Virgo woman has me under the spell

This seems to be a common thing among the virgo females. I'm going thru the exact same thing. We have dated a bit longer and have started sleeping together but then poof. Be gone. I now get very short texts and calls( if I'm lucky. Been days since a call). Anyway, I've been so advised that a relationship has to make sense in there head before they let it in there heart. Also, the can't focus on two things at once. If your out of sight you're out of mind. Then I've been told they need there retreat time to think. So dispite how stupid and painful it is, its normal for these selfish people. I personally am at wits end with it. Its a rollar coaster and my feelings are beyond jacked by this array of silence and emotionless reactions from the virgin. So my advice is listen to what the virgins say on here and if you feel for yours like I do mine. Hang out, be careful what and how you say it as she will be examining every word and action. Try to get more face time. The suck at distance. And don't be like a scorpio (me) and confess your feelings. She will just tell you that she can't be responsible for them. And it will take a looooooooong time until she will. Like I said I'm pulling for you and I'm anxious to see what advice you get as I feel the same situation plagues us both. I know how you feel. Head over heels and just ' stunningly perfect'

Dude,

Your the male, you got to initiate the phone calls/text/emails regardless of sign, ESPECIALLY, with only one date, common! This isn't about pride, or egos, this is "you" being a gentleman, and making/showing her that you truly want a real relationship with her - this shouldn't be hard for a Leo. Your over thinking things ( like a virgo ), if you know it was a great date, I'm positive she thinks that too. It's as simple as texting/leaving a voicemail, " Hey how are you? Just wanted to talk, and maybe see if you ( want to get some dinner/lunch ) ( wanted to catch a movie) etc. Let me know. Text or call me anytime 🙂 " Virgos like to know that their being thinked about, or appreciated, and a nice message will go a long way. Show her signs that you want her because Virgos are to busy analyzing, and it will take so much time, by the time they want to do it, the days already over! Don't think of this "text you-you text" thing, be the better person, and understand that Virgos like to play it cool. The truth is, if you wait for her to respond, you might just get tired of waiting, and move on - Im not saying always be the first to respond, don't do that but....It's at the very very very beginning stage, so if you truly think she's worth it, make the call/text!

-Virgo

Didn't you say yourself that she was a busy girl? To me a month is not long AT ALL. You're just starting to get your feet wet buddy, keep your hair on. Don't rush because that will make her run & feel pressured. I dated a leo, he wanted to move too fast with me & it completely turned me off. I asked him to slow it down a bit because I was freaking out but to no avail, so I ended it.

Send her a simple text like "hey" or "just thinking of you" or something. If she doesn't respond at all, there's your answer. She's not interested.

I'm literally cracking up right now...I was like, what the hell is cold & drink? Hahaha.

I don't call or text in the beginning of a relationship. It doesn't mean I'm not interested or that the person is not on my mind. I just usually wait until I've spent more time with someone and know them better. Then, I'll feel more comfortable to approach them. A flame that's slow to burn will last longer 😉

Well after the date how long did it take to get in touch with her? Also if it was a success maybe she's wondering why you didn't make more plans with her. Since she's an aloof type the only guys she might've ended up with in the past might be more of an aggressive type making her idea of how to tell if a guy likes her different from yours. You might think she can tell how you feel but she might need more time to figure you out.

That was my situation. I fell for a Sag who was SUPER persistent and confident, right after we'd see each other he'd ask when we could get together again. He would always call and text and email me. That was probably the smoothest relationship I've had just because he always took the lead (and loves a chase) I wasn't playing hard to get I just needed time to know about the person he was before I would let my guard down. After that I was always very reliable when it came to him and made him a priority.

With my current BF (Cancer) At first I wasn't sure where he stood. In the beginning after we'd go out, he would just drop me off without saying anything about next time, then he would wait to see what I would do (nothing) and then finally call me. Sometimes like you, he'd ask me to call him but I didn't because I wasn't sure about what was going from his perspective. I didn't get why he wouldn't just call when he wanted.

