@Elinaelle
11 Years
Virgo man confusing the hell out of me
I think all the cancellations may have takin its toll on your status with him. virgos will place you on the highest pendastal... but if you deviant from how they see you its a loooooong fall.
Deviate....^
...I'm afraid the dilemma is meeting men online where men have the ability to entertain themselves with 20-30 women at a time. Unless he's calling you or with you, don't put so much emphasis on effort or energy. You're just simply one of many chicks being batted around like a cat toy of choice.
Posted by ElinaelleI guess ill move on as im not really into games.
What games do you refer to? You don't mention any in the OP.
On which date was he born? I am a virgo born in the 3rd decan(22nd sept) so according to me I would say that we are hard to impress but when we truly love someone we love like its the last day of our life.We are a bit detached,we love to be with our loved ones but sometimes we often need a 'me' time.And yeah we are perfectionists so whatever we do we try to do it perfectly even if it takes a lot of time.Maybe you should just ask him about it.The cancellations in your case has become the problem,I guess you should wait a little more and see how things go bcoz we often take time to do everything(because we try to make things perfect).
Often when people we care about don't act as we wish they would (act funny), we assume it's because of how they are feeling about us. But if you take a step back and see the bigger picture that really is a self centered notion. Think about it...you barely know him. Do you think at this point you could have a big impact on his mood?
With Virgos, what you or I would perceive as a minor bump in the road, for them it's a mountain. Have you asked him how he is doing? Has anything changed in his life? He may not even share yet if you aren't close yet but you need to consider this may be all about him and what he has going on and nothing about you at all.
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Posted by ElinaelleI guess ill move on as im not really into games.
What games do you refer to? You don't mention any in the OP.
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Meant as in the cancelling because I had, dissapearing and reappearing.
Posted by kaqual75
Often when people we care about don't act as we wish they would (act funny), we assume it's because of how they are feeling about us. But if you take a step back and see the bigger picture that really is a self centered notion. Think about it...you barely know him. Do you think at this point you could have a big impact on his mood?
With Virgos, what you or I would perceive as a minor bump in the road, for them it's a mountain. Have you asked him how he is doing? Has anything changed in his life? He may not even share yet if you aren't close yet but you need to consider this may be all about him and what he has going on and nothing about you at all.
I did ask how he was doing and most of the times he's at work. I'm not the most caring and warm person, I'm quite detached (being an aquarius) but I think I have actually tried with him.
Posted by kaqual75
Often when people we care about don't act as we wish they would (act funny), we assume it's because of how they are feeling about us. But if you take a step back and see the bigger picture that really is a self centered notion. Think about it...you barely know him. Do you think at this point you could have a big impact on his mood?
With Virgos, what you or I would perceive as a minor bump in the road, for them it's a mountain. Have you asked him how he is doing? Has anything changed in his life? He may not even share yet if you aren't close yet but you need to consider this may be all about him and what he has going on and nothing about you at all.
2nd of September. Yeah I'll just give him time and just do my own thing.
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Posted by ElinaelleI guess ill move on as im not really into games.
What games do you refer to? You don't mention any in the OP.
Meant as in the cancelling because I had, dissapearing and reappearing.
Posted by Elinaellehe always initiated conversations
He wanted to meet but due to me being busy i cancelled
i didnt message
i had to again cancel
texted me next morning i replied with a joke
Posted by ElinaelleI'm not the most caring and warm person, I'm quite detached
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Judging from everything I've read from you, I believe the resolution here is for you to do a self check because from where I observe .... you are expecting him to treat you differently than how you treat him. You aren't giving what you want to receive.
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Posted by ElinaelleI guess ill move on as im not really into games.
What games do you refer to? You don't mention any in the OP.
Meant as in the cancelling because I had, dissapearing and reappearing.
Posted by Elinaellehe always initiated conversations
He wanted to meet but due to me being busy i cancelled
i didnt message
i had to again cancel
texted me next morning i replied with a jokePosted by ElinaelleI'm not the most caring and warm person, I'm quite detached
Judging from everything I've read from you, I believe the resolution here is for you to do a self check because from where I observe .... you are expecting him to treat you differently than how you treat him. You aren't giving what you want to receive.
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That is true actually, I really need to give what I want which is pretty difficult for me as sometimes I do things without realising how that would affect the person/ or come across as. It's always been an issue with me.
Do you have any tips?
FYI disappearing is a month(s) later days and 1 week is not disappearing especially to virgos! It's called being patient and taking your time not rushing everything. It's only been 2 months and you make it seem as if you've been dating for a year.
You should move on if you are impatient because these guys take their time.
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Posted by kaqual75
Often when people we care about don't act as we wish they would (act funny), we assume it's because of how they are feeling about us. But if you take a step back and see the bigger picture that really is a self centered notion. Think about it...you barely know him. Do you think at this point you could have a big impact on his mood?
With Virgos, what you or I would perceive as a minor bump in the road, for them it's a mountain. Have you asked him how he is doing? Has anything changed in his life? He may not even share yet if you aren't close yet but you need to consider this may be all about him and what he has going on and nothing about you at all.
2nd of September. Yeah I'll just give him time and just do my own thing.
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I'm an aqua dealing with. 9/1 Virgo. If you are truly interested, falling back is the worst thing you could do. Check in with him casually and then let him come out of his shell.
I think you are thinking too much! Its not about virgo, it could be him thinking that your cancellin cause youre not interested! Virgos analyze a lot, they are thinkers and worriers! So chill and the next time he asks you to go out, take the chance and go out! If u wanna be with him in the long run you have to show him you care ! Space is very very imp with this man! Give and take space if you want to keep him interested! Hope it helps!
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Hey guys
I have a dilemma with a virgo man. We are both in our 20's (mid) His venus is in libra mine is in Pisces. We met on a dating site in January, he always initiated conversations but replied late but always with long messages asking a lot of questions.
We met 2 month later and instantly got along. Even he commented on the 2nd date saying "how its going so well and we instantly got comfortable"
we had dinner together at his and he cooked and then we talked and kissed. Its all been great.
I grew to like him, and i dont fall for someone easily. His job is quite demanding (investment) so he is busy a lot. He wanted to meet but due to me being busy i cancelled then he cancelled on me. Then he dissapeared for a little over a week, i didnt message and finally i did and he replied with a huge text of reasons. He said "he missed me which was weird", arranged a date but i had to again cancel (one day before) then i asked to meet up (he cancelled on the same day) texted me next morning i replied with a joke and no reply ever since its been about 2/3 days now.
When we do meet he is the sweetest gentleman, and when he texts its always long and unforced. Its just past 2 weeks, He has been distant then talkative then distant and im just confused, it was going really well at first. I guess ill move on as im not really into games. What are your thoughts?
Thanks in advance!