matching birth charts to know compatibility.

I havent been into this much, but recently, after i got to taste the mercury retrograde , im reading n checking alot of things regarding astrology to fix n understand the lethal broken situation with my guy these days. Apparently, he said i have decided that we cant marry. I cant love you. He said it after bit tension between us. Altho before the tension, there was nothing but love.

Now, on cafe astrology site, I checked my birth chart and compared it with his. It was absolutely beautiful. I do not understand these things but it had details, in terms of Positive aspects and negative. There were 3,4 negative aspects where it was mentioned that this would be a hard union, if it progresses , stress would be faced on part of the 1st person, that is me.
However, there were more than 15 positive aspects. M pasting one down below.
All i wanna know is, what do these readings mean after this situation where hes said he has taken his decision not to continue with us and no marriage. Does the ffollowing good readings mean its still possible? I hope i still can do something as the reading truly says, theres much devotion on my part n much attraction on his part.



Sextile Moon (me) - Neptune (him)

"Positive aspect: An almost magical bond will unite them. Perfect harmony. There is something MORE to this relationship. It inspires the imagination, and there is a magical feeling of acceptance. There is much devotion here, especially on the part of the Moon person. Spiritual tenderness and romantic warmth between them. Their relationship encourages imagination in both people. This stems from an underlying acceptance of each other, which translates into the feeling that they are free to express their spiritual, imaginative sides without fear in each other's presence. Unconditional love, which is very rare in romantic partnerships."

56 Conjunction, Venus - Venus

Positive aspect: Complete respect for each other's romantic style. They don't easily offend each other and instinctively understand what makes the other person happy. Conflicts arise, but they are generally smoothed over with ease, as there is good will between them. Very good aspect for a successful union. Love, gaiety, understanding.

50 Trine, Moon - Pluto

Positive aspect: An uncontrollable great passion which might be a nuisance, as it sometimes lacks thought or control. Jealousy, possessiveness, absolute need of the other's presence 24 hours out of 24 can be issues. However, when trus

50 Trine, Moon - Pluto

Positive aspect: An uncontrollable great passion which might be a nuisance, as it sometimes lacks thought or control. Jealousy, possessiveness, absolute need of the other's presence 24 hours out of 24 can be issues. However, when trust is in place, they both will appreciate that their relationship is growth-oriented and far from a lifeless routine. Their feelings for each other evolve over time, and they learn from each other on an emotional level at every twist and turn. This fact is a treasure. The love they share is transforming in nature, so that they both feel renewed - almost like they are "new" people - through the relationship.

42 Sextile ,Mars - Saturn

Positive aspect: A life together with few problems. Love tends to develop into friendship. In a broad sense, they understand each other and go well together. Their relationship can be a little routine at times, and there may be some self-consciousness with each other.

This is one indication that they will be faithful to one another.

here's some negative aspects.

95 Square Sun (me)- Neptune (him)

Challenging aspect: The Sun might end up feeling used or frustrated in this relationship. There may be deceptions, lies, or promises of a fantastic future that only exists in the imagination, or more likely, an inability to see one another clearly and projection of wonderful qualities onto the partner. It can be difficult for the Neptune person to live up to these and Neptune might begin to back off or feel overwhelmed. Keep expectations of each other and of the relationship realistic. Try not to add the pressure of living up to a fantasy onto this relationship.


-121 Square . Moon - Jupiter

Negative aspect: They go well together, but will have emotional problems throughout their life together. A life together that will be stormy and with its bright spots - sometimes really bright - but they will stay together because they are nevertheless made to understand each other.


-93 Square Mars - Uranus

Negative aspect: They make each other impatient and easily frustrate each other. The sexual attraction is unique and powerful at first, seeming to arise suddenly and unexpectedly. However, it is a temperamental attraction and can leave just as suddenly. Erratic responses to each other. (Is that why he feels hes cold towards me doesnt wanna kiss me hug ne right now or ever? Its all temporary feeling m sure as just days ago he was dying to touch me)

I have the sMe type of chart with my virguy. Just breathe and be silent. Let the flow happen. Give him space. Things work themselves out. Obsessing over it is just a waste of time. Do you think he is worried?
Is he doing what you are?
Probably not. He's living his life.
And pining and begging are only petting his ego.
Go read what I posted under your other topic.
You are doing exactly what he wants. As long as you allow him to occupy your mind, he's got control. Don't let someone take up space in your heart or head that isn't gonna pay the rent!!!!!
If you want to pm me, please do. But I promise, put him off!
Your only giving him what he wants. He's securing a soft place to land. He's grooming you to be his patsy. His go to when he is bored.