:-) I haven't thrown in the towel and called it heartbreak yet. As of a week ago her calls and texting on an initiating basis have ended.she said she felt overwhelm and asked if we could continue the conversation the next day. I said sure and since I have sent msgs saying "hi" "how is your day?" Or "I hope you're well." She waits about two to three hours and I get the same thing in return.anxiety comes to play because she said she felt I was pushing her to do more then she said she could give. Which was same time as the overwhelmed. Although I have went back and reviewed all texts and went over all conversations in mind and 'i didn't push anything' I am thrown by that. She had an issue feeling that I expected her to call,etc. I told her it was nice but not expected. This was a week before when she was overwhelmed by work,house,etc. She said then it wasn't me. So I backed off and yet a week later I'm overwhelming her? So confusing! Since there would have been more reason to have believed I was the week before, but not now. I initiate a text everyday. She responds everyday. Very short though. I haven't called her in 15 days and she hasn't called me in 5. I thank you for your words. Not sure if heartbreak is how to express it, at least not yet. Thanks

Btw. The really confusing part. I said sure to continuing that conversation the next day, and not a word of it since. That was 6 days ago. How does one take this? Is it a sign that I don't matter or just another thing she could be mulling over? I don't let things like that go untouched, it sends a bad iimpression to the other, so I can't help but wonder? Leo33, give it your best shot and ill pray for your sanity bud! Lol. I'm scorpio, sag moon,asc aries. Id imagine our persuit would be similar. All fire!!! Do make the mistake I did of showing to much to soon. At least not over the phone,or text. I found I could not push her away in person. We really click! But at distance it is much the opposite.

Don't. Make the same mistake I did. Not do!! This phone is giving me hell. Sorry.

Virgodreamz comment puzzles me as well. The one I'm talking to was equally persistant and talkative for the first 4 almost 5 weeks. But, my travels for work may have been a factor. I left her place going back to work almost three weeks ago. For the first week she called me 2 - 5 times a day. Then poof. Twice a week. Now never. Just response texts.I wish there was an instruction manual for the man who so desires the virgin. She is a beautiful,sexy,intelligent,graceful creature and I find her too amazing to just give up like I would've already with another. Thus making this suffering continue!

Posted by MellyMel
I never realized us V-gals were so confusing to others..

Oh yes!!

You keep mentioning a "spell" she has on you... Just click that link 😉

Posted by Vcharm

You keep mentioning a "spell" she has on you... Just click that link 😉

Exactly where I got it from. 😄

She really has a spell on me though...

hey leo, i am also a leo....i think u made a wrong move once u tried to kiss her...a virgo told me, she was once on a date, it was an alright date and supposedly the guy texted her after to make sure she was at home ok....sounds pretty innocent and sweet gesture right? NOPE. that was a big no no. yeh...there's no reasoning behind it, but once virgo thinks you are pressuring them to do something they dont want to, (or to respond)...they quickly go into ABORT mode...but i am sure when u text'd her and few hours later a short reply msg comes back to u, she's actually been thinking what to say to u all this time...virgos fret...way too much for their own good...but it's their nature...they are trying to sum u up...unfortunately u moved way too quick on first date...your kiss was like saying: "let's get into bed"...well, to them it was of a similar sentiment...we know u meant well, it was a gesture of love, i'm a leo, i know it...but if u want to date a virgo...the way to do it is, pretend this is your puppy love...move super slow...like a snail...they need to know your an ok investment of their time and love b4 they even reward u with a kiss!!!

virgos like any other sign can be an enigma to the others, coz we dont understand them....it's like saying, gee, i dont understand how to be a nurse...well coz i dont have training and background in that area of corz i dont understand how to be a nurse....virgos arent super complicated, not much more than any other zodiacs...but just takes the right person to unveil the mystery and know the inner workings of the mind....after that, it should no longer be difficult to communicate with them.

I did not try to kiss her man! It was just a regular kiss goodbye on the cheek!! She just THOUGHT I was going for it I guess. I did not look at her mouth or anything like that!

I've been moving so slow for a Leo and with today's no reply from her, I feel the beast is about to be unleashed??_ which might be a bad move.

I have had many of these awkward dates.. after the date she probably went home and thought about every detail,over analized everything, she probably scared herself because of how much you showed you liked her, and how much she likes you. I know it's confusing, even I don't understand why this is but as soon as you showed interest.. but you might be able to win her back. She will probably make one last attempt at talking to you, take advantage of it but don't be pushy or clingy.. that will scare her. Ask her on a cute date something that you think would mean something to her, something special(: