The torturing of love!

Hey guys and gals,

I met this guy 3 weeks ago, we both get along pretty good, but the problem is, he wants to have sex already!
I'm a virgin, so the whole 'sex ordeal' is scary I think! Like we'll just start making-out, while surfing the net,
then one thing leads to another, if you know what I mean, and he'll insist we have sex. Of course I explained to him,
that we don't love one another, and if we did do it, it wouldn't be special.. and hello, we're just now getting to know
each other! Geez! He calls me every day though, and tries to spend his Sundays with me.. hanging out, considering he works
all week, and plus his family's farm on weekends. He said he just came out of a 3 yr. relationship, and wants to have fun and
and enjoy his 'new freedom'. I don't know what to think of this, or how to deal with this.. any advice PLEASE!!??

Confused,
Virgo!

If you give your body to this "guy", rest assured that he will use it only
for fun and enjoyment. Isn't that what you said he wants right now
anyway? Fun and enjoyment could become a life time of hell and regret.
Wait for someone who loves and respects you and is willing to commit
to you for the rest of your life.

if you give it away, its not real...sex is cheap,quick,meaningless and has noooooo feeling...True love is all about feelings and long lasting...He doesent repect you enough to think of how you feel, he is all about SEX only..and then youll be DUMPED, you may like him alot but if a real man loves you he would wait...and honey so should you because giving something as presious as your body to a jerk would only destroy your inner soul...i know.....it happened to me so many years ago at the age of 16, and now i am 35...its still hurts!

i dont think you need to meet your soulmate to have sex, but then its good to be at least in love with someone to have it, at least on the first time
if you are and so is he, then why not
if no, then its not going to be special is it?

It's not about Love to him, it's about sex. He just left a 3 year commitment with someone else, why would he jump back into another one? Save yourself for the right person. If he does have feelings for you he will gladly wait!

Confused Virgo, relationships are based on respect. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, and even waiting until marriage to have sex. Obviously, this man doesn't respect your values. My advice to you is to get rid of him now!

Your description of this guy reminds me of guys who "disappear" if girls say no to sex. Consider that a blessing in disguise, since sex is the ONLY thing he cares about!

This guy has never learned that friendship comes first! 3 weeks and he ALREADY wants sex? Believe me, if this guy REALLY loves you, he would prove it by being patient and not pressuring you before you're ready. Also, he hasn't considered unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases! If he dumps you for saying no, be thankful you were strong enough to recognize that guys like him are worth losing!