I absolutely love you n thank you for the good words you said at the other thread. Your words are wise, but this is breaking my heart. So many months and so much of heart was invested in this, now all is shattered. Worse part is this horoscope that i read, The sphere of personal relationships will be even more destabilized in May 2015. In your relationship with your lover you will have to make the final decision that might not define your entire life, but will be a significant milestone nevertheless. So concentrate and think what it is that you want. Do not lie to yourself, since the choice that you make now will not be subject to change in the future. That means that you can always make the radical decision to just cut the rope, but this is serious stupidity for which it would be deserving to pay for the rest of your life. In your relationship with friends, you should also review your behaviour. Perhaps you are making big mistakes at times? Remind yourself what is honesty and self-worth, evaluate yourself from the point of view of these concepts. Can people who know you be proud of you? If not, then it is evident that you will soon realize why your life is really empty. When there comes a time to reap, sitting in a corner is not the best option. Stand up and accept the circumstances the way that they are. Do not be afraid of changing, it makes you stronger.

😢 m not texting him now. M quiet. But i cant pretend m okay n find no solution to this. Libra thing maybe. Did ur guy break up with you or u did? Ive learned that my guy is hating me sumhow. Which is hurting me more. Wth is with these virgos.

I told him to hike.
I understand months invested. I did the same. But, I'm no longer going to allow him to raise that imaginary bar and have me dance like a puppet.
I have been clear about how I feel, what I want and need. He knows where I stand.
The bottom line, he loses. When you are constantly giving and not receiving, it's one sided. If you can't invest in me, bay at- I am not wasting anymore energy on you.

I am very heartbroken. I love my virguy. But if I have to keep protesting it and begging and reassuring with nothing in return- it's not worth it.

Put your foot down. You tell him- this is your game. I'm far to busy and I love myself far too much to have to jump through hoops for someone who isn't going to do the same for me. Leave it at that.

He knows you want answers and closure. You'll never get it. Because you are dealing with. Virgo narcissistic personality. If you aren't petting his ego and pining for him you don't get attention. He's making the rules to see how much push pull he can do.

Stop the madness! Your not a show pony! He loses. Block him and go about your life. You will find someone worthy of what you have to give and he can pine at you in silence. Virgos are good at that!

Please give me the full birth charts of both you and him with rising signs and I can tell you what went wrong

Virgo king, you mean separate charts of us both or the compatibility chart?

This is the compatibility chart. Let me get the birth charts.


Me. Aspect Him. Orb/Value
Sun Square Uranus 1.44 -126
Sun Square Neptune 2.27 -95
Mercury Sextile Mercury 0.12 152
Mercury Sextile Jupiter 1.22 70
Venus Conjunction Sun 1.52 260
Venus Conjunction Venus 2.60 56
Venus Conjunction Jupiter 4.04 95
Mars Sextile Saturn 1.53 42
Jupiter Square Moon 2.23 -121
Saturn Trine Mercury 1.51 74
Saturn Trine Venus 0.24 83
Saturn Square Mars 1.01 -111
Saturn Trine Jupiter 0.41 68
Uranus Trine Mercury 2.20 62
Uranus Trine Venus 0.05 79
Uranus Square Mars 1.29 -93
Uranus Trine Jupiter 1.09 59
Neptune Sextile Moon 0.50 69
Neptune Conjunction Uranus 2.34 70
Pluto Trine Moon 2.60 50
Pluto Sextile Uranus 1.15 37
1326 -546 780

My birth chart. M libra.

