Please help me understand the Virgo man

I need help-this Virgo man has me so perplexed. I would really appreciate advice from a Virgo man or a person that's been in a situation similar to mine. About a month ago I met a Virgo man I had been talking to on a dating website. We have seen each other regularly (1 to 2 days a week) since we met. Our second date we spent the entire day at an amusement park and our most recent date was a Halloween party given by my family, where he met a majority of my family members. I am a Leo with a very keen perception but this man has me stumped! I cannot figure him out. This is my confusion: 1) when we are together, we are "together", we are very couple-like. Even in public. He calls me honey and baby and is very attentive and affectionate. At the amusement park he held my hand the entire day and while in line for rides he would run my back or kiss me on the forehead constantly. He was the same way in front of my family. When we got back from the party he asked if I thought my family liked him and if I thought he would be welcome to more family functions, which led me to think he plans on sticking around. We are on each others Facebook and he has no issue with me tagging him in pics of us together where they show on his page. Pics where we look like a couple. People commented on the pics about how good we look together and one comment referred to us as a couple and he's never said anything about it or acted like it bothers him. My issue is this, when we are not together its like I don't exist. I barely hear from him and usually I have to initiate contact. When we have spent time together and he is leaving we usually make tentative plans for the next time and I may not hear from him until it gets closer to that day. It confuses me terribly. How can he seem so interested in me when we are together then be so distant when we are not. Is this just typical Virgo man behavior? It makes me question his interest level.
Confusion 2) the dating website. I noticed he is still regularly getting in the dating website we met on. Since we have never discussed if we are still talking to/seeing other people I don't feel comfortable bringing the website up to him. He mentioned it one day so I expressed to him that if he's is till regularly getting on the site it makes me question his interest in me. His response was "wow, really?" I'm so confused, please help me understand him!!!

SLOW DOWN! You are just dating, he hasn't made himself exclusive with you yet and if you keep bringing up issues that are based on "we" and "us" concepts before the relationship is established this will be over for you real fast.

If you don't exist when you're out of his presence then there is no real relationship (yet) so you can tag all the pictures you want but that won't change anything. If you're patient the situation can turn into a real relationship but not because you're requesting a relationship from him because you've spent some good times together, it has to be something he wants for himself and nothing you can do/say will convince him of that but what can convince him NOT to be with you is if you continue with this "instant relationship" behavior/attitude, that kind of behavior and thinking will get you kicked to the curb real fast.

He's into you, the signs are there that he's interested but if claim him, become territorial and clingy before he's made up his mind it won't work out well for you.

Thank you sugaries and tiki33 for the replies. From everything I've read about Virgo men you both made very good points. I've never dated a Virgo man before and this is very new to me. I usually date men that want to be up my rear end 24/7 which sends me running the opposite direction. I will take the advice and will take one day at a time and let it run its own course.

Posted by sugaries

.... people say they've see the person they're dating still signing into the dating website they met on. Maybe he's checking to see if you're still signing in like you're doing to him?

That's a very good point.

If you are seeing him on the website .. then that means YOU are still on the website.

Posted by tiki33

If you don't exist when you're out of his presence then there is no real relationship

Well that's bullshit.


To the OP, you should probably be careful of listening to people who have no experience with Virgos because the above quote is in error of the Virgo nature.

Posted by Kimberlylw4

I barely hear from him and usually I have to initiate contact. When we have spent time together and he is leaving we usually make tentative plans for the next time and I may not hear from him until it gets closer to that day. It confuses me terribly. How can he seem so interested in me when we are together then be so distant when we are not. I

Is this just typical Virgo man behavior?

Yes, typical

The Virgo man works opposite of tiki told you.

LOL Fuck off P, stop worrying about me, jealous fool, you don't have to discredit what I say to make yourself appear competent, lousy hating ass attention seeking bitter troll.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Kimberlylw4

I barely hear from him and usually I have to initiate contact. When we have spent time together and he is leaving we usually make tentative plans for the next time and I may not hear from him until it gets closer to that day. It confuses me terribly. How can he seem so interested in me when we are together then be so distant when we are not. I

Is this just typical Virgo man behavior?

