Question for virgos.

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gya
@gya
15 Years

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I've been dating this virgo man for 1 month. By dating I mean, he's been taking me out to nice quality places. He's been texting me and we were also fooling around in his place. But we never spoke of a relationship or where our situation is going. So yesterday he texted me some dirtyish message and I thought it would be a perfect moment to bring it up. He then asked me what I was looking for and by taking my friend's advice I made a mistake by being too straightforward and I said a man and relationship. He replied to me that: Well One day, you can't get it overnight. I asked what his intentions are and he said good ones 😉 I then asked him to define it. He replied later in the day: Live life to the fullest and enjoy spending time with ppl around u. And basically didn't give me the concrete answer. I know I shouldn't of asked him this via text and it was in a spur of a moment. I don't want him to think I'm desperate or him to lose attraction towards me. I'm not trying to rush anything but I just want to at least know this is going somewhere. Do you think it's possible to turn casual dating with sex into a relationship? Because I like this man and I don't want to be just another woman for him. Any signs I should look out for?
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RealTalk
@RealTalk
14 Years1,000+ Posts

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It all depends. I have had a casual encounter that turned into a relationship, so it can happen. It depends on the guy & you also have to play ya cards right...I don't think you should've addressed him about a relationship via text message, especially when he sent you a dirty message. Uh...no, you ruined the moment. That would kinda freak me out a bit...

"baby I can't wait to see you naked & kiss all over your body"

So where is this relationship going? I want a man & a relationship...see what I mean? Come on. You were totally off that's why he responded the way he did. Why do you want to expedite the relationship? You come off as desperate by rushing things. Go with the flow & take it easy, it's been 1 MONTH for christ sake. Sheeeesh...
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gya
@gya
15 Years

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Yeah I do feel I've scared him off a bit. Is there something I could do to get things back to it's place? I mean after that when he responded, I said: No I understand. You just wanna have fun? and he responded: Not like you think, I just want to enjoy life and not think what's gonna happen a year from now. Take it day by day. and my response was Ahh I see... I still haven't figured out his response but I sure always knew when a man doesn't give a clear answer regarding the future of relationships/committment, it means he sees none.
Well I am taking it slow. I was just curious if he even thinks there's a possibility of 'us' in the future. He never said anything.