Keeping the spark alive?

How do you keep that wonderful spark alive with a virgo?

okay. well I'm getting bored. I don't want our relationship to turn into a routine. And I know I should just let it flow...but I'm an Aqua, I get bored in 2 seconds flat. I don't like the relationship to be boring.
How do I keep a virgo smitten? And I can hardly tell over the phone! People say he's smitten with me..but I can't tell myself..o_O
oh well. you see I'm so bored that I have to post on here about it.

Or Am I just worrying too much..and just too young cause I'm asking another stupid question?

FIRST .. it has to be ignited .. phones won't make that happen.

"Talking on the phone too much is one sure way to ruin a relationship."

I agree.
Too much phone is not good, I'm in a long distance relationship and this whole phone situation is killing me. lol But I'm going home tomorrow!!! So it won't be long distance anymore! yay ((I have not seen him in over 3 months!))

But yes I do agree with branh0913, you two should start seeing each other more and leave the phone alone for awhile.

I got bored over the xmas period with Mr. Virgo.......so to enliven things up, we went for a walk by the canal after midnight.....I took him there and then literally.......the swans still need counselling!!!!.....you gotta think outside the box RC:-)

A x

LOL @ Alana

Ciao fiery earth.....:-)3 months and counting:-)!!!!.....I'd say there will be alot of "fierys" when you both meet up tomoro:-) - you gotta keep us infomed missy😉

a x

hehe 😛 nO problema

thanks a lot brahn..o_O all you have to do is ask.

If anyone noticed any of my recent posts on the virg board, you would have known that I went to see him last week. And it's kind of hard to see him on a regular basis when he is in New York and I am in Florida. He was going to move beside me but he ran into problems, and he got a new job, and he needs to see how things are going to work out. It's not easy for him. We plan to see each other again in a few weeks.

NOW that that is cleared up..

Please, answer my question, without the assumption that we haven't seen each other. ^_^

Ms Chan, he is the same guy, he was the same way when you started with him, people dont change colors to suit your fun requirements. I think you are looking for something that does not excist. if You are an Aqua and it is enough excuse for being bored with people in five minutes... you should better couple up with an AQUA... two of a kind to keep it FUN.

lol. Sweetie, my first love was Aqua, but it didn't work out because it was LONG distance. 😢

But what made you assume that my virguy was boring, he has his ascendant in AQUA...He isn't boring at all, it's just lately, our relationship is getting boring cause he isn't as open to talk as he usually is and I don't like that feeling.

but then I just found out last night why he has been so silent lately, he is going through some problems, he told me he has skeletons in the closet and to give him a couple weeks to settle his past problems with some girls he dated before me.

Oh and another thing! ^____^ It's so cool cause I just realized this now that you mention it, but let me tell you..

My closest friends are AQUA. His closest friends are AQUA.
we talk to each other's friends as well. ^_^ We can have an Aqua party. But we both just added a lot more Aquas to our Aqua groups. Isn't that cool?


I sound like a teenager don't I?

you just like ruining topics, don't ya brahn.

ms chan...ha...kinda cute.

so are you asking us for ideas of things to do or more like suggestion oh how he can open up?

to be quiet honest my aqua was pretty much into a routine at times...in some areas...so actually i felt like i needed to shake it up once in a while, believe it or not :O and maybe i wasn't the most charming at mentioning that to her, so a couple of times she was hurt/mad...but then we would laugh again, so just watch out with how you suggest change but like others say...distance is hard in itself and also he may be sorting things out for a bit there. for an aqua/virgo combo to subsist we need to always focus on what we got and got more of that...as opposed to what we don't...because we can turn the shift completely and then go down hill and crash, only to later look for each other again to see if we survived!

lol. I think I am the same way. I have somethings that are routine, but since Aquas despise routine, the second we find out we're repeating something we SHUT DOWN, freak out..whatever you want to call it.

And I absolutely abhor it. Apparently, since I'm so worried about our relationship becoming a bore. But it won't I say!! Not if I can help it!

but yeah, after the update from him last night, VLL, yes, my question is now reworded to how to coax a virgo into opening up..🙂

well with his ascendant in Aqua, and the other good aspects between our charts, there isn't much we can't agree on. But he does have mispreconceptions of me that I find quite annoying.

like he thinks since, according to him, I've been sheltered most of my life, I will grow out of our relationship and leave him. Thing is, everything he does and says to me and about me, indirectly or directly, totally contradicts his opinion. Cause why get into a relationship with someone you think is going to leave you? o_O

and last night he told me that after he deals with his skeletons in the closet, he hopes to start our relationship again on the right foot.(exactly what I wanted anyway)

I think it was very noble and kind of him to admit his problems to me and ask me if I was willing to wait a couple weeks for him to get his life straight(another thing I wanted)...isn't that sweet? and coming from a virgo..wow..I feel honored really..

anywho...I know what you're talking about VLL, and the great thing about this guy is that he is willing to work with me and I am with him..

as long as we keep working at it like we have..we'll get there, I believe. and it hasn't gone downhill yet.

do some activities together.which do not necessariliy involve romance and such stuff.make sure they are fun and light.like take some common interest.

reiniba,

when he says thinks that sound like he thinks you would leave him or whatever...he really is asking for affirmation or sometimes maybe just joking (depending on his tone of voice) but i would say, don't take that too at heart, because we virgos evaluate EVERYTHING and our thoughts can change over time...trust me.

i, for example, used to say to my xaqua 'i'm so happy to be with you right now' or 'this is really awesome right now'...and she hated it the 'right now' word at the end of every statement, and of course told me overtime...but...i couldn't say 'forever' or ended just with the statement without clarifying literally what logically was happening in my mind...we were having a blast right at that moment right? see...and then all i wanted was to see her again...a contradiction to that one statement that she so much feared...

sometimes, we, need to say things to ourselves, and even to others, to protect ourselves from future harm reiniba...at least myself and many virgos i know do...and we are so in touch with the reality of this world, must be an earth thing, that we speak out things that are logical or rational, but not always true or what we want...

🙂

that's why we must be/sound very confusing to others i bet.

you guys distance yourself with space and a constant seek for freedom...time and activities...we sometimes do it with words and just by hiding for a little while.

anyhow, hope this helps a bit.

disregard the things he may say sometimes that may seem a bit confusing and contradictory...and watch his actions reiniba, our actions speak louder than our analysis many times...and if he says something silly that bothers you, just explain him why wouldn't be the case and if he doesn't get it, ignore it or joke around with something back...it will hit him sooner than later 😉


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