Some advice would be great

Hi all you Virgos, a Gemini girl here.

OK I'd like to get some advice if at all possible. I am at a VERY early stage with a Virgo man (23rd Aug). We met online, had a lot of communication (text, phone, email) and he went away on holiday and then was texting me all the time from holiday. He came back and we were meeting for the first time a week later. He cancelled that due to being ill and said he'd still like to meet if I'd be ok with that - so I said I would but he didn't actually rearrange a date so I decided he couldn't be all that interested. I then decided to just up my communication with him and initiate it mostly myself. And he was responded to anything I initiated very quickly. In conversation it came out that he had met a girl before his holiday and had subsequently met up with her afterwards and didn't think it was fair to string me along. I said well that's fine - if you still think you'd be interested in meeting me though then let's just go for it so we know whether there's anything here for us as you have no real commitment to someone else if you're only a few dates in. So we kept emailing, very flirty emails - and then subsequently met up last Friday night. We had a great night, got on really well, and after a lot of amazing eye contact from him, we ended up pretty much passionately kissing for 5 hours with him saying how much fun we're going to have, blah blah blah. He text me that night to make sure I'd got home ok etc - and again, flirty texts. I text him on Saturday pm just to say that I was thinking of him and he said "Ha ha, it was certainly a fun night!" - so I text back (being the over eager Gemini that I am) saying would he like to do it again soon and that the ball is in his court - he replied saying "yeah but as I said it'll have to be after Xmas/New year". So I've left it at that.

Now my question is .... what is my next step - if it is my next step? Most of the time we chat/email during the day - so far I've not initiated anything since Saturday and just left it. During our working day, we'd usually be mailing a lot. I'm pretty sure he probably met up with the other girl over the weekend - but I'm not majorly concerned with that - if he and I are meant to start something etc, then we will. All along he's been quite insecure in the fact he didn't think I'd fancy him in person - which I obviously did - there was major passion/electricity between us. [TBC]

So now I do think because of my text on Saturday that he probably should be aware that I like him - although I've said stuff to him before we met about liking him and he always gave the impression that he didn't think I did, regardless of what I said.

As we usually chat during the day - I feel a bit weird that I'm not doing so - but also don't want to be too eager and I want to give him some space. But I'm also aware that the other girl may be making more headway if I back off too much.

One of my other concerns is that we were very passionate on Friday night (not culminating in anything obviously other than discussing that we wanted to culminate it in the future soon) and I'm hoping I didn't overplay the flirt/passion card so that he'd be left thinking I'm not girlfriend material but more of a fun option.

I've spent a lot of time reading through this board yesterday just getting a feel for the Virgo man (who I've now decided I really like!) and can see that Virgo men take time out, don't like too much pressure (a good thing is I've always been lighthearted in my communications with him) - but I do think that actually we could have a future - so... as a Virgo man - what would be your advice? Specifically to a Gemini who is desperately trying to learn patience!! And yes I'm well aware it's only two days post date - but also aware of the fact we usually communicate every day (although in the month since we've been communicating he has twice done this not chatting thing and after a few days I've initiated the chat again).

Look forward to hearing your comments - be brutal! I need it!

Brilliant advice Letitbe - I guess what I'm actually trying to gauge is whether he likes me or not (the standard thing!). I'm not unhappy with the passion stakes on Friday - I'm not usually like that but made that clear as well - and he knows I'd def not just jump in the sack with him. The good news is, I was very real with him, more real than I would usually be as I'd said to him before that he was making me pull my guard down (I've been single for two years now and in that time have been celibate and have also said to him he's the only man I've considered breaking that with in all this time

August 23rd?
LOL you're in for one helluva ride!

Letitbe - thank you! And all of the season goodwill to you too - I shall def leave it to last thing on Xmas Day before doing any form of contacting - just to give him the chance.

And you def think this is right tactic re other woman?

Do you think it's a positive sign he text back? Would a Virgo Man just not reply or say nope not meeting up again?


@Cajun - you sooooooo can't leave that just like that!! Spill! I kind of think there's definitely a ride ahead with him - I could just sense that!!

Posted by sortilege85
...august virgos

Aug-virg's: It's like riding a rollar coaster ride drunk and blind folded at the same time. You know know when or where the fucker is going to take you.

See .... I kinda like that 😉

Right ok - for the first time in my life then, I'm gonna try and learn some patience. Ahem.

From what you're saying the sortilege, he's probably interested as he's set a next "date".

Posted by Cajunspirit
August 23rd?
LOL you're in for one helluva ride!

lmfao damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn thats right at the beginning thats a supa cusps.

Posted by sortilege85
...august virgos

Aug-virg's: It's like riding a rollar coaster ride drunk and blind folded at the same time. You know know when or where the fucker is going to take you.

heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy i aint that crazy maybe ur cusps are but not the real virgos hehehe 😄

Posted by sortilege85
Possibly, but august virgo's will break their own routine, shyness and just for the hell of it and will prove the entire virgo mentality is bullshit and show you their "OTHER" side... SPOOKY LANGUAGE.


Well, I'm not sure i didn't read anything about him giving you a date, he just said till after christmas, so you should just keep busy with some projects, close family and friends... You know celebrate till all this holiday madness blows over.

ur right do u think sept virgos have this ability as well i have sum virgo mentality but that rest of my chart has other craziness on its on lol

as everybody all kno on here owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww lol

Hey qualitystreet,

I read your post just now, and there are extreme similarities with mine! Please check my thread titles "he loves me but". I am even thinking that we might be dealing with the same guy! Mine said he's birthdate is 29th but everything else looks so familiar.

Hi Ponytail

I have indeed read your thread but it's most definitely not the same guy in any sense. Other than he's a Virgo 😉

But I definitely think you've made the right decision with your situation - doesn't sound right at all - I've only had one date with my Virgo - I'm just being a pushy wannaknowitallnow Gemini 😄

xx

Ok, best of luck then.

I'm a Gemini too, so I know how crazy you feel!! 🙂