Virgo female, Leo male: JFC

Started talking to this Virgo near perfect woman back in April. She had her FWB up to around late June, when we really started to like each other. She's a boss lady, I'm a boss gentleman. I am now, madly in love with her and lost on what the hell to do! I've been holding out for YEARS to find her, and I did and I feel I just lost her.

We have the world in common, our careers ( she's a student, so am I), music, fashion, views on future/family, places, food, class, values, morals, movies.. Etc. We started seeing each other the last week of July.

First date: great dinner then out doors sex. 2nd date, half assed sex followed by a "all you want is sex" fight, 3rd date: drunken mess with tears from both sides. 4th date: more drunken teary drama followed by sex, 5th date: amazing, everything good. We actually had a great time, visited cultural places and talked about "our future" etc. 6th date: she met my family, great date, she even tells me she "likes me a lot", except to where we get to the part she "dumps" me.

We get to the hotel and we are making out, wine bottle,sexy talking. All good. I get out of the shower and she tells me how she is cramping and her knees hurt and how she is not feeling it. I appear to be a bit drunk and just careless of my virgo and I keep touching her, caressing her, kissing her passionately and intensively. NEVER with physical restraining or with force or loudly or aggressively in any way. 5 minutes go on of this and she starts crying and starts with "go to your bed, I'm done with you, this is a bad sign, I trust my instincts. Take me home tomorrow morning, go to sleep, we're done." We go to sleep on separate hotel beds, next morning all she wants to so is "go home to her family" after about an hour of arguing. I ask her to give me another chance, I cry, I beg. I tell her how much I love her: all things apparently I shouldn't have done ( I started using and feeling the L word at about the 3rd date, she's all I've dreamed for). So, she threatens me with a restraining order, not to call her ever again, not to move where she lives (something I mentioned) and even after us talking about how fast we were going, we never seemed to agree on it. So our pace was just right. (Sex wasn't the greatest, I've been rusty :p). Her last bf hit her and that was about a year and a half ago. She's had FWB in between until June-JULY when we started "talking".

It has been a week, she deleted me off FB, blocked me on FB, blocked/unfollowed me

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It has been a week, she deleted me off FB, blocked me on FB, blocked/unfollowed me on instagram.

Any advice from a Virgo would do wonders. Should I text/call her on her first day of school wishing her well next week? Should I do the same for her bday? Should I stay quiet and wait for her to return to me?? Her best friend told me to "move on" the same day everything went down, which as on the 12th, my birthday!!!!

I'm devastated, heartbroken and just can't believe how critical she was about me just being all over her passionately. I know and admitted to her I messed up. Now I'm just sad and heart broken.

So, she threatens me with a restraining order, not to call her ever again, not to move where she lives (something I mentioned)

I'm not a Virgo.
Seriously, dude, when any woman says to not contact her again, and then threatens you with an injunction (restraining order), you had better listen to her.

I blew it? By just kissing her? Seriously —??

And about what she said about the restraining order, she even said on the 3rd date she didn't want to see me ever again etc, with all the drama. We still talked and sea eachother

"LEO Merc"—?

Posted by Leoc
I blew it? By just kissing her? Seriously —??

And about what she said about the restraining order, she even said on the 3rd date she didn't want to see me ever again etc, with all the drama. We still talked and sea eachother

Saw* eachother

Is this the type of relationship you get off on?
If so, then go for it. Have fun.

Get off on—

We did have a lot of fun full of laughter, in spite of some clashing. We are both very strong personalities, both on top of our game in life and bossy. Can't say we get off from it but we seem to like each other cause of this reason. We agreed we were seeing just typical bland, ordinary and boring people before we met.

That was a one time threat. I took her home and we did not say a word to each other. I don't plan to talk to her because I know I messed up real bad. I can't call/text her. I know this is all my fault but I feel she exaggerated a bit.

Not sure about the Mercury in my natal chart, I will look into it.

Made my mind up?

I'd like any type of advice. I'm a confused sad wreck, that's all.

That's probably why so much confusion coming from me.

Note to fire signs; water and earth signs don't like long sustained drama.
In the beginning it's fun but we really don't want that at the heavy doses you guys do.
Especially when you show how insensitive you are.
You should have gotten a Gemini for that. You would be beating her and she would call you her world.

You think this is excitement but it looks like a train wreck to me.

Insensitive? She actually kept complaining on how "sensitive" I am.

I love em but, I just don't get women...

My mom is an earth sign, we've been arguing for all our lives and yes, train wreck indeed.

So right Kalin. And I'm full of excuses but it all comes down to what you just said 😐

Virgo gal says...Wait - No contact, disappear - for a few months ...."Time heal all wounds"

Sounds like she has some issues and when I say issues...I mean run the fuck away!!!

Nothing in your post says this is a healthy start to a relationship...drama filled which means it will cont to be that way...

and it seems like you have some issues too...

Posted by Leoc
Insensitive? She actually kept complaining on how "sensitive" I am.

I love em but, I just don't get women...

My mom is an earth sign, we've been arguing for all our lives and yes, train wreck indeed.

hahah i dont mean to laugh, but the leo woman i was dealing with recently said i was too sensitive, and im a virgo male.


but for your situation, id say if you want to try and be friends with her again let things settle. I mean for at least a few weeks, maybe even a few months. I cant tell you what to do but it sounds to me like she used you.

I feel a bit used. What gives you that impression ?

Thanks.

Posted by Leoc
I feel a bit used. What gives you that impression ?

Thanks.

that she was ok with sex with you but whenever anything further came up she would fight with you

I have no idea what to think at this point. She starts school tomorrow and her birthday is in a week. I really want to wish her the best on both occasions but I feel I'm going to pass on it. My Leo pride just won't let me get in touch and I am also really hurt

I'm sure she moved on by now anyway, i guess that everything she said and the caring shown for me was all in vain.

Life goes on.
Thanks to everyone who replied and the best bday wishes to all.