Returns

Okay, I haven't experienced this before so humor me, plus so many people have deleted their accounts all the virgo guy information is gone -- ie DY 😉

Okay, here's the thing,

If a certain virgo has come back into my life after falling off the face of the earth, how do I react.

He kind of disappeared without warning and his friends would come to me asking where I thought he could be. Never he has resurfaced. I'm not sure if I'm as excepting of his "grand return".

I understand that life happens (he had problems with his job, really terrible problems with his job), but I feel like he left without a thought of anyone else but himself.

I'm asking because I saw him but I did something very "cappy" like and I'm wondering if I shouldn't have done that ...

what did you do? ignore him? i'm not sure what's a "cappy" thing

Well, when I saw him, I pretended not to notice. I went in the other direction and didn't look back.

I wasn't sure if that was him, but then I realized it was. I didn't have anything to say. I didn't want to be phony and act like I was just waiting for him to return.

I'm not a fake, so I just couldn't do the whole, "I understand, come to me, my arms are wide open." Nope, that's totally not me.

I use to be this way in the past, but not now, the man is going to have to work for it 🙂 If he does not, then that's okay, I'm not holding my breath. There's way too many guys out there to be stuck on one, you know what I mean>

The question came after I thought about it, I was thinking, maybe he wanted to give an explanation but I didn't give him a chance to do so. Or do I even want one after he gets over his issues, I'm sure all his stuff is not resolved yet ...

I don't know, my opinion of him has changed since he disappeared.

If he hasn't already done so, you should ask him for a full explanation of what happened and why he should be reconsidered. Don't let him off the hook too easily.

Hi Mike 🙂

Don't worry, I'm not. I refuse to go to him, he has to come to me. I firmly believe, "You teach people how to treat you." I don't think I deserved that "disappearing act" because he has my number and he knows how to reach me.

I'm not saying he's a terrible man, I just think he needs to come back down to earth. Maybe then, we can talk 🙂 But until then, my back is turned.

CS - I admire what you did! I would do EXACTLY the same!! (being a Scorpio with a Capricorn moon!!)

He doesn't deserve to be treated otherwise especially since the way he treated you! I would just kick his butt (literally and figuratively) and find a better guy out there! There are MANY of them so all the best!

Oh boy, you just rewrote a chapter of my life. It is ENTIRELY up to him to take the responsibility to come to you with an explanation, in fact with the Virgo male, it is the perfect decision to do exactly that..nothing. If he had/and still has feelings for you an explanation or some sort of ice breaker WILL be forth coming. DON'T WAIT FOR IT. Go on as were before you (almost thought) you saw him and turned the other way. LOL - like I said, you rewrote a chapter of my life w/Virgo. If he does not come to you, he is not over the drama he went through. Time heals all wounds. 😉

I guess the thing that really sucks is the fact that I thought he was a guy with his head screwed on properly. I'm annoyed that I was wrong grrrrr!!!! lol

I agree with virgogotme to some extent. Virgos can be stand-offish with things like this and wait too long. However, I think this guy knows he messed up and that the responsibility is squarely with him to speak up or lose the opportunity. I do believe when Virgos know they're responsible that they are able to step up to the plate without hesitation if they're serious, so this should be a test of whether or not he really wants to start again.

I'm glad to hear this from you Mike 🙂 You are a virgo man and its cool to get the perspective of the man that shares the sign. He's a leo/virgo cusp so he may be too prideful to believe that he's wrong. Who knows? I'm not quite sure what I'd say to him if I did hear from him again ...

CS - I admire what you did! I would do EXACTLY the same!! (being a Scorpio with a Capricorn moon!!)

He doesn't deserve to be treated otherwise especially since the way he treated you! I would just kick his butt (literally and figuratively) and find a better guy out there! There are MANY of them so all the best!

I have a Aqua (I) moon, so have little patience for guys like him lol!!!!

Thank you so much for your support ED 🙂 I believe there are better ones too ... I just have to find them. I don't care what sign he is, I just don't want to get treated like this anymore 😢

OMG Cappy we are going thru something similar. and me being a Cap plan to react the same way. the only difference is mine is a long distance. he was so into me in the beginning, even mentioned wanting a committment. when i said yes, i noticed he started pulling some. that is when i came across all these sites, to better understand them. i admit it has helped, according to what i have read, they dissappear when the have feelings, and go into the anaylzing mode.(of course i wondered whether he had met someone nearby, it ended & now wants back with me) i cant make sense of it, and im an earth sign as well. he stopped contacting me, and out of the blue he sends me an email, telling me he thinks of me, cares alot,etc. i decided to open up more, and expressed the same in return. HOWEVER, i will play it safe, and like u he will have to work harder if he wants me back. I am totally with u, if u allow this treatment he will do it again..we may not be perfect, but we are loyal & will stick by them, but they need to come forward. and ill be damned if i am gonna wait yearssss as some do for him to make up his mind!!