Time to move along?

So I've been dating a lovely virgo man for a few months. I posted on here earlier on and received sound advice - thank you. I have read many of the posts here and find myself more confused afterwards. I see people say that if a virgo really cares, he will make it known, he will say it, he will show it. Then I see people say that they retreat when they care. I see good things about the taurus/virgo combo...and then negative things. Of course I know there are other astrological factors involved...and then the people themselves too. I think ultimately boy and I need to have a dreaded "talk" but I'm hoping for some more advice or just thoughts on this situation.

We live an hour apart and so usually only see each other on weekends. Usually I'm the one who goes to his place (I used to live there so I have family and most of my friends there too). I really enjoy spending time with him and when we're together it seems reciprocal. He seems hot and cold though. I admit that I come with a lot - a longs distance relationship (for now), 2 children, an ex husband and an ex boyfriend who still has feelings for me. I know he's hesitant because of all that (and also he wasn't over his ex when we started seeing each other - though I'm pretty sure he is now). I'm not sure if I should even bother trying to convince him that I'm worth the hassle if he can't see it by now.

Last Friday we went out for drinks and had a great night, he was making traveling plans for us, suggesting a fancy dinner the next night and everything was nice. Then later, as we are hot and heavy, he stops and says that he just can't sleep with someone if there's no love. Out of nowhere. We've been sleeping together for awhile and I know that it's not such an odd thing to say but the timing was ridiculous. He's never said he loved me. Could it have been a cop- out on "us"? Then why after such a great night? And why THEN? We talked a bit and then he went to sleep while I was still upset.

The next morning he was back to normal. He fixed my car, I took him out to a nice dinner and we went out for drinks. We ran into my ex, which was super awkward, then another guy I know hit on me right in front of him (more awkwardness) but we proceeded to have a fun evening. The following day we took our dogs for a walk by the river, he took me on a motorcycle ride and went to visit my friends. Really nice last morning.

This week he's hardly texted or called. He knows it's my last weekend without children before they're with me for several weekends. I asked him to hang out and he had a really lame excuse not to. I don't understand why it seems I'm doing so much of the work here. I should mention that he works hard and is on call a lot. We've spent the last several weekends together and of course I understand if he needs sans-me time but he knows he'll hardly see me for the next few weeks...and so why isn't he making me a priority dammit? Am I wasting time on someone who's just not that into me? Am I missing or ignoring huge red flags?

When I started with my Virgo I read a lot of negative things about them, as time went by I discovered that my Virgo is far from being anything close to any of the things said here about Virgos. All Virgos are totally different, such as all signs, there are a lot of things that take place on the traits and characteristics of each sign. I discovered that my Virgo is unlike any other man I have ever met, I always thought that Taurus were my perfect match...NO they re not...my compatibility with this Virgo is amazing.

So with this said I believe you should not go by what they say about Virgos in general because your Virgo can be totally not like what they say. Don't get me wrong, some traits are correct..but not all.

As far as your relationship with your guy...Maybe you should give him some space and let him come to you...I'm sure he knows how you feel about him..It looks like he enjoys your company.But I think you are trying too hard..Like you said, you are the one doing all the work...Let him take a step forward...if he doesn't then I guess he is really not into you, and you will know what you have to do. I'm really sorry you are having this problem with your Virgo man..I hope things get better.

Note: Virgos do sometimes try to test you to see how much they can trust you...they don't trust easily sometimes. But when they are into you they have no problem showing it or expressing how much they want you. They do take things slow..so that is something you might want to consider before making a decision on the relationship. Good Luck😉

Ha - I love ecards. Yes, he does have some stuff going on in his head that has nothing to do with me. Maybe he needs to work that out without girl complications.

Thank you both for the best wishes. Yes, I think I'll back away. Maybe not close the door just quite yet but definitely stop trying so hard. He texted me a few times this weekend asking me if I ended up going out and what I was doing and I wished him luck at his gig (he blew me off to practice for it - in retrospect maybe it wasn't such a lame reason). I'm going to keep busy and make him less of a focus...while in the back of my mind, hope he realizes that I'm worth all the baggage I come with (which seems nothing like all the emotional baggage he has imo...just saying.) Sigh.

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Ha - I love ecards. Yes, he does have some stuff going on in his head that has nothing to do with me. Maybe he needs to work that out without girl complications.

Thank you both for the best wishes. Yes, I think I'll back away. Maybe not close the door just quite yet but definitely stop trying so hard. He texted me a few times this weekend asking me if I ended up going out and what I was doing and I wished him luck at his gig (he blew me off to practice for it - in retrospect maybe it wasn't such a lame reason). I'm going to keep busy and make him less of a focus...while in the back of my mind, hope he realizes that I'm worth all the baggage I come with (which seems nothing like all the emotional baggage he has imo...just saying.) Sigh.

Thats when you know that a man does care and is serious about you..When your issues don't seem like a big thing to him. If someone thinks they will find a person without issues you are in for a big surprise..No one is problem or issue free.. Im sure you are very much worth his time..and hopefully he will too. But if he doesn't it's his lost and Im sure you will find one that will accept you with *issues* and all🙂

Thanks TaurusBadGirl - I appreciate it. Hey, I didn't say I had *issues*. I have some baggage (kids, ex, I live an hour away) - HE is the one with the issues (ex stuff, wall up, emotional difficulties) 😉 No but seriously, it will definitely be his loss if decides he can't deal.

I had a fun, busy weekend dancing, having brunch and dinner, visiting and rock climbing with various friends and I'm feeling oodles better about things. He texted more today, asking what I was doing and telling me about his music gig. I was responsive and friendly but fighting the urge to initiate contact or flirt. Taurus' tend to move slowly so being with someone who moves even more slowly (and who pulls away) is very difficult for me...but is good for growth, I'm sure.

Hurry and kick in please, Patience!