Virgo men and Purity

Just wanted to know if others can shed some light on this. Specifically the color white and virginity.

What about the color white?

And virginity?

I mean their preference to color white.
And regarding virginity what/why the importance.

Typically speaking, I'm not drawn to the color white. I usually dress in black. I prefer more "earthly" colors as well, like greens and browns.

As for virginity, that was out the door awhile ago. When I did lose it, I thought I had been saving it for "the one" and I was wrong (oh, and that kind of stuff leaves a scar). I am still rather picky when it comes to whom I will sleep with though.

Oh, and mention my name and purity in the same sentence around my friends and they'll get a good laugh.

But there's a story that goes with that...

thanks Viropmoon, i'm a virgo gal myself, and my bf is virgo as well. Like you i'm not into White, but he is. He even prefers white lingerie as well, i thought men were into black or red or something like that. But his answer was as long as it is white. thus my curiousity if other Vguys are like that and if so the reason behind it.
Regarding the virginity stuff, he is a virgin and had told me previously that it would upset him if his wife wasn't. I am virgin as well, for me first i wanted to wait for the one, but as i've gotten older i think it should just happen if it's meant to but u are right i am picky in who i get intimate with as well. But now he wants to do with, and i'm thinking if i do would i lose his respect?

Okay, about sex... this may sound kind of wierd... but I prefer gals not to put out on the first date, if that happens then the loss of respect might come into play.

Then again, if they do on the first date, I get "hooked"... so I don't really understand it myself.

And you two sound like you've been on more than just the first date... I say, do what feels right, if you don't think it'd be good for your relationship, then by all means don't do it.

But ya know, there are always those "other things" you can do besides sex...

ha ha ha those past things have been wayyyy done...he he i think thus it's coming to the point that it needs to go all the way. So a lil confused as to what i should do. from a male's perspective -> If you haven't done it this long (he is 26), if you do decide to do it now, you would do it with strong intention, as in thinking that it was serious? or would you just do it cuz you can't hold out any longer?

Maybe a lil bit of both... If he's held out this long, maybe he's finally comfortable with taking it to that next level.

But I'd still say wait around for the opinions of the Virguys with more life experience than I... (ie: dyrstr8z)

hahaha yes i think i can wait couple of days (hours) he he

>Typically speaking, I'm not drawn to the color white. I usually dress in black. I prefer more "earthly" colors as well, like greens and browns.

Same here, LOL. Black is actually my fav color, then Blue, green, brown... I had a girlfriend once who tried giving me a "color test" and was very disappointed with the result. At least she recognised it didn't work on me, heh.

As for virginity, I've never been with a virgin as far as I know, and have been with around 50 women in my lifetime. I think I'd be a little afraid to be with one, LOL. I actually prefer a gal who has experience as she would be more likely to be comfortable with sex and her feelings about it. Also more likely to know what she likes etc.

Thankx FC! hmm not sure then as to why my Vguy is into white and the whole virginity thing is so important. he had told me he likes white becuz it is "pure"...pondering...

thanks D, so i'm goign to have to assume this white thing applies only to my beau.
But do you think that fact that he wants to do it with me would reflect that his feelings are strong?

Actually bear I have known a couple Virgoes who love the color white for lingerie (that doesn't mean they love the color itself, but they love it on women).

I know some of the specific reasons they love it but there's no way I'm gonna write 'em here. 😛

Initially I was kind of confused too because I'd always considered black and red or a combination of the two to be sexier, like you said.

Come on Ferghus, you wouldn't like ta do some teachin'? lol

thanks homies, can you tell me more in pm plz pretty plz =0(

>FC, dude - you been busy! 50? Damn! Of course, you weren't married for 20+ years, so I still retain some of my masculinity at a measly 11'ish...

LOL, I thought you'd have way more experience than me Dy = ) But it's all good.

>Come on Ferghus, you wouldn't like ta do some teachin'? lol

JUst ask away, I'll tell you anything you want to know if I can. But I think DY is likely just as sharp when it comes to matters sexual. So between the two of us oh... and SA, we should be able to help out. = )

If you mean be a sex therapist.... would love to teach people how to be great lovers, LOL... but theres TONS of good books on the subject. Maybe there are too many books even... can make it confusing to find out what's what, heh.

I meant 'cause you said virgins scare you. But, I mean, it's like getting a clean slate...hehehe...ok I'll stop now.

>I meant 'cause you said virgins scare you. But, I mean, it's like getting a clean slate...hehehe...ok I'll stop now.

OIC, LOL. Well, I suppose it could be fun, LOL... but at my age it prolly ain't gonna happen, LOL.

What's more. I just think it's so silly that some men NEED their gal to be a virgin... must be some really insecure dudes out there.

Hmm well I can kind of understand if they are a virgin 'cause, yeah, I'd say that would cause some insecurity if they think they need to be taught what to do from their girlfriend. Not that I think that they should be insecure about that, I just know a lot of men would 😉.

