Virgo man coming on heavy..

I separated from hubby and have pretty much kept things on the down low for a little while as I wanted total shell time, but made the mistake of saying I was single in passing to an old Virgo friend.
He came down really heavy. To the point of suggesting marriage, how he loves me. I was extremely up front in saying that I am totally shut down, my heart is damaged, things are scary and I have no intention of a relationship and that I can't do that. I've never been subtle about this, and never lead him on as I genuinely want to be left alone in that department.
Well, he said he understands.... But he constantly texts, messages thru fb and is constantly pining for me which is the pits. Wanting me to go be with him, wanting my love etc. Ifi go out he seems sooky that I didn't take him too. Inundated with texts and messages of love.
I feel nothing for this guy.
I'm over it. So now I'm in typical cancer ignoring and retreating mode.

What's his deal? Do Virgo men feel like they need to 'fix' people and are they in love with the idea of being in love?
I've ever encountered a Virgo male so this is new to me.

Being a Virgo female, I've actually never encountered a Virgo male. I don't even think I know of any actually. Except for my step brother. But he doesn't count. But all Astrology signs aside, and from my womanly perspective, females can't have male friends. It just doesn't work out. You think a guy is really cool, and you want nothing more than to just be friends, then BAM, you realize how creepy and pushy they've become. X-ing one less guy friend off the list.

Posted by MadamCrab
I separated from hubby and have pretty much kept things on the down low for a little while as I wanted total shell time, but made the mistake of saying I was single in passing to an old Virgo friend.
He came down really heavy. To the point of suggesting marriage, how he loves me. I was extremely up front in saying that I am totally shut down, my heart is damaged, things are scary and I have no intention of a relationship and that I can't do that. I've never been subtle about this, and never lead him on as I genuinely want to be left alone in that department.
Well, he said he understands.... But he constantly texts, messages thru fb and is constantly pining for me which is the pits. Wanting me to go be with him, wanting my love etc. Ifi go out he seems sooky that I didn't take him too. Inundated with texts and messages of love.
I feel nothing for this guy.
I'm over it. So now I'm in typical cancer ignoring and retreating mode.

What's his deal? Do Virgo men feel like they need to 'fix' people and are they in love with the idea of being in love?
I've ever encountered a Virgo male so this is new to me.

Well, you say he is an "old friend". Earth signs are comfortable with friends (if they want to take it to the next level). It's a matter of trust in this case, because they don't usually have to feel that part out like they do when they meet someone new and don't know. Call it a comfort level. He may have had feelings for you in the past that he wasn't able to express to you or deal with while you were married. (?) The ignoring is understandable, and he was told you wanted to be left alone, so just keep doing that. He sees you as vulnerable right now, and yes, wants to lift you up, but the suggestion of "marriage and love" doesn't make sense to me at all, and no..Virgo's tend to be much more subtle even with friends before they shout these words. They have this way of very gently getting into your heart so this guy is def a rare breed. Heal, take care of YOU, and command respect from this dude. If you have to keep ignoring, keep ignoring. I wish you luck and peace dealing with your separation/divorce. You need this time to concentrate on that (if that's what your next plan is). You will need all the strength you can get for that.

Letitbe... I actually commented that he is very vocal with his feelings, and he replied that he is not like that at all, but with me it's different.
The man has me on a pedestal and I hate it.
He told me he wants to do more for me and I straight out told him that I'm independent and I don't like being taken care of like that.??
I think that's the Aries and sag in my chart.
Thank you for your advice and kind words. That's exactly what I feel I need. x

Cluelesscancer... Oh good luck with that lol!

I believe you can have male friends, but in this case I feels it's best to not even go there with him.
If this was coming from a scorp I'd be loving it.??
Sorry Virgo males, I know this doesn't apply to all of you 😉

Moodyvulcan...there was nothing there to begin with. He literally flew in, swooped and went into control freak mode and 'forgot' to even ask what I feel.
It's all about him.
No interest there. Unless me being blunt and a little Nasty at times and ignoring him is deciphered as 'interested'

Posted by antonarnia
Being a Virgo female, I've actually never encountered a Virgo male. I don't even think I know of any actually. Except for my step brother. But he doesn't count. But all Astrology signs aside, and from my womanly perspective, females can't have male friends. It just doesn't work out. You think a guy is really cool, and you want nothing more than to just be friends, then BAM, you realize how creepy and pushy they've become. X-ing one less guy friend off the list.

