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Re-post Oh Juicy Virgo Question :)
DATE AND A KISS
A few weeks go by and Virgo seems to be dropping a lot of hints about getting together. I continue to have conversation with him but stay away from the dating topics, just simple friendly conversations. Until I realize that I actually am digging him and I decided to give in. He never comes out and actually asks me to go to the movies but the hints had become so obvious that he might as well have. Anyways, he remembered that I had mentioned wanting to see the new Batman movie so one Saturday when he text me I steered the conversation towards my plans that evening and asked him what he was doing. He said he was planning on going to see Batman and Borne. I told him I forgot Batman was still playing and that I needed to go see it soon. His response was asking me if I was going to go by myself. I told him no that I was going to go with him that evening. He was all for it. So we went and we had a great time. We even hung out the next few nights at my place. He ended up kissing me which was on the third night. I thought he was into me and then BAM he stopped talking to me. I read up on Virgos and found they needed space??_so I gave it. Then I eventually said enough and straight up asked what was up. He said that he had just gotten out of a 10 year relationship and is not ready for anything. I told him that I understood (which I honestly do) and that I had no hard feelings towards him or his reasoning. Also that if he wanted to remain friends that I am cool with that too. Soooo??_.I had left it at and gave him more space.
A few weeks go by and Virgo seems to be dropping a lot of hints about getting together. I continue to have conversation with him but stay away from the dating topics, just simple friendly conversations. Until I realize that I actually am digging him and I decided to give in. He never comes out and actually asks me to go to the movies but the hints had become so obvious that he might as well have. Anyways, he remembered that I had mentioned wanting to see the new Batman movie so one Saturday when he text me I steered the conversation towards my plans that evening and asked him what he was doing. He said he was planning on going to see Batman and Borne. I told him I forgot Batman was still playing and that I needed to go see it soon. His response was asking me if I was going to go by myself. I told him no that I was going to go with him that evening. He was all for it. So we went and we had a great time. We even hung out the next few nights at my place. He ended up kissing me which was on the third night. I thought he was into me and then BAM he stopped talking to me. I read up on Virgos and found they needed space??_so I gave it. Then I eventually said enough and straight up asked what was up. He said that he had just gotten out of a 10 year relationship and is not ready for anything. I told him that I understood (which I honestly do) and that I had no hard feelings towards him or his reasoning. Also that if he wanted to remain friends that I am cool with that too. Soooo??_.I had left it at and gave him more space.
BACK TO BEING FRIENDS
Not even a few days later he is back at texting me again. It was not like our normal conversations had been. They were more awkward from him??_.like he almost did not know how to talk with me. I had pretty much already gathered my thoughts on the whole situation and he was back in the —friend zone?? per say. So I kept the conversations like the had used to been. He would go days on and off talking to me. No big deal. This went on for a week or so and in this time frame I went on a date. This happen to come up in casual conversation with some other coworkers in front of him in which he became quite towards me for a few days. This date ended up going no where after the first date and I none the less decided to put a rest to dating because work had been picking up for myself on the weekends and I tend to not like sacrificing my personal time for dates when I become busy with work.
Not even a few days later he is back at texting me again. It was not like our normal conversations had been. They were more awkward from him??_.like he almost did not know how to talk with me. I had pretty much already gathered my thoughts on the whole situation and he was back in the —friend zone?? per say. So I kept the conversations like the had used to been. He would go days on and off talking to me. No big deal. This went on for a week or so and in this time frame I went on a date. This happen to come up in casual conversation with some other coworkers in front of him in which he became quite towards me for a few days. This date ended up going no where after the first date and I none the less decided to put a rest to dating because work had been picking up for myself on the weekends and I tend to not like sacrificing my personal time for dates when I become busy with work.
NOW THE JUICY STUFF??_.
After the few days of little conversation Virgo began to talk to me a lot more. One of our late night conversations actually let to a friends with benefits conversations. I had done this onece before and he had not done it at all. I gave it some thought and decided I was in the perfect position to do this because I??_.A) was not (still not) looking for anything serious due to lack of time. B) do not mind having the companionship but not one to —hoe?? around to get it. While we had the discussion about being FWB we never came up with a decision. Again, a few weeks went by and no word from Virgo until one day out of the blue he started talking again. We talked for a few days about everything and it seemed that our conversations were getting better and better after these little breaks. He ended up coming over on a Sunday night and we ended up sleeping together. It was freakin amazing! He came over again the next night and it was even better! He backed off again and I gave him the space and carried on with myself. He came back after a few days and it was like he hit a switch and been non stop since??_. we had a blast together. We do not always talk during the day but we sometimes will send lil texts every now and then and they sex is AMAZING??_.I found his side that likes it dirty and I embraced it ahha!!!!!!