Some people wanna marry a virgin 'cause they're really religious and all that. But yeah I guess that could be a mask for insecurity too 😛

Nobody taught me... I figured it out... not that difficult if you ask me, especially because I don't just focus on one area 🙂

yes i think it has to do with his religion and upbringing, and not so with whether he'll not know what to do i mean afterall he is a virgo and is knowledgable in what to do in other areas. In the past he has dated virgins and non virgins but I'm not sure if he wants to do with me becuz of his serious feelings for me or if it is he is thinking if he just needs to do it...

He's still a virgin?

If he has sex with you do you think his "Must marry a virgin" doctrine would change because he would no longer be a virgin?

honeycoe: I never pretend to be pure... I just know that there are times and places where it's not appropriate to behave a certain way, and times and places where I feel comfortable discussing my personal life.

"If he has sex with you do you think his "Must marry a virgin" doctrine would change because he would no longer be a virgin?"

VirgoP: Thus my dilemma, he had said that when he first started dating, so if he does now he won't be one and so far as my understanding of him, he isn't a hypocrite. if he won't be a virgin, he can't expect the person he marries to be a virgin as well. He has waited this long, so for him to do it now should have some reasoning. Now the reasoning or his reasoning is the puzzle.

Oh, I was just stating that I know when and where I can discuss those things, I honestly don't mind discussing it here on DXP.

I'm not trying to start an argument with you... really... I was just making a point, where I can see as to why some would think that Virgos "act pure"... I was stating that maybe it's because they know when and where they can and cannot behave in an "unpure" fashion.

Also, in this guy's case, his "pure" ideals may be derived from religious convictions, not because he's a Virgo...

>"judgemental nature of other's faults"

I really try to live and let live... 🙂 But when it comes to judging faults, I'm just as harsh on myself as I can be on others, though something you might want to take note of, is that the flaws Virgos point out in others are usually flaws they possess as well.

So do I have your permission to discuss my personal life and opinions here on DXP? 🙂

bear69: Have you and your VirGuy talked about what might happen if you go through with this? I'm pretty sure if you brought it up, he would respect that you are considering the consequences of your (future) actions.

honeycoe: heh, yeah, I know how that is... It's not my intentions to "grate the nerves" of others, but it can and probably will happen a few times here on DXP... just forgive me in advance, please?

virgopmoon:
No i haven't and i know i probably should just bring it up. But then i don't want to take the conversation into uncharted territories as in i don't want him to think i'm thinking of marriage and all and freak him out. I don't know if he'll freak out or not, i'm just thinking most male reaction =0) argh! i just need to stop thinking so much...

"Hm. There I go with that sainted Virgo modesty again... I really do need to stop hiding my lamp under the basket..."

hehehehe

I wear dark colors, I own just a few white shirts for business only.

I am not a "near genius" I AM a genius.

I do not want a virgin woman, I just want her to act like she is one in public! In private she can get almost as wild as she wants. 🙂

I'm a Vgal so i'm always properly behaved in public, but u guys do like ur gals to be misbehaving in private.
Do you guys like to be in control, her in control, or little bit of both?

Depends on the mood. I like her to be in control when she performs her talents, and I prefer to be in control when performing mine!

So depending on the position, the control is in the body part performing the talent! lol

ha ha

Oh yes we DO like that bedroom misbehavin! How else can we so utterly consume our women with love and affection, and what better way to show it? AHHHH! Women...sigh......

Besides, we Virgos need the affirmation that we are of course, the worlds best lovers, even though it is common knowledge.


On the other hand, it IS great to have a woman thoroughly and erotically attack with gusto......MMMM Pheromones!

be back later...heading to the shower....🙂

My virgo likes seeing me in white lingerie.. I thought it was because of the contrast. now maybe I wonder.. it's like I put white anything on and he wants to "rip it off me.".as he says. Oh BTW I'm new..HELLO ALL..Hi ~dyrstr8z especially..

M

welcome Marmax!
and yeap you are right, they want to see us in white but it doesn't stay long at all... 😉

hmmm....I like purity to exist in the mind; purity to me relates to an 'open mind' or 'a new way of thinking' any thing new or unique is pure, and 'untouched' to me; white? yeah, I got a closet full of white tees, but I prefer black too...then blue, then red....as far virginity, na no real importance, just the zest or adrenaline of being in a 'new' or 'virgin' experience; and I am cautious with choosing my mates, but not frigid; I apreciate anyone open-minded, and comfortable with themselves...I'll take care of the rest...lol

Maybe virgos like the idea of 'deflowering' someone?....

"Maybe virgos like the idea of 'deflowering' someone?...."

Wondering that myself...but i hope since he is a virgin as well that it means more than just deflowering, that i am someone he cares deeply for, and not just "dang it time to lose it" deal 😉

DY:
u have become the perfect idol of virgo men at ur age with experience but say if you are about 27 (Back in da days) what would that mean to you? and remember both ppl are virgins.
😉
thanks

I'm still a "Virgin" Honeycoe!

Trust me, I work for the Government....hee hee!

I like white on sheets, blue and green on towels, black on vehicles, and never red on the checkbook.