Taurus sun/Scorpio moon female with exhausting Virgo sun/scorpio moon man....MOOOOODY

Ok, so I've been dating this virgo male for a little over a month and it's been a roller-coaster ride to put it lightly. Within a week he tells me he is falling in love with me and has never been happier. He recently got out of an 8 year relationship with a woman who literally had him arrested for following her to her lovers house she was cheating on him with. Basically she had a temper tantrum because he caught her. apparently she didn't think he'd actually be arrested. Anyway once she noticed he was moving on with me she began injecting herself. (They lived 2 doors down from eachother so she knew when he came and went) she began asking him to help her move, she was calling/texting all hours etc. I calmly said something about the fact that I didn't like the fact that he still spoke to her mainly because SHE HAD HIM ARRESTED and isn't supposed to be in contact with him and visa versa. He became super crappy with me and said if she calls I'm going to answer and I told him that I felt it was disrespectful to what we were building to entertain her games. After all of that he calmed down and we talked it out. He said he needed to handle getting her moved so he couldoesn't be 100% free from her and we wouldn't have to deal with her again.
Move day comes & of course she didn't pack everything and there was a bunch of things the movers left and she called him to help her in which he did. He moved it all into his garage and told her to come and get it when she could. Throughout the last week he was distant, didn't come around until my bday and I had no clue he was even going to show because he wouldn't say. Anyway, he came we had a great night all was well. It bothered me that after we were intimate he seemed like he couldn't wait to get out of here. Another week passed, we went out and had been drinking.I brought her up and how I felt and he lost his s@*t and left without even telling me...just gone. I was LIVID and told him I couldn't be 2nd anymore to his ex and that what he did was cruel. A week goes by with 0 communication and he texts me "are you still mad" I replied with I am not going to stay mad at a situation I can't change and that I was fine his response was "tactical" no clue why but he did. Moments later he called falling all over himself to apologize and says he acted like a jerk, that all of this was his doing and that he took care of getting her stuff out and he was done. He said he missed me and he didn't want it to end. I began crying and told him I couldn't talk about it right then...hate to cry in front of ppl or them hear me. He said to call after my son went to bed. I did, no answer, I text no answer. I waited 4hrs, text and no answer. Next day didn't hear a peep so, I text him and told him that he was being very disrespectful to me and my feelings on what had happened and how he was ignoring me. His response was he regrets calling me and is glad we're done. WTF? I was good to him! I don't understand the mood? What am I missing

Why does folks think Virgo and Taurus are compatible? Why do you like this and? What has he done for you that suggest he's the right one for your needs. TAURUS IS about stability really.

I've never been with a virgo before...he was sweet at first and very loving. I'm am a fiercely independent and successful woman and I am not needy at all. I am loyal to a fault and YES I want stability and honesty. He became insanely moody after the ex began coming around again and then proceeded to treat me like crap. I don't get it...I've been nothing but good to him and I'm getting the hot and cold to an extreme.

He's not over his ex.

It's still early on to determine to remain friends still?

I honestly had fallen for the man and it's the ONLY reason I have been as patient with the situation. He's so back and forth with his feelings and actions towards me that I believe he is either still seeing her or not over her and is pushing me away. I truly believe he cares for me but it is like he freaks himself out.

I can't remain friends with him unless he comes 100% clean, owns his BS and apologizes to me

One of the things I might be firm on, is that I think Virgos need some downtime after a relationship blows up, to grab their center so to speak. How recent did he break with her?

6 months ago

Okay but you aren't together ? So therefore you can make this decision based on gut and if he is treating you right with respect and trust is very important in Taurus than any other sign.

He isn't respecting me at all and this last bout of him having a tantrum happened today. It's all fresh...just last night he called and said he missed me and he didn't want us to be done but would understand if I was given his behavior on monday.