Yes, typical

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Hey there! For me (I know Im a woman so maybe its a little different....) but when Im not initiating contact its because when I did either I felt there was some hesitation or that I may be bugging the person? I would say to probably ask him about it. In a non-pressure kind of way etc. I prefer if the other person contacts me. You can tell if Im interested etc if Im really chatty with you if you text me and its slow and stagnant then Im probably not into you...

I already see a few ladies in this forum who date Virgo men met at dating site for a few months and have very similar experience. I have been dating one for half a year too and we both are still on the site (i hided a few times)since he doesn't want to hide his profile and I don't seem to exist either, when we don't meet. I already lose most of my interest and patience now, and have no expectation.

I wonder if Virgo men can deal with a couple of women in the same way at the time before they commit and don't feel bad at all that he keep those women waiting? Those women don't exist unless they date but will the Virgo men think of them when they don't contact each other??

Many Virgo men tend to reply texts slow. Does the speed of reply mean something in some way?

They dont ALL respond slowly. But don't chase him. Once he gets to know you better, and if he really really catches a 'feeling' for you, he will text more readily. But if you push and not give him his freedom, he will withdraw..in the beginning if its too soon for him. Once mine made up his mind to commit to me, he has always replied promptly like he would his 'wife'.

He's not off because he doesn't feel he needs to be right now. I had a Taurus man who didnt hide his profile either but told me he didnt want me dating anyone else, so I hid mine. I thought it odd. Obviosuly we aren't together..

I wouldnt hide mine if he doesn't hide his until/unless it becomes more serious and that takes time and talk.

Thank you for all the responses. I have not been on for a while. There is an update: soon after posting my original post I did confront the issues, via text. His response was that he was still as interested in me as he always has been but he doesn't feel the need to stay in constant contact with me. Then he seemed to shut down even more than before. He said "do you know the feeling of satisfaction you get when you randomly text someone and you know they didn't expect it so it made them happy? You're taking that away from me. I can never text you and it be that I've done it just because I was thinking about you and wanted to, I'm always texting you as a response to a text from you." After my response to that text his response was "it's like you're trying to get me to lose interest in you, so now I just did. I'm sorry."

There was no communication between the 2 of us whatsoever for over a week until I was offered 2 tickets to a NFL game and I invited him. He said yes that he would love to go. I have seen him once since I invited him to the game. Everything is the same as before except I have stepped way back. I let him initiate contact, which he has, the day after seeing me just to tell me that it was great seeing me again and he had a good time. He did tell me through text that it was never that he lost interest but that I was coming on way to strong. Which is typical for my Leo nature. I'm a very "in your face" kinda person.

I'm still as perplexed as before. I know that I probably never would have heard from him if I had not invited him to the game. I'm hoping that's not the only reason he is talking to me again but only time will reveal that.

From what I've read, Virgo men are genuinely good men. So I'm willing to just give it time and see how it goes.

Thanks

And in response to an earlier suggestion of waiting to sleep with him, we did sleep together after getting in contact again. And now, with the infrequency of contact I feel like a booty call. I have read that Virgo men tend to be monogomous when it comes to sex even if its not in the realm of a "relationship" so I hope I'm not just one of many women he's sleeping with. Because of his personality I'm afraid to say anything cuz heat see it as "pushing" and back away again. I'm not trying to rush this into being a relationship but I'm also not comfortable with sleeping with someone who is sleeping with other people. It's just not my style . So now, this is a new confusion. I'm beginning to wonder if having someone so mentally complex is worth it.

You need to...
-continue to date others just as he is doing.
-Don't be at his beck-n-call on his terms
-Don't be so..available
-live your life for you, not around him only when he decises to pop in and out
-virgo's don't like needy people..they like confidant people
-be his friend first without sex
-they can cheat as much as any other sign
-listen to what he has already said...those are your cues...