to call me and I would be there for him as we always have been for each other. We did talk the next day and he said he tried to call me....

So...Virgo's what should I do? Will it ruin our friendship if I let him know how I feel? Should I just make a pass at him?
Show up in that trench coat...LOL? He plays it cool all the time, however when he looks at me it appears very intense.

Stockings, suspenders, high heels, etc. under a trench coat... Sit him in a chair, do the sexy dance, then pull his trousers down and climb on. Strong-willed, assertive approach. WIN!

Will it ruin the friendship? Well, if there's already an unspoken desire beyond friendship then a platonic friendship will not be sustainable in the long term anyway 'cause at least one of you will end up frustrated at not being able to take things further. Just do it!

So how long should I wait after the "mourning" period for his mother and the other stuff?

I knew his mom. As far as the clothing goes. I always commented how nicely she dressed. She dressed real hip...no granny type clothes and that is why he told me if there was anything I wanted,I could have. She wasn't old when she passed away. Sixteen years ago I was going through a lot of stuff and didn't want a commitment. I also had a young son..basically too much going on in my life.

From my own personal experience with a Virgo male, I would send a "thinking of you" card. In the card, I'd mention how HE's been on my mind; That I care about you and your welfare; and I'm here for you if you need me. You don't have to write your deepest heart felt confession. Despite the hints about sex etc., I'd refrain from doing that and coming off too strong. He's still going through the grieving process/all the business aspects etc.

With Virgo men, I've come to realize they like honest and concise communication. Most of all, they desire to be appreciated and respected. You can accomplish both in a hand written card.

Best of luck.

Just a couple pieces of clothing....her and I got along well. Of course I would never wear anything around him.

Ok..so I broke down and told him how I felt..believe me I was pretty scared. Dropped the letter off and I came by a few days later to say hi. He said he was in the middle of reading my letter. The next day he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and wanted to stop by. Unfortunately, I wasn't home. He called a few more times and left a message for me to call him. I did and we talked a bit. We talked about why we didn't get together 14 years ago. It was kind of a mutual thing back then. He also told me thought I deserved better than him and I should have had a good family life (I had a young son at the time), that I deserved the best. So that evening I asked him what he was doing and he asked what I was doing. I ended up going by his place and we talked for a long time (I even got a foot massage). I told him I was nervous and he said he was also. He admitted he made a big mistake by not continuing to pursue me 14 years ago, but I told him I would have felt uncomfortable if he did as I had a young son. He kept telling me that of all the women he has known he has the utmost respect for me. I left about 2:30 am and he walked me outside to my car. We talked for another half hour. We hugged but somehow we both seemed nervous to make the next move. I asked him if he was nervous with the other girls he had been with over the last few months and he said he wasn't. I asked why he was nervous around me and he said because I was special. I made some comment about how it was difficult for me and he agreed it was awkward. I asked why he hugged me a few days prior and he said he wanted to. So fast forward Wed evening...asked him if he still wanted to hear my friend's band play on Sat nite. I asked if the bar was his " style ". He said if it's my style , it's his style . So today is Friday and I haven't heard from him. Should I stop by today while I am out?

He hasn't had any long or meaningful relationships in a long time. He has had a few short flings but that is all.Girls take advantage of his kindness and he wises up, gets tired of it and tells them to get lost. Should I make the next move at seducing him? I know he is interested but some of the comments made between the two of us. He just seems very shy. He told me that everytime I come over he checks me out.

How about you just TELL him how you feel and what you want?

It's that simple.

What do you mean I've already gone so far and live action wouldn't change anything?

I told him how I feel in the letter...I know he likes me. My question is: Should I make the next move? Are Virgos shy by nature? Wouldn't he tell me up front if he weren't interested?

Give me some insight into this guy B/D 08/26

I was out running errands and dropped by his house. He wasn't in a good mood at all! I could tell when he opened the door he was stressed out...it showed in his face. I asked him what was wrong and he told me he misplaced something very valuable. Tried to talk to him about it and we talked for a few minutes and he seemed like he was distracted and wasn't listening. I told him I was sorry I came at a bad time and he said,"I'm just busy". He was trying to get things together so he could make the 1 hour drive to pick up his late mom's ashes (she died 3 1/2 weeks ago). I asked if he still wanted to go out tomorrow nite and he said ya...I told him I'd call him and he said "ok". Once in awhile he gets like this and I even tried to crack a joke to uplift him (he actually smiled once).He has been really distraced lately: misplacing things, unorganized, etc. Some days he is fine and the others a total mess.
Virgos: Please tell me what stresses you out and how you handle it. Do you bite the heads of your friends and GFs?

Posted by socalgal
I told him how I feel in the letter...I know he likes me. My question is: Should I make the next move? Are Virgos shy by nature? Wouldn't he tell me up front if he weren't interested?

You ALREADY made a move. Now you have to wait.

Like you said before, he has made a move in the past so this proves that he is not hesitant to pursue what he wants.

And no, he won't necessarily tell you if he was or was not interested. That decision is private to him only. Especially because he has so much going on in his life right now, I highly doubt forming a relationship is his priority. The best you can do is not pester him or else you will scare him.

I'm surprised that he is even been as social as he is, knowing that his mother just passed away. Virgo people in general like to take things a bit slow. The little hugs, foot massages and long conversations are all great. Don't make any sharp turns. That will throw him off from what who he "thought" you were. Next time you think about telling him what you want to do, don't. Keep showing up and keep giving kind gestures, all the while taking it a bit closer to where you want to go. Virgos can pick up on the subtleties and will appreciate them. As far as I can see from what I've read, it seems like he is ready to go, idk.

Whatever PMG says... She's very wise.

Please don't make a mistake of being an open book with Virgo! Reciprocation is very teensy weensy with them, so don't ask/question him again and again, not only will you get nothing, you will startle him back into a shell.