Man, you guys are hard to understand :/

I know this may seem long and boring, but it'd mean a lot to me if you guys could help me. 🙂




I met this Virgo girl 3 years ago and I told her that I really liked her, but she didn't have feelings for me. I admit, when I told her, she was a little young for relationships. After 2 years of not hearing from her, she sends me a message that she wants to be with me. (It was over the Summer) I was quite hesitant to give because I kept thinking she wouldn't take the relationships seriously. Then, towards the end of Summer I gave in and took a chance. The relationship for the first 2 weeks were fine. Texting all the time, went on a date to the movies, and then school started. I started showing a little affection the 3rd week. Just a hug in public and she started the "I love you" the first week we were together. (Another reason I didn't think she'd take this thing seriously.) Finally she started to avoid me and would hardly talk to me at lunch or when I even saw her. Then she sends me a message saying "I need to get my priorities straight and explore my options" and I honestly find that horribly heartbreaking for me. Now fast forward to late December/this January. I start seeing these... signs and messages flying around. She is starting to get flirtatious personality back with me and small things like that. I really really care for her and have desparately waiting for any change/chance. Virgos, how can I understand what she is truly meaning? Is she just playing around or is this just a mind game? I have our birth charts if that helps.

My Chart:

Sun Gemini 5.05 Ascendant Cancer 23.12
Moon Sagittarius 24.42 II Leo 13.16
Mercury Gemini 27.40 III Virgo 6.56
Venus Cancer 6.36 IV Libra 6.45
Mars Taurus 1.58 V Scorpio 13.05
Jupiter Scorpio 6.41 R VI Sagittarius 20.37
Saturn Pisces 11.47 VII Capricorn 23.12
Uranus Capricorn 26.04 R VIII Aquarius 13.16
Neptune Capricorn 23.06 R IX Pisces 6.56
Pluto Scorpio 26.28 R Midheaven Aries 6.45
Lilith Taurus 5.26 XI Taurus 13.05
Asc node Scorpio 23.56 XII Gemini 20.37

Her Chart:

Sun Virgo 3.39
Moon Aquarius 3.41
Mercury Libra 0.17
Venus Cancer 18.01
Mars Cancer 20.59
Jupiter Capricorn 7.55 R
Saturn Aries 6.11 R
Uranus Aquarius 1.24 R
Neptune Capricorn 25.25 R
Pluto Sagittarius 0.26
Lilith Leo 7.07
Asc node Libra 8.23

Thanks for all your help guys! I appreciate any feedback!

my dude you guys make a good match, shes just too young if she was a bit older it would have gone much smoother, and it still can. Give her space to show that you have dignity(your'e a gemini you should know that) and she will always come back. the aquarius moon has her thinking so many things (im an aqua moon myself). just let her rock, look for some other girl to occupy your time that would maybe more mature so she can see what type of woman you go for

I agree with NYC. Don't be so quick to take her back. I've done silly things like this before. I'm with someone nice and then I feel overwhelmed and run. Then I regret it, get back together and it happens again. Now that I'm older I've recognized my pattern and avoid acting this way.
I don't think she intentionally messes with you but she needs to learn that if she throws you away she might not get you back.

I think you guys could work, but she does sound like she needs time to grow up. I know you're young, so she has to be like, what, two years younger? She still needs to figure things out, or it's going to be one big roller coaster.

Thanks for all the responses guys! Anyways, well her birthday is August 26, 1996 and mine is May 26, 1994. So she's two years younger and she has the Leo/Virgo cusp. I do think she may need time to grow up to just..realize herself (I guess that's what you guys are trying to say) but, the big problem for me is that these cuspians are so secretive and look at the ALL of the details. Well by nature, I'm all over the place with my mind so I usually forget the little things... and I love to show my affection in relationships and she is just so cool calm and collected. Plus, how to I deal with all this secretiveness. Do I let her have it or do I try and help her? Try and figure out what she means? Pay extra attention to what I do and say? I don't mind waiting, but when the time comes again, how do I go about just everything? Confess my big love, do it calmly? I really have no clue what the motives mean. Sorry for all the questions, but I really want this to work out. 😐

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Thanks for all the responses guys! Anyways, well her birthday is August 26, 1996 and mine is May 26, 1994. So she's two years younger and she has the Leo/Virgo cusp. I do think she may need time to grow up to just..realize herself (I guess that's what you guys are trying to say) but, the big problem for me is that these cuspians are so secretive and look at the ALL of the details. Well by nature, I'm all over the place with my mind so I usually forget the little things... and I love to show my affection in relationships and she is just so cool calm and collected. Plus, how to I deal with all this secretiveness. Do I let her have it or do I try and help her? Try and figure out what she means? Pay extra attention to what I do and say? I don't mind waiting, but when the time comes again, how do I go about just everything? Confess my big love, do it calmly? I really have no clue what the motives mean. Sorry for all the questions, but I really want this to work out. 😐

I dont' think she's a cusper. My birthday is on the 27th, and I'm not a cusper either. I think the cusps ends like on the 24th. Anyway, I think she needs time to grow into what she likes and what she wants. Saying "I Love You" within a week certainly isn't ideal; she needs to learn that she doesn't HAVE to say it, especially that early. There's no pressure. I feel she does like you a lot, but she doesn't exactly know how to show it correctly. I think if you guys want to work, you shouldn't immediately jump into anything. Just let her know that you care about her a lot and that you want to make it work, but there shouldn't be any rush. And remind her that that doesn't mean you don't want to be with her. Let her know that you only want her, but that you two should both just grow up a little and explore each other, but not so fast. I really do think you guys could work. Taking it slow might allow her to open up more; I imagine she's going to feel weary if things aren't turning out like most "relationships" should, but she just needs to get comfortable and relax.

I only say a lot of this because dating in high school was always kind of a pain in the ass, but it can work if you guys don't jump into anything too quickly. Just work out all the kinks, get to know each other, develop actual trust and feelings, and things should blossom nicely.