I am HUGE on respect, trust and loyalty...I am a communicator and am very empathetic to situations and understanding that feelings may still be there for his ex and I trusted that he was done. I honestly don't know...all signs point to her and I'm very intuitive with these things. Unfortunately I love him and I am at a loss on what to do...just toss my hands up and walk away or see if he comes around.

Your double fixed so some way when you get tired of this you'll eventually leave it and feel exhausted with all the energy, time you go through.

Let him go....actions speak loud. I had situation like this he isn't over the ex

Sadly with my scorpio moon I feel things so intensely and deeply...it's hard to just be done but my taurus is screaming RESPECT

Not every one is perfect very flawed. Lol some more than what should be tolerable or acceptable even if just friends or was looking for someone meaningful.

Ex's drive me nuts...the damage left behind is ridiculous when it comes to cheating and lies.

Yeah I hate that too. Can't tolerate too much either.

He actually gave you the chance right there when he said that comment btw.@Op.

Given what happened and all he would understand. Lol

Gave me the chance to what? End it?

I didn't want it to end...I want it b4 she poked her damn psycho ass back inside the door.

Something too that I'm not sure is typical virgo behavior. He has been drinking ALOT...everyday alot...with his kids (has full custody) alot. I'm wondering if he was drunk today when he sent the angry messages. He said he took the ex's things to the dump so I'm wondering if she went nuts on him as well causing stress and he's taking it out on me. He flies off the handle easily it seems. He says "I don't play well with others" idk...I just need to let it go.

I don't like alcoholics at all red flags.

I agree..in my head I know this. In my heart I want to help him but I know I cant. He has to heal on his own and in his own way.

I'm just confused...how can someone say they're falling in love with you one minute and then turn cold as ice the next...and then back to I miss you and next day C-YA! I don't work that way and I've never been with a virgo...im usually good at reading people but he baffles me.

Posted by Scorpmoon39
6 months ago

There's something off about the whole him and her. When my Virgo Ex and I broke up about 8 months ago, he was too fell in love within a week with a woman from work. But we owned a home together so I stayed for another 4 months. Still, when she sent him text messages about how pissed off she was that I was posting and tagging our family Christmas stuff, he got into my face about it.

SO I would say, hes not over her.

It's incredibly sad the toxic hold this woman has on him. I feel like deep down he is a great man but he has 0 confidence and still allows her to play him like a fiddle. She won...she didn't want him to move on and so she made our lives hell until it was done. I know that she will now move along because she never wanted him in the first place. She cheated, she left and she wanted to maintain control over him.

Not the kids mom...she came after his divorce. He has a great relationship with his ex wife.

She's a pices

Posted by CrosstownTraffic
you two guys just have a screwed virgos....

i would not get into yalls face about that bc thats the kids mom...


sorry there is nothing to read about him at all...

currious though, what is his exes sign?

Those are my stepkids, whom I mothered for 8 years while their mom was in the Army. But yeah my Ex Virgo has issues, drinking was one. Drinking and coming home and trying to urinate in the bathroom and missing the toilet, once in the shower, and the final straw time when he wet the bed. He kept saying Mid Life Transition or Crisis, or reliving his 20's because he had kids so young. And I was like....why are you texting your daughter's girlfriends? That's some serious boundary issues. Why are you drinking cases of beer? Why do all of that instead of going to a life couch to get your shit together?

Things happen for a reason, I moved on and away from Virguy and I really treasure my relationship with my Scorpio. I feel loved, like in the deep feels, not something over text message. I hope we last, because no one can give me space and at the same time make me feel connected like he does.

I have a scorpio moon and it's all or nothing with me. I'll eventually wash my hands of people and walk away...I always have to know I gave my all.

He's not over his ex.
He's treading carefully with her.
He's keeping his emotions in check.
He's waiting patiently as she 'gravels' her way back into his life.
You're plan "B' just in case she cuts him off again.

You're a Taurus.
The ex factor should have been addressed from day 1.
You're 'fixed' not passive.
But you were passive in this situation.
An ultimatum should have been given from day 1.

I don't tolerate that sh*t...ex who?