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Libra 11.48 Ascendant Leo 7.26
Moon Leo 5.45 II Virgo 0.36
Mercury Libra 24.53 R III Virgo 28.01
Venus Virgo 0.20 IV Scorpio 0.07
Mars Aries 3.19 R V Sagittarius 4.31
Jupiter Gemini 5.57 R VI Capricorn 7.28
Saturn Sagittarius 26.56 VII Aquarius 7.26
Uranus Sagittarius 27.25 VIII Pisces 0.36
Neptune Capricorn 7.30 IX Pisces 28.01
Pluto Scorpio 11.19 Midheaven Taurus 0.07
Lilith Virgo 15.58 XI Gemini 4.31
Asc node Pisces 13.48 XII Cancer 7.28



Aspects

The following table shows the planetary aspects in your natal chart. Short interpretations are found below.



Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Opposition Mars 8.29 -14
Sun Trine Jupiter 5.52 14
Sun Square Neptune 4.18 -17
Moon Trine Mars 2.26 157
Moon Sextile Jupiter 0.12 186
Moon Square Pluto 5.34 -11
Moon Conjunction Ascendant 1.41 300
Moon Square Midheaven 5.38 -5
Mercury Sextile Saturn 2.03 117
Mercury Sextile Uranus 2.31 81
Mercury Opposition Midheaven 5.14 -67
Venus Square Jupiter 5.37 -3
Venus Trine Saturn 3.24 32
Venus Trine Uranus 2.55 32
Venus Trine Neptune 7.10 5
Venus Trine Midheaven 0.13 34
Mars Sextile Jupiter 2.37 80
Mars Square Uranus 5.55 -2
Mars Square Neptune 4.11 -36
Mars Trine Ascendant 4.06 44
Jupiter Sextile Ascendant 1.29 44
Saturn Conjunction Uranus 0.28 267
Saturn Trine Midheaven 3.11 24
Uranus Trine Midheaven 2.42 20
Neptune Sextile Pluto 3.49 4
Neptune Trine Midheaven 7.23 2
Pluto Square Ascendant 3.54 -5
1443 -160 1283



Asteroids & Chiron

The following table shows the positions of the four major asteroids and Chiron. These points are not as commonly used by astrologers, but are presented here for those interested in knowing where the asteroids are positioned in their birth chart. Please note that the positions for "Fortune" and "South node" default to 0 Aries and are not currently working. To determine your South Node, look to the Asc Node above and change the sign to the opposite sign (Aries to Libra, for example), as the South Node is always opposite the North Node (Asc Node).

Chiron Cancer 7.56
Ceres Pisces 20.48 R
Pallas Aquarius 2.03
Juno Leo 17.51
Vesta Libra 13.11
Fortune Aries 0.00
South node Aries 0.00

Thats his chart. Ill be so thankful to you for this. The stress caused by sudden breakup is too much. I m worried if we wud ever get back together.

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Virgo 2.12
Moon Pisces 8.20
Mercury Leo 25.05 R
Venus Leo 27.20 R
Mars Virgo 25.55
Jupiter Leo 26.16
Saturn Aquarius 1.26 R
Uranus Capricorn 10.04 R
Neptune Capricorn 14.15 R
Pluto Scorpio 17.49
Lilith Capricorn 13.30
Asc node Capricorn 18.06



Aspects

The following table shows the planetary aspects in your natal chart. Short interpretations are found below.



Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Opposition Moon 6.08 -121
Sun Conjunction Mercury 7.07 208
Sun Conjunction Venus 4.52 349
Sun Conjunction Jupiter 5.56 244
Sun Trine Uranus 7.52 2
Moon Sextile Uranus 1.44 136
Mercury Conjunction Venus 2.15 465
Mercury Conjunction Jupiter 1.11 459
Venus Conjunction Jupiter 1.04 429
Mars Trine Saturn 5.31 47
Uranus Conjunction Neptune 4.11 116
Neptune Sextile Pluto 3.34 10
2465 -121 2344



Asteroids & Chiron

Chiron Leo 5.09
Ceres Scorpio 7.49
Pallas Libra 11.18
Juno Capricorn 17.56 R
Vesta Leo 9.59
Fortune Aries 0.00
South node Aries 0.00

You are putting far too much responsibility of this break up on astrology. You should just accept it and move on. He not only told you it was over (vs disappearing) and gave you the reasons why (instead of leaving you guessing). You have gotten answers and obsessing won't change that. You seem insecure. I don't say that to be mean. But if you know your worth and he doesn't see that then you should feel it's his loss and move on. Don't beg anyone to stay in your life. Have some pride, woman.