After the few days of little conversation Virgo began to talk to me a lot more. One of our late night conversations actually let to a friends with benefits conversations. I had done this onece before and he had not done it at all. I gave it some thought and decided I was in the perfect position to do this because I??_.A) was not (still not) looking for anything serious due to lack of time. B) do not mind having the companionship but not one to —hoe?? around to get it. While we had the discussion about being FWB we never came up with a decision. Again, a few weeks went by and no word from Virgo until one day out of the blue he started talking again. We talked for a few days about everything and it seemed that our conversations were getting better and better after these little breaks. He ended up coming over on a Sunday night and we ended up sleeping together. It was freakin amazing! He came over again the next night and it was even better! He backed off again and I gave him the space and carried on with myself. He came back after a few days and it was like he hit a switch and been non stop since??_. we had a blast together. We do not always talk during the day but we sometimes will send lil texts every now and then and they sex is AMAZING??_.I found his side that likes it dirty and I embraced it ahha!!!!!!
MORE JUICE
Lots of laughing and I have to say he has been the funnest person to be around. We are always laughing together and have the stupidest jokes. Each time we hangout the sex gets better and the friendship gets better. We talk about anything and everything. I can be myself and he can be his. No pressure of anything which is such a relief! Then when we go our separate ways its not, —where are you— — who are you with— BlaH Blah blah blah? Its honestly the best combination of sex and a friendship I have ever had. We have been doing this for about a month now. He has come over almost everyday MAYBE skipping a day in between , like I said its like he flipped a switch and its been non stop and he has spent the night a handful of times. Not every time have we had sex, like ive warned him that AUNT flo is visiting, that its that time (I know TMI but it ties into my story) and he came over to just chill and we cuddled. He ended up sleeping over. He has started to hangout around me more at work and actually talks to me more publically. He is always jokingly telling me he is does not care, like for example if I start to say —oh ya??_.I got to go do this and that??_.?? He goes — I don't care?? or — no one here cares??.
Anyways, I am honestly starting to like him a little more than I should??_.I know SHAME on ME! RIGHT! Oh well what can a woman do!? That Is why I am HERE! My problem is??_.Last night he came over??_..we did our normal goofing off, wrestling around and poking fun at each other. It is still that TIME and I told him that??_.well he INSISTED??_.so we did ( go ahead say it ewwww gross but do not act like you adults have not done it). He pretty much got up cleaned up and left. Now he said —I am going home?? and this was as I was walking into the bathroom. I said —what? Ok— and I shut the bathroom door. He was gone before I got out of the bathroom. WTF!? No bye??_.NOTHING. I have not text him or anything because I am still trying to process and I am wondering if I should start walking away because I am starting to get feelings.
Lots of laughing and I have to say he has been the funnest person to be around. We are always laughing together and have the stupidest jokes. Each time we hangout the sex gets better and the friendship gets better. We talk about anything and everything. I can be myself and he can be his. No pressure of anything which is such a relief! Then when we go our separate ways its not, —where are you— — who are you with— BlaH Blah blah blah? Its honestly the best combination of sex and a friendship I have ever had. We have been doing this for about a month now. He has come over almost everyday MAYBE skipping a day in between , like I said its like he flipped a switch and its been non stop and he has spent the night a handful of times. Not every time have we had sex, like ive warned him that AUNT flo is visiting, that its that time (I know TMI but it ties into my story) and he came over to just chill and we cuddled. He ended up sleeping over. He has started to hangout around me more at work and actually talks to me more publically. He is always jokingly telling me he is does not care, like for example if I start to say —oh ya??_.I got to go do this and that??_.?? He goes — I don't care?? or — no one here cares??.
Anyways, I am honestly starting to like him a little more than I should??_.I know SHAME on ME! RIGHT! Oh well what can a woman do!? That Is why I am HERE! My problem is??_.Last night he came over??_..we did our normal goofing off, wrestling around and poking fun at each other. It is still that TIME and I told him that??_.well he INSISTED??_.so we did ( go ahead say it ewwww gross but do not act like you adults have not done it). He pretty much got up cleaned up and left. Now he said —I am going home?? and this was as I was walking into the bathroom. I said —what? Ok— and I shut the bathroom door. He was gone before I got out of the bathroom. WTF!? No bye??_.NOTHING. I have not text him or anything because I am still trying to process and I am wondering if I should start walking away because I am starting to get feelings.