If he refused, you would have had your answer and prevented yourself from any future heartbreak.

I'm 39 he is 44...so long way from twenties lol.

I actually did address the ex situation when it arrived and his answer was "if karen calls, I'm going to answer"...my initial reaction was ok, bye....and then he came in with the charms a few days later. I fell for it...I give too many chances and am too trusting at times. When it comes to me I often allow myself to be a doormat.

One of my best friends is a Taurus Sun/Scorpio Moon and she is with a Virgo Sun/Scorpio Moon.

I was actually very interested to read all this because he said he was cheated on by his ex and my Taurus friend feels the exact same way as you do about him. He is also very hot and cold as well. Things seemed to be great at first, they both were all in love. Then it started. The arguments, the disagreements, the power struggles. He does what he wants without communicating with her and she gets so upset and then calls me. I feel bad because I hoped he was actually the one for her. But honestly I don't think they are good for each other. It seems as though the communication is not good between them. Plus she's already had him delete ex's off his social media because he keeps them there. They have made it about 6 months now, but it's been a struggle since 3 months.

Your guy seems to go back and forth with you the exact same way my friend's boyfriend is with her, only there is no other woman. She calls me daily about their relationship and honestly I feel bad because when he gets moody, I feel like she might blow up on him. It's just not good. Relationships have issues, but they fight all the time now. And it's still new. He already broke your trust. And the way that he talks to you probably really hurts your feelings.. I wouldn't say it could last if you stay...but that's for you to decide.

With us both having scorpio moons, everything is intensified 12 fold...we are highly emotional beings along with all of the other scorpio traits. There is a power struggle and he gets really jealous with me...like insane jealous or protective. He on the other hand feels he can do as he wishes without any reproductions...that's where we have issues. My taurus is loyal as hell...to a fault most of the time and with my scorpio along with it...it's damn frustrating because I hate giving up on people I care for.

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Posted by Scorpmoon39
I'm 39 he is 44...so long way from twenties lol.

I actually did address the ex situation when it arrived and his answer was "if karen calls, I'm going to answer"...my initial reaction was ok, bye....and then he came in with the charms a few days later. I fell for it...I give too many chances and am too trusting at times. When it comes to me I often allow myself to be a doormat.

hes outright making you jealous...on purpose.

like stabbing you in the heart with a knife...

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Certainly feels that way

Posted by CrosstownTraffic
if i see right its your scorpio moon in your third house that makes you loyal and not want to give in...

the only way to deal with uranus to moon power struggle is to go fifty fifty to everythin and all decisions...this goes for aries mooners also...

pretty sure you guys synastry has uranus moon...

This is him

Planetary positions
planet sign degree motion
Sun Virgo 20°59'17 in house 10 direct
Moon Scorpio 28°10'30 in house 1 direct
Mercury Virgo 15°29'43 in house 10 direct
Venus Leo 6°01'28 in house 9 direct
Mars Virgo 18°54'22 in house 10 direct
Jupiter Sagittarius 29°04'18 in house 2 direct
Saturn Gemini 20°16'10 in house 8 direct
Uranus Libra 16°58'10 in house 11 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 2°44'17 in house 1 direct
Pluto Libra 1°28'50 in house 11 direct
True Node Capricorn 24°11'15 in house 3 retrograde

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Scorpio 13°39'44
2nd House Sagittarius 13°02'05
3rd House Capricorn 18°04'16
Imum Coeli Aquarius 25°09'07
5th House Pisces 27°32'46
6th House Aries 23°12'34
Descendant Taurus 13°39'44
8th House Gemini 13°02'05
9th House Cancer 18°04'16
Medium Coeli Leo 25°09'07
11th House Virgo 27°32'46
12th House Libra 23°12'34

