Virgo women

When can you tell when a Virgo girl is just trying to be friends and when can you tell that they like you? I'm getting mixed messages and need some advice.

let her know your real intentions/motives and that you want your girl to be more than friends and her heart is safe with you. beating around the bush will get no where. virgos are very cautious people and i think women should only do that. hehe

.. dont just let her know let her feel.

How? I don't even know if she likes me or if she's just being friendly. Thanks for the insight however, very very appreciated!

i can't give you a straight answer coz she's the only person who can give you a straight answer (whether the answer is something that you will like or not). i think you can ask her if it's possible for both of you to be a couple and compromise on things in due time depending on how long you guys have known each other.

sometimes flirting and being too friendly/nice can be really misleading it's hard to know. i suggest, make her feel special. just a thought of caring for the one you truly love can make a big difference. (you can't read them in books and hear it from other people's advice, just do what you think is right, besides you're sure that you love her right?)

Yes, I'm very very sure.

there's nothing to be worried about. go with the flow.... i hope both of you are single hehe

Well... to be honest, she isn't and I'm trying to get back at my gf for cheating on me. Nah just kidding. Yes we're both single.

and i'm sure you also know that it involves great risks. a high price to pay. know what, the most sweetest thing in the world is when you love wihout measure, whether it means leaving or solitude it's still worth the price.

goood for you! go For it!

The only problem is that she's very very reserved and has not had a boyfriend in a while. Kinda random, but she's even joined a group on xanga called "I gave up on dating" and has the song, "I belong to me" by Jessica Simpson on her myspace. Kinda weird, but it makes sense when you put it together.

She looks interested, but then again she seems like she's only being nice. Some examples, although they seem silly, include the fact that she offered me her sweater when it was cold and gave me a ride home. We both know each other, but not very well. There are a few other little things she does that leads me to believe that she like me, but it's tough to call.

Extra insight appreciated!

You can not force some other people loving you... you'll have to seduce them? but.. really? seducing is from the ?cheating family??.!


Honesty—

I don't think so? and you'll be knocked off? sooner or later..!

Idealist..??

No.... realist... they know exactly what they want.. Same goes for the male Virgo..!


You guys really don't know what Virgos are..!



You people should really start thinking about what VIRGUYS/GALS are..!!

187..... if you really want her in your life... stop the BS and start acting seriously?

She is not stupid? and you can't fool her?

Straighten up and DO exactly as you SHOULD?! Or else.. you'll loose her..!

Do we need another Cancerbuddy called 187 in this board..??

I'm gonna have to disagree with Pluto. Initiation is no problem for me nor do I have any fears or worries about doing so. Yes, I have made the 1st move before. This is how I am when asked out... If I don't respond or say no it's because I'm not interested. If I respond but with hesitation, it's because I'm thinking about it and need more time to study you. A fast yes, definately means I'm interested. None of my current dating situations have anything to do with previous heartbreaks. There are no fears or worries about getting hurt.

i'm a virgo female...and like Qbone said, i'm a realist first and foremost, but i'm also sort of a closet romantic (but nothing too mushy, gives me the bad goosebumps), it's a gal thing i think, lol. but don't beat around the bushes with her, just make a bee-line for her, if you don't, you'll be waiting a lifetime and then some. any other signs that tell you she's interested? all those that you mentioned just sound like she's trying to be nice, even i do that to some of my guy buddies and it means nothing to me. and please don't take this the wrong way, i'm not trying to put a damper on your spirits.

oh, just speaking for myself here...if you do make a move on a virgo gal and she turns you down, expect avoidance cause it gets a little awkward, unless you show that there are no hard feelings then it'll be okay again. but keep in mind that i'm only speaking for myself here. good luck...what sign are you anyway?

I'm a cancer. Not your typical one though.

thnks people ..that helped

I'm thinking of asking for her sn to talk to her a little more. Should I ask or would this make me look like a coward?

"I'm a cancer. Not your typical one though."

a lot of people claim they're not a "typical one," lol. you sound like a typical crab to me though, asking for advice about a virgo chick and hoping not to look like a coward. don't worry, i can be a coward too, and a big one at that! bottom line is, you should chase her how you would want to be chased. it looks like you're not enjoying this cat and mouse game, so perhaps you should just tell her upfront or be really obvious about your feelings. it's risky (as in there's a possibility that she could reject you), but the biggest risk in life is not taking any risks.

do you know your (and her's) moon and rising signs?...and your other planets too? find out her mars and that should give you an idea on the type of men she is attracted to, and how to woo her. should also look at the house that mars is placed in too. if you want, go a bit further and look at venus and neptune/saturn (and if they make any aspects to each other).

