Virgo girl at work .....

She is 22 and has been with boyfriend for 5 years. They have been living together for sevaral years and he bought a house last year.

Yesterday, she comes to work upset because her boyfriend kicked her out, threatened to change locks and took her cell phone from her, and sent her to her car to sleep for the night .. which she did sleep in her car Thursday night.

Yesterday, he came in to work to tell her that she has to go to her mothers house over night and if she does what she is told then he will give her back her cell phone, and then he will have a talk with her about resolving her issues .. one issue being his unhappiness with the amount of time it is taking her to finish school.

so, there I stand with mouth gaped open when he lays this shit on her ... ready to rip his nuts off ... waiting for her to give the signal to tear him a new asshole.

What does she do?


Obey





holy fucking shit ... she fucking obeys him, like a dog wanting a treat.

wtf? why? why?

Sounds a lot like my Cancer Ex - emphasis on EX!

Why would a woman do this?

No pride, no dignity?



She begged him to be nice to her.


At first I wanted to slap him ... but, after what I saw, she's the one who needed the slapping ... back to reality.


Begged !!!!! It was disgusting, really.

My hubby and I talked about it last night .. and it sounds like he must batter her. Why else would she do this?

She must be afraid of him .... fear would make a woman do such a thing, I think.

Perhaps, she needs to be counselled ... so she can get the courage to get the hell away from him.

Domestic violence is difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it. There is the desire for things to get better, the belief that he will change, despair that you will be forever lonely (he's convinced you that no one else will have you - after all you are the crazy one), these men put women on a pedestal at the onset making her feel on top of the world and there is no better love in the world (no one would love you like he). You become their everything and vice versa. They slowly start to seclude you from the rest of the world so that they have ALL of you - after all your friends will only try to break you up, they're not really there for you, they're using you, etc - they view anything outside the relationship a threat. The woman in turn naturally tries to smooth things over, make everything all right, do whatever it takes to prove otherwise (after all she is the love of his life and things will be good once she makes him happy). The first signs are so subtle, chalked up to a bad day. The problem is, by the time one realizes the reality of it all, their self-esteem has already been tapped away to almost nothing (they are very calculating, manipulative men and no, you don't see it coming). If you cry you're crazy, if they want to lock you in a closet and you fight back you're abusive, if you take too long at the daycare you must be seeing another man, I could go on.... the point is, it doesn't happen overnight and women want to feel loved and abusive men make their women feel so very loved in the beginning. If you do what you are supposed to it will be alright and he will still have you on a pedestal - you are always trying to get back on the pedestal he initially had you on. No one wants to be abused, they want to be loved.

Oh my goodness. Maybe it's the other influences in my chart, but I would not stand for this. But as lilidol said, if there was already a history of abuse between them/in their home, she was more than likely going to obey. It's such a sad issue, and while we more than anything want the girl to just stand up, grow a pair, and kick the guy right in the teeth, it usually won't happen. I've never been a victim of abuse, so I don't know what it is like. But if this isn't a recent development between them, this is going to go on longer and probably will be re-occurring. But if this is recent, she really does need a quick ick to the rear so she can deal with this. No woman deserves that type of treatment.

I say the same thing, would kick 'em to the curb in a heart beat, but it's so much more complicated than that when you actually find yourself in it and at the point you realize the progression and ask yourself "what the fuck happened?".

she is young im the same age we might have some of the same placments but I would never do that scorpio rising lol. is her bf a scorpio sounds like scorpio bs to me or some one with heavy pluto in there chart.

That ain't heavy Pluto, that's heavy Psycho. Boy needs some help, they both do.

I don't know his chart ... alls I know is that he was born early August.

My problem with this is he is not only subjecting his behavior to her, but to other people at her job. P dont wait for a sign from her. My take on that is if a person is going to indirectly subject other people to their abusive behavior, then it becomes everybody's business. Just because she puts up with it, doesnt mean you have to. If she has an issue with someone saying something to him, then she needs to find another job. This guy is out of control.

A person like her will probably not go to counseling unless he leaves her.

Trust, I was shaking I wanted to throttle him so damn bad .. but, it wasn't my place. She is the one allowing him to abuse her. The person who needs an ass-whopping is her, actually.


We've talk alittle bit since that episode and I have come to the realization that it goes a lot deeper than just the holding cell phone hostage, and car sleeping incident. She told me that there isn't anyone else for her, that wants her .. and I was like, "say wha?"

This girl is gorgeous, no shit .. men are always making eyes at her, and constantly ask me about her. She has a lot going for her, and doesn't even know it.

I asked her what she meant, and she said that (boyfriend) is the only one who would want her and that she should be thankful for him ... and she is, she is thankful.


I'm like holy fucking shit .... he has her believing that she should be thankful that she has him, and completely clueless that he is a piece of shit.

The picture is beginning to become clearer though .. she told me that her father lived on the street until he died. Apparantly he was a street-living wino who nobody wanted. So, her image of a father is pretty sorry.


I feel sorry for her ... at the same time, I want to slap the crap out of her.