My beautiful sister is a Virgo, and she is so not like this with anyone.

Posted by MadamCrab


I feel nothing for this guy.
I'm over it. So now I'm in typical cancer ignoring and retreating mode.

It? you're over ...... it?

Which means there was an It that you were involved with .... you are deceiving. You attempt to make it sound like you've done nothing to entice this man, when in reality, there was something there on your part for you to be over.

Then you turn around and state you'd be liking attention from a Scorpio .... so, there's no doubt in my mind that in typical Cancer fashion, you are lying.

I'm guessing (it's just a guess) that you've leaned on the Virgo friend a little too hard, maybe you've confided in him about your relationship struggles or just shared general issues going on in your life and he's grown attached.

A woman can be friends with a guy up to a certain point, if he's heterosexual he'll want to poke your holes at some point.

Posted by MadamCrab
Letitbe... I actually commented that he is very vocal with his feelings, and he replied that he is not like that at all, but with me it's different.
The man has me on a pedestal and I hate it.
He told me he wants to do more for me and I straight out told him that I'm independent and I don't like being taken care of like that.??
I think that's the Aries and sag in my chart.
Thank you for your advice and kind words. That's exactly what I feel I need. x

Well, if you told him this and he didn't listen and he is really bothering you that much, block him completely out of your life. Simple. However, take into consideration that you have left your significant other and may not realize that you are vulnerable and when you are around this Virgo you may be giving him other signals unintentionally. (?) Again, block him out of your life if it is bothersome to you. He'll get it.

ditto..I can't stand the typical virgo men. I think I like my virgo man because of his venus in scorpio and mars in taurus placements(my mars is in scorpio and moon is in taurus). that explains the attraction and connection.

Posted by virgology83
I honestly can't stand Virgo men. BIG HUG and I hope it gets worked out soon...

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by MadamCrab


I feel nothing for this guy.
I'm over it. So now I'm in typical cancer ignoring and retreating mode.

It? you're over ...... it?

Which means there was an It that you were involved with .... you are deceiving. You attempt to make it sound like you've done nothing to entice this man, when in reality, there was something there on your part for you to be over.

Then you turn around and state you'd be liking attention from a Scorpio .... so, there's no doubt in my mind that in typical Cancer fashion, you are lying.

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You are quite hilarious, P-angel. You do have quite the ability to overanalyze. By 'it' I am referring to his behaviour.
And I don't lie, sweetie. My Aries moon keeps me blunt and honest.

For what it's worth, I got information today from someone who has known him since quite young.
It's come out that there has been many instances of this occuring, one of which people have stepped in because he has been known to use this behaviour on women that he comes across and feels he needs to 'fix'. He was turning up at her house and wherever she was. I also just discovered he did that with someone I know personally, and she is openly gay and has told him where to get off, yet he pursues.
So if SHE is giving him signals that his attention is wanted, then, hell, I'm the queen of England.

I feel he cannot see past his own needs and wants. I've noticed he has no comprehension of the others person's lack of feelings toward him.

I hear where you are coming from Letitbe, but in all honesty, I made sure I was consciously aware of my behaviour with him when I picked up something was not right with him. And I picked that up from the beginning. I felt sick and anxious and couldn't understand why.

Tiki, this has just been the last couple of weeks. He asked once about what happened with my marriage and I told him. That's about as much as I've shared.
After my separation, I've been independent and lean on no one. It's quite weird how shut off yet strong I feel. Like I don't need anything or need to rely on anyone? It's quite liberating.

Thanks virgology!

Posted by MadamCrab
Tiki, this has just been the last couple of weeks. He asked once about what happened with my marriage and I told him. That's about as much as I've shared.
After my separation, I've been independent and lean on no one. It's quite weird how shut off yet strong I feel. Like I don't need anything or need to rely on anyone? It's quite liberating.

Thanks virgology!

Yea..that's the first initial reaction after separation, just be aware, there's a vault of emotion to follow when divorce is actually filed. Make sure you stay far away from the "fixer" when that time comes. No matter how strong one is, this is one of those things in life that will suck the life out of you if you allow it. I wish you the best of luck.🙂