Smitten By A Virgo

The last thing I would want to admit is that someone actually caught me with my guards down and I'm, well I'm smitten. How the hell did this happen? I don't know!!! All of sudden I'm caught up. I've never felt so comfortable with anyone in such a long time and so quickly. Our conversation flows, never a quiet moment even at awkward times. He is able to read me, then gives me calming advice. He is able to dissolve our tiffs and make me laugh. When I'm in LEO mode I get called EXTRA (the all about me), but he says he gets me.

Problem? Yep! There is...I just can't be sexually intimate with him-YET. He is now frustrated to hell! I know there's a STRONG, VERY STRONG, physical attraction here; so why not be patient until I'm ready. He's said many times that he'll wait, but becomes very frustrated after we've met up. There are times when things have gotten heated (all clothes always still on). NO skin touching skin-Just Lips. NO bodies laying on top of each other. No lips have gone below the neck. Even a simple kiss goodbye after a quick drink or dropping off something (his excuse to come to my house) I feel he's standing there hoping. I've been honest about my feelings and told him that it's not a good idea for us to go there just yet; but telling him that I do like him and enjoy our moments together. We're JUST DATING! We both admitted that we are dating other people nothing serious.

We had a stand off a week ago and I'm guessing he won; because this is the longest in 2 months that he's gone MIA. He INSISTED on picking me up for our "Special Date" he called it, but I insisted on meeting him there...he seemed furious. Cancelled the date! He later requested that we reschedule a few days later and he was definitely picking me up! I simply said "NO". He said "DANG"! That's the last message/interaction I've gotten from him in 2 days.

I know I can be stubborn, but he's trying to force me to break MY rule that we should meet in public ONLY for a while. I know we're two grown adults and having 5 children between the two of us; but I'm just not ready!!! Why not respect that?

Ugghhh! Yes, to much of my dismay...Charming and Cunning in your own special ways! Knowing just what to do and just how to say it!! Virgo and Gemini renders me to a blundering babble. Feeling like I'm so unsure of what to do...This place right here? Is so awkward for me. I need to let my mane down from my librarian bun—? Well, we shall see!

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Posted by 25thDecan
If you cannot be picked up for a date, then, in a relationship where it would be a mixed family...how would go shopping TOGETHER for/with the kids. Not advocating "conventionality" here..but he reached out to do for you...and got his scrotum sliced.......him driving on the date isn't you being the stereotypical damsel in distress.

I know! I know! Hindsight, I should've explained my "NO" as I always give a little more insight behind my seemingly unreasonable remarks or responses. YES! I was being my stubborn self. YES! I did allow myself to get annoyed because HE knew all along that there wasn't going to be just a "Pick Up & Drop Off"! Yes, I've been on the receiving end of that infamous Virgo stare that glares right down to the pit of your soul and makes you the most vulnerable human being on earth! That— I didn't want to happen that night. So my safest route, logically thinking, I go in my vehicle and he STAYS in his! Sit on the opposite side of the table and have a safe and wonderful time!

The combining of the families? He also knew that I was not ready to meet his children(3) and he meet mine(2). He understood because I offered an extensive explanation. We discussed and agreed that we should wait until a later time.

I must admit that things were moving just a little too fast for me and wanted him to slow down. Now? It's at a complete standstill! I guess it's up to me to start it back up again?

Posted by Let*It*Be
"We're JUST DATING! We both admitted that we are dating other people nothing serious."


^^I completely respect what you are doing based on this statement alone. If he can milk a cow from one of his other dates, then that's what he should do if he is so frustrated. Should he want to change that status to a serious relationship with you and you alone and you are in the same place....hump his brains out and show him what the complete package is. I really like how you are handling this. Virgo guy respects it (deep inside)..no matter how much he wants you physically. 😉

LOL! Yes, I was thinking the same thing! "Just Dating" to me doesn't include EXTRAs. My words to him exactly!! I don't see me having a relationship without knowing if we're more than just physically compatible. That takes time. I shall carefully re-approach the situation when the time is right and WE set a pace that works for the two of us.

Things about you guys just don't make sense anymore. LOGICALLY THINKING! Do you have these emotions and hold them in and suddenly you express your self in the simplest form and I'm suppose to know the original equation that you've started with? Is there something going on with Virgo Men right now that I should know? I've missed some memos!

My eye is still on the prize and he knows it...I've made it plain and clear. We've been talking/texting and he tells me that my ring tone is officially "I'm Bossy". That it's too damn cute when I TRY to be & he might let me get my way SOMETIMES. He felt rejected and upset about my declining the date. I explained why, he explained why he needed to cancel. Why didn't he feel he needed to explain himself then, he cancelled? I heard mumbling that he's private and he shouldn't have to tell me, etc., etc. HIS VOICE ESCALATING—? Surprised! Where is all this emotion coming from? It descended after telling me that I'm difficult, but I like you & I'm sorry for cancelling & I know you don't have a lot of free time & I miss you...Awwwww! I said I was sorry for my "packaged nicely but not sure what's inside" comment! DATE ON SATURDAY EVENING - FOOTBALL - EVEN THO IT'S JUST PRE-SEASON! LOL! Patience...

How do I prepare for the unexpected emotions? It comes across as being annoyed, but I get what he was saying. Do I just listen? Respond to the outburst instantly? Later? Just reassure? I ONLY became quiet and listened, mainly because I was surprised.

ANOTHER QUESTION!

Do I tell my virgo interest that my virgo friend (17 years) is coming to visit. Normally, yes - I'll tell straight away; but I don't want to create rifts with virgo interest so soon again. We haven't made plans for my BDAY next week either and I think my virgo friend is responding awkwardly because...

I'm hesitant because my virgo friend had an outburst of emotions. He's always cool-headed. He insisted on coming to visit my birthday weekend even tho I gave him other immediate alternatives. I explained to him that I have plans with my girlfriends on Saturday, I am free Friday & Sunday (My virgo interest & I have not made plans - AT ALL—) He grew annoyed, voice still mono toned and then let it rip...Something about I'm not coming if I'm going to be sitting in a hotel room alone, I'm coming to see you specifically, you were MIA a few times on my last several visits. A few other statements in between. I re-explained that I was NOT available Saturday. He asked to stay with me? HUH? He always, always stays in a hotel— I told him that I wouldn't feel comfortable.

Next day I texted to see if he was coming. ANOTHER UNEXPECTED RESPONSE! He stated he didn't want to cause stress on me or him. He's going thru some ruff times (2nd marriage failing + minor health issues), he just wanted to come and enjoy himself as usual, he wanted reassurance that I wanted him to visit, he cares, etc. etc. So, now I'm concerned.

Is he coming as JUST A FRIEND this time too? Should I tell Mr. Virgo Interest whom I am still very smitten with?