Long story short, dated this virguy, I ended things but see each other everyday since we work together....we had sex a couple of times after we broke up but i kept dating other people, until recently i met someone great and now i have a boyfriend. He reacted like a guy always does, he didn't want anything serious to do with me until he found out i have a serious boyfriend, he freaked, told me he loved me, that he wanted me back, to give him a chance, i said no and i am still in a relationship. My problem now is at work, he is acting like an inmature jerk, suddenly everything about me bothers him and he constantly makes stupid comments and try to make fun of me in front of everybody, he critizices and piques fun of everything, my accent (used to love it lol) the way i walk, what i wear, my hair and recently i had a cold and he even made fun of my cough, it doesn't affect me since i couldn't care less about his opinion but we have some projects we work together and is starting to affect our work, i feel like i am trying to communicate with a 5 year old.... I have talked to him about it, told him we should try to eork it out, that he needs to try to keep the contact to a minimum unless work related but as much as a try to ignore him he always finds a way to talk to me and is always in an passive agressive manner, what the hell is wrong with this guy and what can i do about this....—? Advice anyone—
Tell him you know you hurt his feelings and its quite obvious by the way he treats you in front of everyone. Say something like, "You know how i know i hurt you?, you mock me in front of everyone.
I know if some chick called me out like that, it would tell me that, im not in control of my feelings and im being a bit uncool.
Smile sunnily up from your desk..close your file gently..and tell him he won't get a sucker if he keeps misbehaving. Keep that smile in place, walk away. He can engage in nothing if there's nothing to bounce off of. Yes you work together. Keep project talk to the project and give the rest zero importance. If that fails to hammer the point home point blank tell him to remove himself from your presence..after all, it's most irritating. You're only looking out for his welfare after all.
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My problem now is at work, he is acting like an inmature jerk, suddenly everything about me bothers him and he constantly makes stupid comments and try to make fun of me in front of everybody, he critizices and piques fun of everything, my accent (used to love it lol) the way i walk, what i wear, my hair and recently i had a cold and he even made fun of my cough, it doesn't affect me since i couldn't care less about his opinion but we have some projects we work together and is starting to affect our work, i feel like i am trying to communicate with a 5 year old.... I have talked to him about it, told him we should try to eork it out, that he needs to try to keep the contact to a minimum unless work related but as much as a try to ignore him he always finds a way to talk to me and is always in an passive agressive manner, what the hell is wrong with this guy and what can i do about this....—? Advice anyone—