Major aspects
Sun Sextile Moon 7°11
Sun Conjunction Mercury 5°30
Sun Conjunction Mars 2°05
Sun Square Saturn 0°43
Sun Sextile Ascendant 7°20
Moon Trine Venus 7°51
Moon Conjunction Neptune 4°34
Moon Sextile Pluto 3°18
Mercury Conjunction Mars 3°25
Mercury Square Saturn 4°46
Mercury Sextile Ascendant 1°50
Venus Trine Neptune 3°17
Venus Sextile Pluto 4°33
Mars Square Saturn 1°22
Mars Sextile Ascendant 5°15
Jupiter Square Pluto 2°25
Saturn Trine Uranus 3°18
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1°15

The Pisces ex has a grip on his heart. She's a love martyr, damsel in distress. "she needs me to help her move". She knows she's got him in the feels. You mentioned that you are very independent. Does he seem to feel threatened by that? Do you think that he feels needed by you?

Posted by WateryVirgo
The Pisces ex has a grip on his heart. She's a love martyr, damsel in distress. "she needs me to help her move". She knows she's got him in the feels. You mentioned that you are very independent. Does he seem to feel threatened by that? Do you think that he feels needed by you?

Ugh...I don't even think I know how to need anyone honestly. I have been doing it all on my own for the last 6yrs. Single mom of 2, one of which has downs, own my own successful business, make a good living, handy as hell....I just do it all and never ask for help.

I'm a single professional independent woman myself, divorced mother of 1. I just got out of a relationship and as I think back to analyze it, I remembered that on several occasions, he hinted at/inquired about me needing him. Things he would say: "if you were going through that, why didn't you call me. I would have known what to do", "I could have helped you with that", "I could have saved you the trouble", "I could have taken care of blah, blah, blah for my mother but she thinks she can do it all in her own", etc. One time he said mockingly after I helped pay for something, "oh well, you're an independent woman, you can handle that". It pissed me off a little lol I wouldn't change my status for anything in the world though.

idk, I'm just rambling on about ideas of why he isn't over his ex after 6 months...

From what I understand virgo love the damsels I'm distress....to me I can't understand that whole weak ass game. I think wanting someone trumps needing them any day.

Damn autocorrect lol

Posted by Scorpmoon39
From what I understand virgo love the damsels I'm distress....to me I can't understand that whole weak ass game. I think wanting someone trumps needing them any day.

Ditto. I would feel flattered that someone would want to be with me because they WANT to, not because they HAVE to out of some sort of obligation.

She's probably doing the emotional manipulation thing.

I'm certain she is...damn pices women lol.

Posted by Scorpmoon39
From what I understand virgo love the damsels I'm distress....to me I can't understand that whole weak ass game. I think wanting someone trumps needing them any day.

I agree with you, Virgo ex with Cap moon, with that Leo Venus and Mars Virgo.....Damsels in distress are like a magnet.

Posted by Scorpmoon39
I'm certain she is...damn pices women lol.

What she's doing is nothing to be proud of, it's quite pathetic actually. They both are. Don't get mixed up in their bs. Leave him be.

Well...my virgo showed up at a debut for my friends band...shocked actually because he literally walked into a lions den. My friends are incredibly protective over me as we are all pretty close. He walked over to me and pretty much groveling for me to forgive him and told work it out. I have no idea what to even think. Is this even typical virgo male behavior or what?

Posted by Scorpmoon39
I'm just confused...how can someone say they're falling in love with you one minute and then turn cold as ice the next...and then back to I miss you and next day C-YA! I don't work that way and I've never been with a virgo...im usually good at reading people but he baffles me.

So all this has happened in the 1st month, defo not good & if his kids are with his ex, I can assure you it won't get any better.

This is exactly how my Pisces sun/scorp moon, ex acted and there was no ex involved.
I'm Taurus moon so I need the respect, stability and security that doesn't come with this kind of behaviour. I had to walk away for my own sanity.


Good luck whatever you decide to do.

He has his kids and his ex that pops up isn't the mom

We're talking...im keeping it all at an arms length at this point. I let him know where I stand and told him I will not be plan b and I will be respected or he needs to walk.