MY QUESTIONS
My questions for all you fine young people is. What do you think this Virgo has going on in his head? Am I missing something!? Do you think he MIGHT have some feelings towards me? Or should I try too get one more good WAMBAM in with the Virgo and haul the other way?
My questions for all you fine young people is. What do you think this Virgo has going on in his head? Am I missing something!? Do you think he MIGHT have some feelings towards me? Or should I try too get one more good WAMBAM in with the Virgo and haul the other way?
Posted by Let*It*Be
"MY QUESTIONS
My questions for all you fine young people is. What do you think this Virgo has going on in his head? Am I missing something!? Do you think he MIGHT have some feelings towards me? Or should I try too get one more good WAMBAM in with the Virgo and haul the other way?
No questions allowed with FWB.
ahh You are so right. I need to pull my head back out my butt...and stop thinking about this. As for your other post. I wouldnt blame him. I hold myself accountable for my actions and I know what the rules are so it is not his fault if I break them knowing them full on. So no need to worry about that!
Uhleeh,
If a guy was ready to be in a committed relationship + felt chemistry with you, he would not beat about the bush the way he did in the beginning. He would ask you out. He would not ask you to text him. He would not be cryptic. The shyest guy in the world, if he was ready and attracted to you, would make it happen without baiting you to step up and do it for him, which is what he did. I know being an observer is far easier to see this than when you're smack dab in it, but this is the truth.
Every time something happens between a man and woman and the man backs off, the usual reason given a thousand times is "he is not ready" or "he's seeing someone else.". FWB? Not too many women can pull that off intact, especially a water sign who feels deeply. So how can that even be an option for you?! I know I know, you really wanted to be its him. He obviously has intimacy issues, let his guard down to enjoy the pseudo-relationship for a time. But he really is ill-equipped for true intimacy.
Let the signs of a guy being wishy washy and vague in the beginning be a red flag.
If a guy was ready to be in a committed relationship + felt chemistry with you, he would not beat about the bush the way he did in the beginning. He would ask you out. He would not ask you to text him. He would not be cryptic. The shyest guy in the world, if he was ready and attracted to you, would make it happen without baiting you to step up and do it for him, which is what he did. I know being an observer is far easier to see this than when you're smack dab in it, but this is the truth.
Every time something happens between a man and woman and the man backs off, the usual reason given a thousand times is "he is not ready" or "he's seeing someone else.". FWB? Not too many women can pull that off intact, especially a water sign who feels deeply. So how can that even be an option for you?! I know I know, you really wanted to be its him. He obviously has intimacy issues, let his guard down to enjoy the pseudo-relationship for a time. But he really is ill-equipped for true intimacy.
Let the signs of a guy being wishy washy and vague in the beginning be a red flag.
If you fuck him again, now that you have feelings for him .... then you're a liar.
You will allow it to happen while deceiving him, and letting him believe you are still FWB .. when in reality, you fuck him in hopes that he catches feelings.
let's see if you do the right thing at this point ... or drop your knickers again
You will allow it to happen while deceiving him, and letting him believe you are still FWB .. when in reality, you fuck him in hopes that he catches feelings.
let's see if you do the right thing at this point ... or drop your knickers again
Actually p angel i did cut things off tonight and haven't seen him since before i posted this question SO no liar here. Thanks.
Posted by Virgospirit
Uhleeh,
If a guy was ready to be in a committed relationship + felt chemistry with you, he would not beat about the bush the way he did in the beginning. He would ask you out. He would not ask you to text him. He would not be cryptic. The shyest guy in the world, if he was ready and attracted to you, would make it happen without baiting you to step up and do it for him, which is what he did. I know being an observer is far easier to see this than when you're smack dab in it, but this is the truth.
Every time something happens between a man and woman and the man backs off, the usual reason given a thousand times is "he is not ready" or "he's seeing someone else.". FWB? Not too many women can pull that off intact, especially a water sign who feels deeply. So how can that even be an option for you?! I know I know, you really wanted to be its him. He obviously has intimacy issues, let his guard down to enjoy the pseudo-relationship for a time. But he really is ill-equipped for true intimacy.
Let the signs of a guy being wishy washy and vague in the beginning be a red flag.
The crazy thing is I have pulled it off before and been fine. But it was different with him. I did cut things off for both our sakes. Thank you for the good insight.
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