Need suggestion - Cancer woman

"Then, I was talking to a female friend her who knows her past quite well today and asking what's her opinion about Cait. To my surprise, the only response I got is "Many males likes her. My honest suggestion is: find another girl. Don't put too much hope on her. Sorry, I cant give further info why"."



If this came from one of her friends, and this lady is still her friend and was only being honest ... then I would trust this.

If this lady friend said the above, hatefully, as if she is only pretending to be her friend .. then I would take it to mean she was being begrudging, for some reason, and wouldn't trust it.

If the above is a true and honest thought given to you for your own benefit as to the hidden character .... then I would believe what she was telling you, and write her off as being a player.

But, it really doesn't matter ..... people can get all the advise or insight they want on any topic before plunging in ... and will still take that leap.

Don't we all do that? We ask .. then we do anyway .. because, as people, we have to experience things for ourselves to know what it means.

You're welcome ... and I don't think it as silly to question any of this for your own sense of what is the right move for you. Think about this from a different angle ... yes, you could just ask her, point blank, however ..... IF ..... the below is true, then what exactly do you think she is going to tell you, if she leads men on to keep them on a string? If the below is true .. do you honestly believe that she will tell you that she is playing all sides?


"none of them seems successfully get her love. She does know that there are couple men waiting for her, but she seems playing smart to keep each of these guys (including me) to think that he is the only one pursuing her."



Don't be fooled by the manipulation of a woman who is "playing" ... women are experts at getting what they want out of man.

Think about this ..... here's the fun loving, easy going woman, who is a joy to be around in public .. wouldn't this kind of persona have many people wanting to hang with her? Yet, in private, she dumps all her seriousness about feelings into the mix, and actually rejects her "other" public personality ... why?

Wouldn't that be a flag waving .. telling you that how she presents herself in front of a group of men, is quite different than how she truly is? Why?

"a bit of her personal life, life problem, her/my disappointment, her worry about her future, etc"

The above is a net, a trap ... to sucker you in, most likely, to make you think that she is in need of rescuing ... she has problems, her life is disappointing, she worries about her future .... 95% of the time, and if you try to lighten convo up, she shrugs it off so she can continue to get sympathy from you because her life is so sorry.

Yet, in public ... she's not sorry at all, is she?

Women are clever ... don't be suckered. If her life was really so miserable, do you honestly think she would be such a joy to be around when other people are watching?

Here's another angle in which you SHOULD ponder, and being a Virgo, I know you will 😉 ...... you were friends for 3 years before you started having deeper feelings for her, and you had no idea that men were into her. Don't you find that odd?

Why would she hide this from a friend? Furthermore, if she is so sweet, fun loving, a joy to be around .. then wouldn't logic dictate that there should be NUMEROUS men wanting her attention? Yet, she kept this secret from a friend ... why?

"none of them seems successfully get her love. She does know that there are couple men waiting for her, but she seems playing smart to keep each of these guys (including me) to think that he is the only one pursuing her."



I'm inclined to absolutely believe the above to be true ... afterall, you've been friends with her for three years and had no clue ...

... so, she is quite smart in keeping each of these men (including you) to think that he is the only one.

In my immediate circle, there are four Cancerians.

The one that is July 7th, is very much as you describe. The two at the end of June are very different (but similar to each other).

Whether that holds true as a trend, I have no idea.

She is very dramatic, there always seems to be a mini-crisis on the go. She is exceptionally funny in one-to-ones, just as you say, but more 'preoccupied' (with what thoughts I don't know) socially.

me being a cancer i will say we are secretive people until we can trust you. we will let you know what we want you to know and nothing more. it takes us a while to analyze you and study you and conclude we truly can trust you. loyalty and trust are big in our book. so like virgotome said, if you really want to know things about her then you need to ask her directly. good luck!