187,

i'm a virgo guy and i dated a virgo girl for a while in highschool.

ask her sn, don't be afraid. just ask it casually.

don't be upset if she says she doesn't have one though, as i find manye virgos not very fond of IMs because of the time it takes out of our lives. so first make sure she does use IM and then you can ask the girl for her sn.

otherwise, e-mail her!

virgos are fond of writing and reading. so e-mails are great to talk to them.

she's more likely to open up more by writing than in face-to-face encounters, trust me in this one. eventually once you connect with someone, face-to-face gets easier.

bring any questions u got, i'll be glad to help. vir gals are awesome, good luck!

vll

Yes!! V with Libra has me nailed on that one!

Q bone...I can say I'm an idealist ESPECIALLY in matters of the heart; I also know what I want as well; give virgo a little credit eh? maybe she's a little more that pretty wrapped white box, people have her made out to be....pluto, you just described me....that's the way I feel about love....I'm pretty scared I won't be able to live with out that person when they enter my life; I just keep telling myself, 'people come, and go, the come and go'....I may begin to crave them, and become some kind of animal obbsessed with them; I'm afraid I'll loose my freedom, and detached attitude, and start to want to settle down!! But surprising to even me, when they do leave, I don't have any hard feelings what so ever, I'd even like to become friends with that person....friends with benefits....lol 😉

song of a virgo woman.. (and virgo men?)

I am the one
who believes in all that you say
I am the one
who never wants to define herself
I am the one
who's paralell, upfront, behind
I am the one
paddling like crazy through the night

Refine, old time, colourblind
Big sign, do time, doesn't rhyme
A lot, too much, standing tall
And I'm crying in the valley:
?I shall never, ever fallen?

People are people
and I feel so strong
People are people and I'm
going on

I am the one
who stirrs it up everytime
I am the one
who never knows how close she is
I am the one
who'd rather be dead than confess
I am the one
trying to be good, wanting to be bad and so on

Excess, temptress, big mess
Phoney, lonely, it's a test
Be still my heart, don't you fail
And I'm crying on the stagefloor:
?I will always prevailing!?

I'm going on?

I am a closet romantic too.....gawd I hate it....I'm usually up in my head thinking about love, and how great it's gonna feel...how intensely I'm going to feel...how this person is going to change me somehow....or even if I'll retain my same attitude...posing these 'what if's' questions to me are motivation to find out....

See 187, LiberitarianVirgo agrees, we are kinda fond of writing and reading.

Now, as a guy you'll probably thinking, that's so not my style , but trust me, if she is the typical virgo girl you will enjoy and learn lots from conversatiosn with her.
You don't have to e-mail her 3 letters each day or anything like that, but simple notes or messages will get to her heart, she will think that it is something sweet...especially if she does feel attracted to you...otherwise, that will at least make her wonder or what she will be missing if she passes by...

Vgurl,

What a nice song. Did you write this or does someone sing it? I never heard it before, but I can relate. Hmmm, I'll try to think of songs that I can relate tons and post it here...oh I can already think about one. I'll do it soon =)

Meanwhile, the Cardinals are kicking butts in the World Series, I'm watching the game with my family tonight...go Cards! If we win tonight and tomorrow, we are the champions and St. Louis will party like it's 1999!

Continuing Vgurl songs post to give an intro into what's in our minds lately, here is one song I've been listening lots this month.

Snow Patrol Chasing Cars Lyrics

We'll do it all
Everything
On our own

We don't need
Anything
Or anyone

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

I don't quite know
How to say
How I feel

Those three words
Are said too much
They're not enough

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads

I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden that's bursting into life

All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes, they're all I can see

I don't know where
Confused about how as well
Just know that these things will never change for us at all

If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me and just forget the world?

One on one convos both private and personal aren't a problem at all. I just don't know how to ask her casualy for her sn though. (I managed to find out she has one by the way. Kinda nosy, but if she does tell me she doesn't have one, this will probably indicate that she doesn't like me.)

