virgo male not making any sense

So we had been talking for a few weeks...he introduced me to his family and took me to chruch. He wanted to clarify whether we were in a relationship or dating. He told me he was in love with me. He said he could visualize us being together starting a family. Then a few days ago he just goes wacko. Telling me I don't understand him and we are black and whit. Now he's wondering if we rushed thing. One night he started a agrument then told me he was going to bed and that he loved me and hung up the phone. That was the last time I heard frpm him. 4 days ago. He hasn't called or texted. Like wtf?

From what you said, it appears he has studied you, analysed you and found a couple of faults.

one question i would like to ask is that, "did you try and prove him wrong when he said you don't understand him?"
or when he said you were like black and white?

the reason why i'm saying this is that sometimes Virgo men need assurance that you like the same way you do. you need
to mentally prove this.
Perfectionist at heart, we always like to know everything is going "perfect"

if he won those arguments or you didn't try to enlighten his dark thoughts about your relationship, i would recommend giving him a call and doing so.