It's Complicated - Scorpio F & Virgo M

Hey Virgos! Just saying, y'all are my faves, two of my best friends and the guy I'm about to write about are all Virgos.

TL;DR I like a Virgo and he likes me (Scorp) but it's complicated. I want it to be worth, but not sure if it's worth it realistically.

Anyways, what's going on is I met this great Virgo guy! I used to have no idea how we got along so well, until I did some chart work and found he's got a lot of Scorp in his chart.

I'm a Scorp Sun, Pisces Moon, Scorp Venus, Libra Merc, Sag Mars, and Cap Asc.
He's Virgo Sun, Scorpio Moon, Scorpio Venus, Libra Merc, Cancer Mars, and Scorpio Asc.

Complicating factors:
1. He's moving to go to pharmacy school four hours away.
2. Interracial - I'm Mexican and he's Indian
3. This is first relationship (he's 20, I'm 19)

We're worried about long distance, mostly. I think we could try to work something out where we see each other once a month, and I think my Scorp loyalty will help me out a lot with this. But how do you guys think Virgos do in an LDR? Or in a first relationship? Both? Any opinions welcome.

I know I'm really bad with long distance relationships.

I think it is to be believed that a Virgo's love (romantic or otherwise) is best fostered with insisted involvement in his life. Even if he's slow to realize it he will restructure his life to encompass you in it and it'll eventually get to a point where he'll realize how much you mean to him when you suddenly step out of his proverbial, "circle of life".

This cannot be achieved with distance.

Actually, I'll be taking my words, "This cannot be achieved with distance" and revise that it'd be "difficult" rather than impossible.

I just remembered that I have a romance novel that features a man who's personality fits the description of a Virgo very well. He was broken when he found out his fianc?e fell in love, married a sheriff, and got pregnant behind his back when she traveled to the state her sister lived in (which I also read but have now lost). Anyway, five years have passed since then and the one time he decides to take a vacation from his workaholic life he finds a distraught woman trying to make her way through the obnoxious crowd in Las Vegas on the night of New Years Eve. Once he's helped her out he learns that she caught her fianc?e with another woman when she wanted to surprise him with a visit and that he'd been disloyal for a long time.

Feeling compelled to comfort her since he'd gone through a similar ordeal he eventually suggests that they keep in contact with each other by snail mail to help her get through it, assuring her she'd be over him within the year despite her protests and plans that they meet at the very same spot they were at. Through his letters describing his own pain she was able find harmony with herself and move past her ex well before the year ends and has simply come to expect more of his words in the mail.

When they finally meet again face-to-face at the same gazebo they weren't expecting to feel such a strong, unspoken tension between them and when they finally break it with a new years kiss they realized that through their exchanging of heartfelt and honest letters they've built themselves a strong foundation that resulted in the natural attraction they felt when they reunited. They got married within the week and unknowingly conceived twin daughters "the morning after".

Gosh, I've gone and put myself in the mood. I want to read it again now.

Anyway, the point of my retelling this story is that their bond had been fostered with honest and heartfelt communication despite her being in Anaheim and he in Seattle. However, their circumstances are unique to this story and while the theme is applicable to our realities it certainly does not guarantee success.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. Scorp loyalty you mentioned. Don't you have some kind of thing going on with a sag and 'several others'?! If He is moving let him go!! Just one less drama on your plate... Because it looks as if your plate is over fulling in the drama dept already... Just sayin!!!

Most women are good at multitasking.. theres a dirty joke in there.. but I cant bring myself to say it.

On topic long distance does not work out.. then again 4 hours away isnt too distant.

so , whats the problem? you think you will forget him easiely in a LDR? virgos are very committed , you should worry about yourself

Posted by yamilette7410
and I think my Scorp loyalty will help me out a lot with this.

I'm sure it will.

Since..(from a topic on the cap board)

Posted by yamilette7410
Hey Caps,
He is Cap Sun, Sag Moon, Scorpio Venus, Cap Mercury, and I am Scorp Sun, Pisces Moon, Scorp Venus, and Sag Mercury. He's got a lot of earth and air, and I'm mostly water with a touch of fire. I'm worried this is going to crash and burn, and this friendship is really valuable to me. One of those friends I'll have for life.
I'm not so much worried about him, but myself getting attached. Especially with the Venus match. I fear the chemistry could make me want more, with all my emotional water, and this is "emotionless" Cap.

Is this a good idea? Should I back out? I can turn on my "bad Scorpio" and be detached, but that's an ugly side of me. However, he argues that FWB requires a very solid friendship foundation to be good.

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Maybe focus more on ONE guy you're crushing on before even attempting the idea of working out a LDR.

VirgoFlirt, that was really vague, but I think I follow! Thank you.

Amandus, I have previously dated a Virgo, and I think I know what you mean. I was wondering if a month is long enough to set up a foundation, or if I should just enjoy it for what it is.

busyeyes88, I still don't get why I'm getting so much flack on dxpnet for dating multiple people. I attribute it to a generational difference. No less, I'm actually committed to him as of now. I've dropped all my other options. But I know an LDR is gonna be difficult, and you have a point about the drama. Naturally, it makes sense that I would want to commit to the guy whom it's gonna really hard, if not impossible to be with, at all.

Weeds, I guess a lot of it will depend on how often he comes home and if I'm able to go up there to visit him. We both like each other a lot and are really bemoaning our circumstances. No less, you should make the joke, haha.

Damnata, you are right, I did make that post. But if you had actually read the whole post, you would have seen that I backed out of it, because I committed to this guy. Literally my last few posts on that thread were me telling the Cap board I backed out because I met someone else, and one poster even wished me luck.
So I am focused on this guy, and you would have known that if you had read the entire thread.

busyeyes88, he is serious about me, and I'm not going to lead him up the garden path and hurt his feelings. I have a perfect concept of loyalty when I'm in a monogamous relationship. I no longer have ties to any of the Sags I used to post about, and I decided not to pursue anything with the Cap guy or the Scorp guy. I did actually drop everybody else I was casually dating in order to be exclusive with this Virgo. I dated casually with the understanding that they could be dating other people as well. I've learned I just don't work with Sags and I have gotten to the point where I took responsibility for what happened with the Sag I used to post about where I was the one that messed up. I am not even speaking to the Cap guy anymore, and I like this Virgo more than I liked the Scorpio guy, and that's why I decided to commit to this Virgo.

I know an LDR is hard, and that's why I'm not so sure about this, especially because I've been in a multitude of flings and relationships and he's been on a few dates with a handful of people but never anything serious.