Political or Understanding——?

Hi friends!!!!

The topic sure sounds weird. But i need some opinions on this. Is beign understanding of ohters flaws and yet continuing freindship a sign of being political? A few -very few of my freinds think that showing understandign to a person who has been mean in the past is being political ..unneeded diplomacy. One should just "get rid off" .. whats your opinion...jsut thinking aloud and throwing it out there for your perspectives.

I guess it all depends on whether or not you're happy with the frienship. When I'm having a rough patch in a friendship I ask mysef: Do I feel disrespected? Do I feel that this person does not care about my feelings? Does being in this friendship bring me personal happiness.. despite the times they have been mean? I don't think there's anything "political" about continuing friendships with those of whom I've enjoyed their company (and still do). Friendships, relationships.. whatever-- for extended periods of time are hard to maintain-- because people emotionally "bump" into each other.

....I had a friend for 14 years, and we stopped talking for at least 1 of them, but even though we were terrible to each other, somehow we found "center", and now we're closer than before.

I think it depends on the people and situation too.Although,I am more likely to deal with peoples flaws due to understanding them and through it realising they aren't that big of a deal.People are going to get mad,have bad days,screw up,say things they don't mean,etc. so holding it against someone when yourself is just as guilty of it is kinda selfesh,childesh and ignorant when it comes to normal friendship and other types of relationships.If only we could all be perfect little angels...😛

Looneybird this post is sure a refreshing change from all the test links you have been posting. Though i must admit that I enjoyed some of the tests.

Now to feed this topic with my perspective. Getting back to a person who has been mean is mark of understanding if we truly appreciate what the person stands for. To "forgive" is certainly sign of maturity and understanding and to "forgive and forget" a sign of high level of acceptance. But if we are getting back to a truamatic association just because we don't want to lose some benefits is certainly "political".Infact in my terms it is nothing short of "a.s.s kissing".

Being political means?..

?When your intentions are to be close to several people with totally different agendas and ideas (for your own personal cases, matters.. or perhaps amusements)! Without being forced to take a side, is being political.?

Living in grey zone??!

But in Reality..! You can not ?stay? between HOT & COLD at the same time..! If you are, then it will be interpreted as you are acting politically and being instable in your choice, this kind of behaviour ?in most cases? disturbing people around you and it could forcing them to limit their trust and ultimately isolating you (it?s not about balances or understanding the patterns and flaws) it?s about having a clear choice and acting accordingly?!


If someone being mean to you then you already know this person is mean, what do you want to understand more about it..? Or do you want to betray yourself by being close to this mean person under the excuses like ?trying to study and understand the flaws??

Black and white world?? Perhaps? but that?s the way it is, always was? always will be.

Clear line and definitions between relations (what ever ship) is important factor, its about trust, truth, honesty and being loyal both to yourself and to the source, or else the whole damn humanity, their belief and their standards goes to hell in one go.

Hope this was help?!

Just to clear up,Im not refering to being taken advantage of,disrespected and such,I work with flaws in people because of honesty,trust,truth and being loyal for boths parties.Im not too easy to take an arguement as a sign of those things being a problem with it,it's a fight and what it's developing is a deeper and more honest relationship thats proving it's reality if it survives through it and grows stronger is my point of view on it.Theres two poeple and that includes my own problems(im not perfect) as well as thiers(they aien't perfect either) so dropping a relationship or friendship just because someone snaps at me for doing something that annoys them is something I should probably consider taking into perspective as they do themselves.If the two want to work it out,it needs to be worked out over sitting on it and letting it turn to hate when it could've been avoided if only the two confronted each other and talked about it.

No two people are going to be exactly alike so will have issues to work out cause otherwise I think im being unrealistic about it.It's an issue of whether or not I want it to work out for the friendship or relationship and all are that way in differant ways but the POV on laying it all(including the negative) on the table is differant and how the person deals with it.Sometimes they make good observations and have good reason for it but sometimes they don't so it depends on the situation and people.Honesty is the best policy to me and sometimes it's mean even when theres a good willed reason behind it.Kinda like if someone told you you were lazy when all you do is sit around the house all day while the lawn needs mowed,dishes are smeeling bad and growing mold,dogs getting skinny and whining for food,etc.type situation is what I meaning by this.

It comes to the same point with having a good judgement about that specific person. If you think that this person has good intentions but uses language not in the way you appeal, then this is tolerable.

"Is beign understanding of ohters flaws and yet continuing freindship a sign of being political?"

The answer itself is in this sentence. If you know that they flaw then they should be informed about that and they have to take necessary precuations to prevent it happening in the future.

It is a part of friendship to inform about flaws. It's a responsibility. Not saying flaws and continuing is just not a friendship.

Everything should be spoken explained and understood. Nothing being hold in back of your mind. This is not just responsibility for "your" friends, but for humanity too.