VirGuys....

Do you like to be pursued or the pursuer?
And why or why not?

Im not asking this question to aid me with anything, Im just simply curios.

A game of chase is too complicated for a Virgo .. for it entails having to play, and they don't have the ability to keep up with such games, nor an interest to learn how to keep up.

They rely on an analytical approach in securing a partner according to the other person's trait in which would be valuable to them and the union. They won't pursue, nor allow another to pursue them ... instead, they will sit back and watch, calculate ... if the other person fits into their criteria for compatibility, then they will allow approach of the other person .. but, then they won't allow game playing in any fashion, such as hard to get.

Besides, it would never even get that far ... a Virgo would recognize the "hard to get" or any other game during the analyzing mode, so a player wouldn't even be considered further, once this awareness became apparant to them.

I think you're a robot with automatic answers at random times to certain threads.

Pumpkin, I don't believe in pursuing ANY man. F that. But, it appears that most women end up having to chase these men in order to snag them, which I find absurd and gay on the Virdude's part.


I shouldn't even use the word "snag". It implies having come upon a valuable object. lol

No, seriously though. I just don't think any man you have to chase is worth your time. Women courting men is just wierd. Even if it is 2008....

No, seriously though. I just don't think any man you have to chase is worth your time. Women courting men is just wierd. Even if it is 2008....

I thought I was the only one who felt that way 🙂 I feel odd when I feel that I have to chase a guy, its like giving him ego points or something.

Honestly, if a virgo guy really wants a women (sense they are so damn clueless when it comes to emotions), wouldn't he -out of all the male signs in the zodiac- chase her?

To me it's not necessarily a matter of chasing. It shouldn't have to go that route on either part.

I'm just not into a woman having to go out of her way/bend over backward to make it clear that she's digging a guy. Something's just not right about that. Men should have to make more compromise than women, because we carry the burden of the world on our shoulders. We go through way more than they do.

It's the way it is. ::shrugs::

don't you think that some games ppl play with others aren't games, but differences in opinion?

No 🙂 Games are games, hands down. It either is or it isn't. The worse part of game playing is playing with someones emotions, there's no in or outs with this.

i don't call ppl sometimes, cuz i don't want to, cuz im moody or some shit. I call later and say the reason was I didn't feel like it. they says I'm a game player. am I playing games with them?

Well ... no but there's a difference you see 😉 It depends on how long "later" is.

Oh goodness Brahn, not everything is so cut-throat dear 😉

i 100% agree with each of merc's posts above. i am the same way. i get accused of playing games when i don't.


i think sometimes, when you don't respond in a way that others think you should, they're quick to target and label you. you can't get mad b/c a person doesn't call you back immediately.

Branh, your comments are making sense to me because Im going through this with my Virguy. In fact, Im exhausted. I need to know what kind of woman is going to make it with you. I dont think this guy appreciates anything about me yet Im expected to turn my life upside down. Why am I doing this? He does seem terrified of as you say "being caught emotionally". Do you actually want a relationship? I dont know anymore. I was trying to be cool, free and not making him rush into anything. As you will already know I have no control over him but I am not trying to do that. Yes I want him to love me, even justa little, is that asking too much?? Maybe he knows this and wants to show me he wont go there. Maybe its the harsh honesty Im having trouble dealing with. Can you give me any advice although pretty much what you said above is what it is.

How should i say, IMO, they Virgo men, have the mind of a player and the heart of a poet w/a song to go with it. But listen closely and pay attention, for they simply mean what they say.....no more....no less.
Push/Pull
IN/OUT
Here/Gone
etc...................

All the while, we females, well, we look for meaning, where sometimes with a Virgo there is NONE.
When its good, its good, no need to fix what is not broken, be patient.
When its broken, its over, MOVE ON! RUN!

Just my two cents worth there on this subject.......

