Pisces Female, Virgo Male

I've known him for 20 yrs. Been through his ups and downs with him. Walked through his personal hell beside him. Basically dedicated my heart and soul. Loved him from the first meeting. With being the only one there for him he has sure become selfish and self centered. I've been a dedicated Pisces without all the drama stuff. But my flexibility, generosity, loyalty, and trust have been taken for granted ad damaged. What happened? How can he turn something happening to me into something about him?

I don't get it. Where did the Jekyl and Hyde routine come from?

If you've really been there for him for the last 20 years, where is your insight?

He was consistent for a long time. It just stopped. I never slammed a door in his face. I didn't do anything to hurt him. We've known each other that long but it doesn't mean we've been in a romantic relationship that long. I know him inside and out but this is new behaviour and is throwing me for a loop. I've read other posts about getting distant then getting close then disappearing again. All that is happening and extreme pickiness.

Before all this things we're fine. It's just been in the last year. New behaviour with no explanation = confusing.

It would be nice if I got some information instead of judgemental comments.

Posted by Omniphish

It would be nice if I got some information instead of judgemental comments.

You haven't given us any details, only vague open ended comments without clarification.

So, for you to state the above is ridiculous.

You want something done for you, but, you're not willing to give us the information so that you can get good advice. If this is what you're doing to him, then you're not this awesome person you think you are to him.

Talk about selfish !!!! you've got it in spades. You EXPECT answers without giving proper information.

Since you stated that you two haven't been in a romantic relationship, I assume you two are just friends. You seem to be quite wedged up his butt, for a person who has no business even riding his testicles.

My suggestion is to check yourself ....... you appear to be deluded.

Wow. Was that harsh response necessary. Maybe we could ask her politely to give us more information so we may assist her.

I might also add that this is typical immature Pisces female behavior ..... and it could take years before your bubble gets popped so that reality can set in.

You said .......

Been through his ups and downs with him. Walked through his personal hell beside him. Basically dedicated my heart and soul. Loved him from the first meeting. With being the only one there for him he has sure become selfish and self centered. I've been a dedicated Pisces without all the drama stuff. But my flexibility, generosity, loyalty, and trust have been taken for granted ad damaged. What happened? How can he turn something happening to me into something about him

that translate to: you keeping score and expecting to get paid back

How selfish of you. If you give a person your everything, it's because that is a gift. If you only do it get a return, then you're not sincere .. you're an opportunist.

If it's taken you 20 years to realize you're being the fool Pisces who is giving when nobody is asking you to sacrifice, then you're a martyr, not a victim.


My suggestion is to check yourself, you appear deluded.

Posted by Annie1

Maybe "we" could ....

I'm not a part of a "we" that has anything to do with you.

You do whatever the fuck you want.


What are you 5 years old?

Posted by Omniphish

.... being the only one there for him ....

You can usually always tell that you're dealing with a fucked up person when they say bullshit like the above.