Cupidsbow
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virgo man... how good is your bullshit radar?
Sounds a little sketchy. I don't know what your experiences are and if anything good ever came out of a guy who charmed you to hell. But in my life, I allowed TWO men to sweet talk and charm me with beautiful words. First, a Cancer who seemed so harmless, then I gave it a go again with a Gemini who persisted for 6 months which I justified with, 'if he's trying this hard, he must be genuine.' They turned out to be two of the biggest mistakes and disappointments to date. Of course I don't blame them because I feel that they helped me affirm my suspicion, to never go against my better judgement and gut instinct. So start with this in mind and try to reflect on your own personal experiences whether these excessive compliments are normal/common with your love life. For me, the answer is a flat 'no.' I have never met any genuine person this way where he, right off the bat, shower me with exasperated compliments. Ones who are honest, all have taken their time to get to know me (compliments are there, but they're not used to lure me or stray me or swoon me in any way). Adoration comes after a high level of trust and comfort, as it should be.
Secondly, his ex girlfriend is a huge red flag. I would have to question why would someone, especially an ex-lover, feel the need to go out of her way to speak badly about her ex, nonetheless, to a complete stranger. Something's going on.
Some questions you should ask yourself:
1. Why does she have so much spite towards him to feel the need to warn you? He must have done something terribly wrong to create such resentment.
2. Even if, perchance, he's innocent, her action then is a clear sign of her instability and destructiveness. Chaos attracts chaos--that's how our psyche works. He must then be a person of shaky character to attract another shaky character as such.
3. Most importantly, is it worth it? Problems arise already before a friendship, needless a relationship, came to fruition.
I suggest that you don't be hasty, but don't involve yourself emotionally. Time tells tales. I guarantee you.
Secondly, his ex girlfriend is a huge red flag. I would have to question why would someone, especially an ex-lover, feel the need to go out of her way to speak badly about her ex, nonetheless, to a complete stranger. Something's going on.
Some questions you should ask yourself:
1. Why does she have so much spite towards him to feel the need to warn you? He must have done something terribly wrong to create such resentment.
2. Even if, perchance, he's innocent, her action then is a clear sign of her instability and destructiveness. Chaos attracts chaos--that's how our psyche works. He must then be a person of shaky character to attract another shaky character as such.
3. Most importantly, is it worth it? Problems arise already before a friendship, needless a relationship, came to fruition.
I suggest that you don't be hasty, but don't involve yourself emotionally. Time tells tales. I guarantee you.
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