He has stared me in the eyes, classical sign, he has said he is into me, another, he has expressed monogamy to me, another, and he has opened his deepest places to me, another, yet, i dont hear from him often, he has no problem not responding to text as well he states how much he thinks of me.....and i am "fast friend" in eight months time......not to mention, as well as his lover....he didnt mention.....so it is what it is to them, and confusing as hell to me........yet, it is good. so?

He is worth every minute i get with him, which is what makes me want more. I would say a good sign, and i am learning patients. (Not easy for me at ALL mind you!)

If it is meant to be, it will be, if not, at least i got to expiernience such a kind, loving, gentle, good, gentleman.

No rose colored glasses.....nope

Patience is the key with Virguys...I wanted to give up on mine years ago. But for some reason I hung in there (which is not like me at ALL). You see, I felt like he was teaching me something - My Virgo is ALWAYS teaching me something about life or myself. He use to tell me that it was hard for him to accept that I was his soul mate. He fought it for a long time (while I knew it all along)...He'd push me away...closing me out, distancing - all the standard Virgo mess.

Did he disappear on you too? Like for a month or two, I don't think so 🙂 No wait, maybe they only do that to cappy girls 😉

I would love to be Goku's wife, I can totally put up with him being gone all the time, I have an Aquarius moon, that would be awesome LOL.

I wonder what would Goku's sign be ....

Perfect Gem Angel said: " yet, i dont hear from him often,"

Is it just me (Virgos) who doesn't do the initiating contact thing? My reasons for not calling a guy much or suggesting spending time together is because I always am unsure if that person wants to hear from me or spend time with me. I just wait to hear from that person. It assures me that it's wanted because I already know I want it.

Plus, I do give the signs that PGA's Virguy gave her and I will have seen signs from my guys that they are in to me, but requesting time (precious) from someone just seems tricky if you're not sure they feel up to talking or spending time.

So, I, personally, as a Virgo, do not initiate communication, but it does not mean I'm not interested unless I've given you NOTHING as for signs of interest.

No it does not just happen to Cappies, its been two months this time since i have seen him. VERY few text, which i initiated.
I seen him last week, i was in a resturant w/my x-husband, kids dad, it was a business day for us, and we stopped to beer up and food, late. Here comes my Virgo in the door, i did not make eye contact with him, he sat right behind us in a booth had a beer and left, didnt stop and say a word, at my back, but in eye sight of my baby daddy. Virgo does not know who that was with me, still have not heard a word or call?
who knows with this man, i sure dont!
been the longest time since i seen him, and i am sick of guessing, so, thus, the it is what it is......if he leaves me alone too long, it will suredly turn to anger, as i am no door mat, and i do have feelings, as what he has expressed to me, is serious.

As for contacting him, i push and pull with myself on that one, he has got to engage at some point, september will be a year since we met, how much time does he really need and lets face it, we are grown and i have needs............needs he usually appreciates, so?

I told him in May,
"if a man wants to be there, he will be there" and he was there?
once again......if it aint broke, dont fix it.

IDK

Hello.
I have been on the Virgo board a lot layely and I think that you could possibly give me some insight on my Virguy. I am to the point where I am ready to throw in the towel. I feel like he is playing emotional games and I do not have the desire to play with him. He has been trying to get me to open up to him a lot lately and sometimes he is so attentive, warm and charming (which I hate) because it is normally when he feels neglected but when I warm up to him and show interest he pretty much gives me the cold shoulder. He ignores text messages and disregards my phone calls. His actions are seldom parellel to his words and clarity is very important to me but the Virgo Man is too evasive. Its like he has mixed emotions. He even told me that he loved me which I knew was BS (why would he do that). I know that sometimes I tend to misrepresent myself with my actions but I am sooo into him and he knows it. I am very reserved emotionally but one thing I do not do is send mixed messages. Lately his actions are starting to disgust me but there is something so intriguing and mesmerizing about him?sooooo he has been able to keep my attention. I am a Cap so you know that we get accused of playing mind games when we don't, however we do strategize and that can be viewed as playing. HELPPPPPPPPPPP!

Magic-Cusp`er: Do you like to be pursued or the pursuer?

