Virg man not willing to wait/sending mixed signals

Alright, I know this board is already riddled with posts from hopeless romantics of the Libra variety, like myself, asking why Virgo men can be so confusing, but my question run deeper than that.

The guy I've been seeing and I had a long conversation a few nights ago where we discussed what we wanted from one another. I'm a virgin, so I told him before I could trust someone to do anything, I'd have to be in a committed relationship with them. He responded by saying it's okay if we don't have sex right away, but that he needs "other stuff" because he doesn't "know how much longer [he] can wait." That put me off because it made me question if he actually liked me. He assured me he liked me for who I was and that he was committed to me, but that he doesn't see us being in a relationship right now.
Yet he said he considers us to be dating. Huh??
Additionally, while I was trying to have this conversation with him, he kept trying to makeout with me and fool around, even following the fact that I expressed I wasn't in the mood. I felt that he couldn't respect that I wanted to talk and have him stop groping me for a moment.

Furthermore, following our long conversation, he texted me (after I texted him first, of course. Few Virgos initiate texting) telling me that he "really enjoyed our conversation...I think we touched on everything that needed to be mentioned. PS I liked holding your hand." I texted him back with NO response. He didn't talk to me for several days afterwards and I let him have his space. He only contacted me last night to invite me to his birthday, but it seemed nearly last minute. Again, I was put off by how cold and distant he was being, so I opted out and apologized for not being able to make it. Since then, we haven't spoken.

Here are my major issues.
1) He seems so cold and aloof, and will go on for days without speaking to me, but when he sees me, he seems warm. In fact, he seems really frisky. We can't spend a moment together alone without him trying to do something. On the other hand, when we're in public, he's very sweet and fun to be around. I'm just confused because I can't figure out why he's so distant and why, if he liked me for me, he can't wait. We haven't been together for that long, just a couple of months. Is he just trying to "hit it and quit it?"

2) I am so upfront and it's SO exhausting having to draw out everything from this person. Will he eventually open up on his own?

That is me, and thanks!

He was cold prior to our long conversation.


It's like pulling teeth trying to draw out what he really means and how he feels. He sends mixed signals ALL the time and I find myself feeling like I'm always left in the dark, playing a guessing game.

Affection is no problem. He's always holding my hand, and giving me little kisses. The problem is that he can go weeks without talking to me once. I don't want to ask him to text me more because he obviously isn't that type of person, and I wouldn't feel comfortable forcing somebody else to do something simply to make me happy.

I firmly believe that women shouldn't want to change a man; they should either accept him for who he is or move on. I'm just caught in the blur of deciding whether to put up with this and accept it, or say goodbye.

I'm so open with how I feel, what I want and where I stand. I wish he were the same way.

Posted by LibraLove
Is he just trying to "hit it and quit it?"

Maybe..... hard to really know for sure, but he's definitely trying to get inside your head. Is he a player? Don't ask him directly..... but instead of agonizing whether he "likes" you, put the pieces together and make a decision, because no 1 man is worth this much trouble.