REGRETS??.......do you come back? :(

i feel like my virgo boy takes me completely forgranted. and i feel like if we did break up, no matter whos terms it was on, he would regret it.


1) Do VIRGO'S often realize what they had??


2)do they come back?

I know, i do chill out ALOT and STOP giving, and it works.. but before i know it he just does it all again.

a PERFECT example of how EFFING SELF CENTRED HE IS HAPPENED 5 minutes ago.

tonight we are going to our friends house for drinks, but he doesnt want to drink and last night i asked him because he isnt drinking, can we go together and ill drink, and he can drive he said yes!..

so i just messaged him saying "hey, we will go to our friends at 7, hey??"

and he wrote back "oh nah im gonna go earlier babe"

so i said "um okay, so i have to drive myself now"

and he said "u expect me to wait until 7 to go there, lol im going about 5"


and i said "no, 7 was a suggestion, i dont care what time we go.. silly to go in 2 cars"

and he hasnt written back.


SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!! WHY THE EFF DOES HE HAVE TO BE SO DIFFICULT. if it was the other way around i would have said "nah id liek to go earlier.." and actually COMPROMISE to a time that suits us both.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he is ALWAYS selfish liek this! im SO OVER IT im over giving him THE WORLD. and getting a big EFF all back.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
You're only 22 years old and your stressed over this guy. Drop him. Your young. Millions of guys out there. Just make sure you bag one before age 27 so your eggs don't die.

That's my only advice to you. Why play games. You want a man who appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted. You can't always have him chase you, the whole point of a relationship is that your caught and your there for him, if he can't handle that...bump him

By the way it's always good to have your own personal goals/life outside the relationship, but I can tell this is frustrating you and I don't recall being that frustrated over men at 22....

i know i need to break up with him

its just SOOO hard 😢

there is alot i like about him but he stresses me out so much, so sick of giving him my everything and getting FUCCCKKKK all back!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't actually feel he did anything wrong, he just didn't do what you expected him to do but he's free to change his mind.

Just because a guy says I'm your boyfriend doesn't mean he's going to be 100% available and dependable. Also if you're more flexible then you'd know to have a plan B and plan C. You can't count on anyone but yourself.

well now i said to him "if i get mum to drop me off, ill still go home with u?"

his answer: "i guess so"

then i said whats ur problem he said "i hate when u try make me plan stuff!!!!!!!!!!!"

so now i said "im not making u do anything CALL THE EFF DOWN!, what have i tried to make u do please tell me— I asked to go home with u...yes thats making a plan, but u said ur self ur not drinking and ur driving so why is that SO HARD"


then he didnt reply so i said "look, i dont want to argue, please can we not argue?. xxxxx"

he said "im not"


then i said "okay, well ill get mum to drop me and ill see u tonight, ok? xxx"


didnt reply.



now, i am thinking of not going at all. and not telling him im not going, just to give him space..

what do i do, im so upset and crying at work

1) Do VIRGO'S often realize what they had??

Yes. As soon as we notice everyone is in a relationship but us & we are alone

2)do they come back?

Maybe. If you meant a lot to us & didnt do anything horrible, we might THINK about returning and being friends. BUT for us to actually go through the motions of coming back and dating you again, you would have to always be on our mind. Like from morning to night. If we can't get you out of our heads, we will return

Posted by CluelessCancer


By the way it's always good to have your own personal goals/life outside the relationship, but I can tell this is frustrating you and I don't recall being that frustrated over men at 22....

This. You (OP) should not be crying (at work, no less) over something so simple/trivial...

for me, i sometimes do realize what i could have had after it is gone. if i am not feeling it at that point, i wont make myself feel. i am talking about one sided feelings. but at a later stage, if i developed any feelings, i would not hesitate to contact or reach out to that person, but then sometimes it is too late by then, or that person has outgrown his feelings hehe. it is a complicated life. we cry about life not being fair, but we make those choices. we don't want simple, we want complex 🙂

"then i said whats ur problem he said "i hate when u try make me plan stuff!!!!!!!!!!!"

so now i said "im not making u do anything CALL THE EFF DOWN!, what have i tried to make u do please tell me— I asked to go home with u...yes thats making a plan, but u said ur self ur not drinking and ur driving so why is that SO HARD""

He actually said the truth. You decided how it was going to be by telling him 7, you didn't actually ask him if 7 was okay so he replied 5 and then you went in on him about taking to 2 cars and driving by yourself. I mean where in the hell did you get all that from his response I don't know? But you escalated the situation so he said nothing because really what was he supposed to say to you after you flipped on him over a a decision he made about the time he was going out, sort of in an around about way planned the whole night for the both of you and that can appear controlling.

Of course you can break up with him but If this is the way you communicate via text message and misinterpret situations then you'll be dumping a whole lot of guys through out your life. Next time pick up the phone and communicate therefore you'll hear the tone in his voice and not jump down his throat.

"then i said whats ur problem he said "i hate when u try make me plan stuff!!!!!!!!!!!" "


^^^that's a Virgo's plea that really means STOP PUTTING MY PENIS IN A VICE GRIP!

You need to stop with the expectations, demands, temper tantrums and obsessing, cuz this Virgo is going to (if he hasn't already) walk.

Posted by tiki33
I don't actually feel he did anything wrong, he just didn't do what you expected him to do but he's free to change his mind.

Just because a guy says I'm your boyfriend doesn't mean he's going to be 100% available and dependable. Also if you're more flexible then you'd know to have a plan B and plan C. You can't count on anyone but yourself.

Posted by tiki33
I don't actually feel he did anything wrong, he just didn't do what you expected him to do but he's free to change his mind.

Just because a guy says I'm your boyfriend doesn't mean he's going to be 100% available and dependable. Also if you're more flexible then you'd know to have a plan B and plan C. You can't count on anyone but yourself.

I agree with this too .

Don't keep pushing because you will push him away with these type of tantrums and judging the way he replied " i guess " to you going home together tells me he's not to far from walking away from you anyway .

Don't play games because that never sits well . I would walk and once that choice is made i won't look back .