Neither. I prefer open displays of mutual interest. However, over the past 30+ years, I've been the prey more often than the hunter. BUT, that could be because Virgs hang back until they're SURE, and most of the ladies who've approached or pursued me didn't have the patience to wait for me to make up my friggin' mind!

P-Angel: A game of chase is too complicated for a Virgo...

No. We just prefer not to play games!!

The Virgo Player I know at work is very good at the Get Her Panties Off With Minimal Effort Game. But most of the VirGuys I know have more respect for a woman than he does...

branh0913: I'm not going to chase anyone, unless they want to be caught. I'm not going to chase and get a lot of uncertainty.

Same here. Be honest about your feelings, or don't bother trying to get my attention.

ONE MORE TIME, LADIES: Know yourself before you expect Him to figure you out! Know what you want from a man, and what you expect a relationship to be like. And... don't make him have to guess what all that mess inside your head is!

branh0913: And I also must point out, Virgos are pretty honest in matter of the heart. If a Virgo says he is into you, he says it with the intent of hooking up with you. There are no "secret meanings" behind it.

Damn dude! You were on a roll!!

Yes... with VirGuys, what you see is what you get. What we tell you is The Truth (according to us) - unless we're trying like hell not to hurt your feelings...

We're really pretty simple creatures - my Scorpio Wife would give an AMEN! to it. THAT was a Big Realization for her - she was convinced that I was far more complicated than I really am. Now, I'm her Perfect Man - not because I don't ever make mistakes, but because I don't play head games (unlike her Weasel ex-husband), and she can take me at my word...

No, we're not perfect, but we can be a damn good match for some women...

Find a Virgo Man who's:
1. Over the age of 30.
2. Settled in his job.
3. Not gay.
4. Not living with his parents.
5. Not a Trekkie, or a LORD Sauron-wannabe, or a Battlestar Galactica freak.

... and you'll probably find a genuine Nice Guy who may be Mr. Right for you.

Again: With the exception of The Player, all the Virgo Men I know are happily married, and to a variety of Signs: Scorpio, Taurus, Aries, and Cancer.

"I think you're a robot with automatic answers at random times to certain threads."

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The Virgo Player I know at work is very good at the Get Her Panties Off With Minimal Effort Game. But most of the VirGuys I know have more respect for a woman than he does...



is this what i have on my hands? Doesnt want to hurt my feelings, just hit it and run? LOL



Shit, he played his best game then!!LMAO





BAD IDEA!

Christina1424





You need to be a strong woman to be with a Virgo. If you have patience, then I say go for it!" If not, then maybe you should move on...


In my own defense, I am one of the strongest woman among the people i have crossed in life, i am told of my strength on a regular basis by observers of all walks, by that i mean friends, family, and co workers.

with that said, patients is another thing, i am learning those from him, that is for sure, but i am in a transformation point in my life as well, so i dont mind working on it and recognizing this flaw of mine.

By the same token, eight months, and not one date, dinner, etc......
He says he is not ready, as well, he says he is not playin me or with me, he stated i am not a "booty call" so hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............

Like i said, its good when we are together, and its not broken, so i am not trying to fix it, by the same token i know what i want, and he has stated that this is shocking to him, i want him, and has been said.

He stated to me he was a one women man, i told him he held the key to me being a one man women. It will take some engaging on his part for this to grow again.

i miss him, i worry about him and i love him, but as i told him, i have to do me in this too.

So....time tells the story and it continues if i ever see or hear from him again.

If not, I will probably do as he said, show up at his door with a baseball bat and take him out at the knees! LMAO

oh....then i will have MOVED ON! LOL



As i am not sitting twiddling my thumbs as he knows this as well, either it will be or not.......just communicate which he does quite well when he decides too do.

Wow, these Virgo men didn't even blink at my question. I see what you ladies mean now. LOL!!!

Ms. A
So, I, personally, as a Virgo, do not initiate communication, but it does not mean I'm not interested unless I've given you NOTHING as for signs of interest.


when do you decifer the times of absence and not returning text and calls into "signs of NOTHING of interest?"

