virgo bf and baby mama

ok so i dont know how to deal with this and if i should bring it up.
my boyfriends baby mother's facebook is always talking about how shes over him and how he's a dead beat blahblah blah
but clearly she is not over him thus the long note she tagged him in..

"FOR THE EXES"
Some people wish or dream that they can love and be loved,
even if just for a day, they have this fantasy.
You made that fantasy a reality for me.
I loved and I thought I was being loved back.
The problem with fantasies though is that they are not real.
Fantasies are pretend.
So when I loved, you never really loved me back, you pretended.
But, at the time, at least I felt loved.
And I want to thank you for making me feel loved,
even though you never really genuinely loved me,
at least you pretended.
All the bullshit I took from you,
all the insults I got from you,
all the chances I gave to you,
it was all like closing my eyes and trying to get that dream back.
I didn't want to believe that it was all a lie.
I didn't want to wake up to reality.
But I keep waking up.

I keep opening my eyes and realizing that it was all a dream.

You were just a fantasy.

You were all just pretend.

But I wanted so badly for you to be real,

I tried many times to close my eyes and keep the dream going.

But I can't keep lying to myself.

I can't keep living a pretend life.

I have to stay awake and realize that you are not real.

Your love is not real.

It was all just a figment of my imagination.

But everyone dreams.

They dream of winning the lottery,

living in a big house with lots of cars,

etc. etc.

But they wake up and accept that it's only a dream.

It would be the BEST thing in the world if it came true,

but they will not let an un-real dream control their lives.

So, like that lottery dream,

you will always be in the back of my mind;

this dream of you being a REAL father and us being a real family.

But I'm awake, and accept that it's only a dream.

It would be the BEST thing in the world if it came true,

but I will not let an un-real dream control my life.

So, thanks for being my dream.

Thanks for making my fantasy a reality if only for a short while.

I will accept the fact that you were only a dream.

And from now on when people wish for fantasies,

I will tell them that living a fantasy is not worth the pain,

it only kills you inside when you wake up to the truth.

I will accept the fact that you were only a dream.

And from now on when people wish for fantasies,

I will tell them that living a fantasy is not worth the pain,

it only kills you inside when you wake up to the truth.

And for those that say...

"it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all...."

I don't think they ever really loved at all,

because if they did, they would know....

"it's better to never love than to lose the one you love..."

and it's even worse to find out that you were never really loved at all.

There's just one difference.

In a dream, you wake up with nothing but memories.

All I have left are memories.....but.....

I also get to wake up to the best princess in the world!!!

She has your smile, and when she smiles, I know that all the pain was worth it.

It's a damn shame that you're such a deadbeat,

because you're missing out on the best thing in life, and without it, you're as good as dead


He is not a dead beat there was pure drama and she wont let him see the baby so says he wont give money unless she does, then she tries to act like it's all his fault, he doesnt want to put his child through court. Then she says shit like this, clearly not being over him and wanting a family (which i understand)

but i just dont know if this is something i should even continue to involve myself in,, i feel like im setting myself up for future drama.

i guess im also kind of emotioonally distancing myself just in case he decides she's right and will go back?
i dont know what do you think about this situation

Her lengthy comment sounds prompted; like he asked her whether it be by FB or by text what she thought of the "ride" or if she saw them ever getting back together. I would keep emotional distance unless you start seeing very positive growth on his part; adult decisions that only are made for the well-being of the child, accepting responsibility for anything he remotely played a part in undoing. Then and only then go towards this guy with gusto for he's reached a plane of caring that may be unmatched to any other you might have experienced.