Signs of Virgo Player or are you guys genuine?

As I've stated in a previous thread I've been dealing with a lot of Virgos for the past year and I've noticed a certain trend.

A lot of the times, when actually sitting face to face with Virgos (say on a date) it felt like they aren't being genuine, like they are trying to find the right words or actions that would make a girl swoon. Has anyone else encountered this? Their assumptions/presumptions of what a woman (or man) would like is actually the biggest turn off during the courtship period of dating.

So here is my question: are there specific things or actions that you Virgos do when you're just playing around that is different from when you are serious about someone? Or do you have a 'system' set up for the initial courtship period so you don't have to exert yourself more than necessary until you're sure she is the one?

Any info on how you handle the first month or two of relationships would be awesome. Thanks!

Posted by virg_goki

Posted by Tora
As I've stated in a previous thread I've been dealing with a lot of Virgos for the past year and I've noticed a certain trend.

if anything it sounds like your virgos suck at dating and you should be honoured. Who doesn't try to find the right things to say during dates?? The fact he isn't smooth proves his genuineness and he wants to land the next date with you. If someone is that good at not alerting your 'honesty' radar then you better beware.

If he wasn't able to say things you want to hear, would you continue going on dates with him?

Wow, didn't think of it that way. It isn't so much as saying what I want to hear but the presumptions of who or what I am I think. Yea I think I would for a while, but if he doesn't realize I am the kind of girl that prefers horror movies over romantic by a certain time period then yes, I would dump him since by then it would be obvious he just wants someone to fill a role rather than me.

So how do you go about your first month dating?

Posted by GenethliacLover66
As a Virgo, I feel nothing for the first six months of sleeping with them. Within that time frame, it's easy for me to sort out whether or not this person is right for me. After the six month mark, I get possessive and I don't think clearly. I never play around.

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Aah! Yea that would make sense with what I have seen so far. So you just go through the motions until you know?

The Taurus Im dating right now also does her best to appear ultra charming and to communicate the right things about herself, its a normal stage when one is getting to know the other person, good thing is that we are both super goofy so we dont really care about trying to appear perfect to the other, its this goofiness/awkwardness that give us our best moments lol

If he was being insincere he probably would be smoother than it sounds like he is being. Of course he is trying to say the right things but if its not coming off smoothly then he's probably putting more effort into it than he would be if he was insincere.

I echo that comment about not really feeling anything until months down the line, till then I'm still feeling you out and deciding how much I want to invest emotionally. an interesting thing that you made me recall is conversations I used to have with my ex. She would accuse me of not being genuine at times and she was right in her observation that when I was being too charming, I was not being sincere. I was either playing or trying to get something. She would say that she could tell the difference because of the difference in charisma vs charm. That when I was genuine I would be charismatic with little to no charm and when I was being full of shit I'd be too charming, flirting on overdrive, saying all the right things at the right times, overly affectionate etc

Posted by HungVirgo
If he was being insincere he probably would be smoother than it sounds like he is being. Of course he is trying to say the right things but if its not coming off smoothly then he's probably putting more effort into it than he would be if he was insincere.

I echo that comment about not really feeling anything until months down the line, till then I'm still feeling you out and deciding how much I want to invest emotionally. an interesting thing that you made me recall is conversations I used to have with my ex. She would accuse me of not being genuine at times and she was right in her observation that when I was being too charming, I was not being sincere. I was either playing or trying to get something. She would say that she could tell the difference because of the difference in charisma vs charm. That when I was genuine I would be charismatic with little to no charm and when I was being full of shit I'd be too charming, flirting on overdrive, saying all the right things at the right times, overly affectionate etc

Yes, yes, yes! That second paragraph is exactly it! The insincere charm would slip out when he wants something (as in when I pause in making out he would say that I'm gorgeous in a really saccharine voice, as if trying to make me swoon back into his lips.) That is the turn off point for me too. What did you think of her pointing it out? Did it make you stop or was it just too ingrained in you?

Time is going to be the deciding factor when it comes to Virgos I suppose. It does take you guys awhile to decide if someone is worth it, but with how much sex is important to you guys when it comes to the early stages of relationships it can be a bit off putting; like you're only in it for the easy poontang even though technically you're not.

heres a question. I dated this virguy in june/july. It ended, or did it? since then I have seen him quite a few times, always hugs me, flirts, so hard not to just kiss him. it would seem so intimate, our hugs. We stayed in touch, we live two blocks apart. small town. I put myself out there a few times with him, let him know I still wanted him. Quarreled at him when I seen him with a girl. we started hanging out again. so close, so sweet, so everything. its been 5 months since we were together. I couldn't forget him. I missed him. he says the same, so my question. Now that we are back on, can I be sure that he really is in to me? I mean he says he likes me alot, he acts like my bf. I mean, I know he is in to me, but, is it for real? I am so scared of losing him again. I don't know what to do. I wan tto tell him everything, I want to show him he is the only one for me.

Posted by raerae2one8
heres a question. I dated this virguy in june/july. It ended, or did it? since then I have seen him quite a few times, always hugs me, flirts, so hard not to just kiss him. it would seem so intimate, our hugs. We stayed in touch, we live two blocks apart. small town. I put myself out there a few times with him, let him know I still wanted him. Quarreled at him when I seen him with a girl. we started hanging out again. so close, so sweet, so everything. its been 5 months since we were together. I couldn't forget him. I missed him. he says the same, so my question. Now that we are back on, can I be sure that he really is in to me? I mean he says he likes me alot, he acts like my bf. I mean, I know he is in to me, but, is it for real? I am so scared of losing him again. I don't know what to do. I wan tto tell him everything, I want to show him he is the only one for me.

First you say you were fwb, now you say you dated him.

Make up your mind.

I had a date with a virgo guy once and every normal first date getting-to-know-you question I asked, he would talk around the question, answer with nonsense that changed the subject, basically avoided letting me know anything about him at all. I wrote him off as a player.