THUS THE CONFUSION!

SO I guess due to the fact that I am not a regular here....my post will be disregarded. Hey guys thanx anyway for the info anyway.

Hello.
I have been on the Virgo board a lot layely and I think that you could possibly give me some insight on my Virguy. I am to the point where I am ready to throw in the towel. I feel like he is playing emotional games and I do not have the desire to play with him. He has been trying to get me to open up to him a lot lately and sometimes he is so attentive, warm and charming (which I hate) because it is normally when he feels neglected but when I warm up to him and show interest he pretty much gives me the cold shoulder. He ignores text messages and disregards my phone calls. His actions are seldom parellel to his words and clarity is very important to me but the Virgo Man is too evasive. Its like he has mixed emotions. He even told me that he loved me which I knew was BS (why would he do that). I know that sometimes I tend to misrepresent myself with my actions but I am sooo into him and he knows it. I am very reserved emotionally but one thing I do not do is send mixed messages. Lately his actions are starting to disgust me but there is something so intriguing and mesmerizing about him?sooooo he has been able to keep my attention. I am a Cap so you know that we get accused of playing mind games when we don't, however we do strategize and that can be viewed as playing. HELPPPPPPPPPPP!



Actually, please dont b offended, i am new as well and sometimes others feel like your questions are answered in the other post.
If you know his love is B.S.
then really, what is the question?
This is work within yourself you must find and it is difficult and not easy to look within, its not wrong or right, good or bad, it is what it is and when you understand this and know what you want in a mate/male/companion, then you will share and continue to grow beyond this delimma either with or without your VIRGUY.
No one can answer what one human being does, only similiar characteristics and signs seem to have some similarities, but one sign is not a magic box of answers, so this makes it difficult to help others when you dont know them.....
My intention is to help, i am sorry you are torn. I too am there, but the further down this road i go, the more i rely on what i know and want.

Do not play games, if this is important to you, you are playing with a sign that generally will not tolerate it. FYI

FoolishlyFabulous

1 of My favorite saying's:



I dont hate the player or the game, for the game is life!

What is left to expierience?

Love/Hate
Laughter/Pain
Hot/Cold
Deep/Shallow

etc......

Its all part of life, so those three little words mean so much when its time:
Let it Go.

Otherwise:
Do not fix what is not broken.

Peace

pERFECT gEM! THANK YOU FOR THE ADVICE ALTHOUGH I HAD ALREADY ADVISED MYSELF MAYBE YOU DIDN'T TRULY UNDERSTAND WHERE I WAS COMING FROM. LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT COMPLICATED..WE AS PEOPLE (ESPECIALLY WOMEN) MAKE IT THAT WAY BY OUR ACTIONS..ITS PEOPLE THAT ARE COMPLICATED KNOWING ONE SELF AND BEING TRUE TO ONE SELF IS QUITE POSSIBLY ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS FOR SOME PEOPLE TO DO..I FIND THAT VERY EASY SO I AM NOT COMING FROM A CONFUSED PLACE I ALREADY KNOW HOW THE SITUATION NEEDS TO BE HANDLED...WITHOUT A DOUBT. I WASN'T LOOKING FOR ADVICE JUST A FREE RIDE IN THE HEAD OF A VIRGO MALE.LOL I WAS JUST WONDERING IF THIS WAS NORMAL VIRGO BEHAVIOR. I WAS HOPING THAT A VIRGO MAN COULD HAVE SHED A LIL LIGHT ON THIS SITUATION. NORMALLY I TRY TO PLAY COOL LIKE WHAT HE DOES HAS NO EFFECT ON ME. TRYING TO DEAL WITH THE SITUAION BY PUTTING LOGIC OVER EMOTION, BECAUSE VIRGO'S WILL BRAIN FUCK THE SHIT OUT OF YOU IF YOU LET THEM (PARDON MY FRENCH)BUT I NOW BELIEVE THAT YOU SHOULD NEVER HIDE TRUE FEELINGS IN ONE CASE OR ANOTHER BECAUSE THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY TO MAKE YOUR POINT KNOWN WITHOUT GETTING TOO EMOTIONALLY CAUGHT UP. I HAVE MADE MISTAKES AND I CERTAINLY BRING MY OWN ISSUES TO THE TABLE I HAVEN'T ALWAYS BEEN AS VERBAL AS I SHOULD HAVE BEEN NOW I KNOW THAT GETTING OUT VITAL INFORMATION TOO LATE CAN BE TRULY HARMFUL..BUT I AM FAR LESS RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS MESS THAN HE IS...WE STRAY AWAY FROM SOME THINGS BECAUSE WE THINK OR KNOW WE SHOULD RIGHT..WE LET GO OF LOVE OR SIMPLY PUSH IT AWAY BECAUSE WE THINK WE ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO DO WITH OUT IT..WE KEEP OUR FEELINGS INSIDE BECAUSE WE ARE SCARED OF WHAT THE OUTCOME MAY BE..I AM A SCARY JUDGE OF CHARACTER SO AT FIRST I DIDN'T WANT TO ASK THIS QUESTION BUT THEN I THOUGHT BUT WHAT IF THEIR THOUGHTS REALLY MATTERED OR MADE A DIFFERENCE..IT STARTED WITH A KISS AS SOON AS I MET HIM AND I NEVER KISS FOR SOME REASON A KISS MEANS SO MUCH MORE THAN A KISS; IN THIS CASE IT WAS THE BEGINNING TO AN INCREDIBLE END. I WILL SAY NOTHING MORE THAN I DO WHAT I FEEL..MORE IMPORTANTLY I FEEL WHAT I DO..IF I DONT FEEL IT, HOW WILL ANYONE ELSE..I WILL NOW AFTER MANY DAYS OF PROLONGED THINKING SAY I AM GOING TO LET GO AND LET LOVE..


BUT THANK YOU PERFECT GEM FOR AT LEAST TRYING TO UNDERSTAND AND PROVIDE ME WITH SOME FEEDBACK

you are welcome, and thank you!

[And I also must point out, Virgos are pretty honest in matter of the heart. If a Virgo says he is into you, he says it with the intent of hooking up with you. There are no "secret meanings" behind it.]

Brahn, so are you saying that Virgo men can not lie about what they are feeling?? Coz I think they can simply 'pretend' by saying sweet lil nothings and don't actually MEAN anything like any other men!!

Brahn, so are you saying that Virgo men can not lie about what they are feeling?? Coz I think they can simply 'pretend' by saying sweet lil nothings and don't actually MEAN anything like any other men!!



Please do elaborate bRAHN, for i too am curious............

This is one of the ways i say, "he has the mind of a player and the heart of a poet" He could so be a "Don" instead of a "Don Juan" .
I feel like its part of his"game" and oh what a good "game" he has!


He does say the best pillow talk and the best deepest conversations more personally open than anyone i have ever spent time with that is male, I absolutely "crave" him, this is one of the few (one of two) men that out talks me because he can hold my attention in conversation. It amazes me how little i really say or feel like i shared when we are together, causes typically "I dont know when to SHUT UP" at times like these i am speaking of, LMAO!

Virgo guys don't chase.
If you play hard to get, we move on to something else.
I have too many more important things to do than potentially waste my time behind someone who is not interested.

If we show interest and you show it back, you stand a chance.

when as a virgo male would you say "engage" into the relationship happens?

Chase, i dont chase, dont wanna be chased, but to feel as though someone has "engaged" into the relationship, i.e.

text
calls
communication
outings of any kind
etc


I have more than one man that actually does this, and it seems, i must "engage" or else be patient...........time, it tells the story and patient, i am still learning here too. I realize i will never stop learning, but when can you depend on that


"if a man wants to be there he will be there" ?

Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus, LOL!
Gotta laugh about it and keep living. Crying and worry get ya no where!

🙂