Virgo girls are very very hard to read. She's so closed, it's almost hard to start and maintain a convo. Anymore insight is muchly appreciated! Thanks to everyone for pitching in!

You found out that she has a SN? Great! Yes, now you can come up with a way to ask for that or her e-mail address =)

Don't forget that even if she has an SN, she may not use it as much or she would prefer to get to know you first by e-mail...so don't take it personal if she says that...if she says she doesn't use her SN much, then ask her if she checks her e-mail...and if she says no to that too...then...mm..yeah you will kind of get the hint. But if she says yes to any...then yeah buddy...chances are good...it means at the very least that she is open to get to know you better!

Virgo girls are hard to read, because they protect their hearts like a treasure...so you have to almost become Indiana Jones to get there...lol...for real.

Keep us posted!

VLL

Glady. Although the one thing I didn't include was that she's korean and I'm black. I think this has a chance of working because neither of us discriminate against others on the basis of race. We're both Christians. (or at least I try hard enough to be)

it's a song from D'Sound - People Are People

i think the vocalist is a Virgo LOL

I wish I could. I don't know the exact date of her birthday. I think it might be somewhere in early sept based on what I overheard. Sure I'm kinda nosy but someone has to be the detective to make things work. Didn't get to see her today though. Her friend convinced her to skip school on senior skip day.

hey there buddy,

so she's korean? how cool! i know how to say i love you in korean! lol i try to learn nice words in almost every language...just in case 😉

so, she skept classes today, oh, that means she's isn't all about rules, which may be a good for you or not =)

if she's in the sept month, for what i read, the closest you are to the end line in sept, the more a-typical virgo you are...which means, while she may have many virgo characteristics she also may not be so shy and may be even a bit mrore free-spirited...closer to a libra.

i get the feeling that she's smart, but likes to have fun times too.

the fact that you both share the same faith has to be a plus for her.

do nice things for her, say funny but respectful things and she will like you.

virgals are not into grotesque, sex jokes, so please don't use that...red flag!

nice fun, yet clean jokes, nice details (that mean something), and good intellectual conversation will get to her heart.

like i said, writing may help you too.

most virgals i know are ladies-like...smartie pants, seem very proper in the outside, but when they let go...uh, the have very fun unpredictable moments, so they are SO worth the wait and persistence, trust me! =)

even if it's only a kiss, they make you work for it, but when it happens, is really nice!

i haven't dated one in years, but i have to say i have fond memories of them.

aquas and libras are teaching me new things now.

Call her to say hi or invite her somewhere fun. Don't smother her or get too physical but let her know she means a lot to you. Sometimes Virgos need to be hit over the head. They are quite modest and have a hard time believing that someone is interested. Don't be vulgar. Always smell nice and keep her laughing. Try holding her hand. Sounds simple and cheesey but be nice and let her feel secure, so that the second she feels vulnerable or shares emotion, she knows you won't bail.

Shaka - Why are virgo women evil? I gotta hear this! Hehehe

Clueless - On the money about smelling nice! Be clean shavin' too!

yeah, fun times, clean jokes, good conversation, nice smell, very nice looks, some class, confidence...a brilliant mind! good stuff for virgos of all types i think!

Yeah, I do have a tendency to make very very dirty jokes. I can kick the habit though. Unlike most girls, I don't even have to force myself a little to like her. I just do. She has an admirable personality and is suprisingly deeper than I thought.

More questions because inquiring minds need to know:
I prolly asked this before but what are some signs that a Virgo girl is interested?

Do some virgo girls usually like more than one guy at time?

Do you guys like surprises? Secrets?

What are some good ways to establish communication between them? A good convo. Are you guys less talkive in public but the opposite somewhere else? She seemed to be more talkative/inquiring while driving me home.

How faithful are you guys in long distance relationships?

Sometimes I wish I had x-ray vision lol. I guess every sign has something another sign could seriously benefit from. Anyway, you could tell that I'm basically craving for more insight that will lead me to understand what's what and draw conclusions based on results. I can't thank you guys enough for your help! I feel so emotional right now, that my pants are literally wet...with tears of course. 😉 (I'm joking)

I think I got it. She said, according to a blog, that she'd like a guy that can speak both english and korean fluently so I'm gonna ask her to teach me. (I was originally trying to learn japanese to pursue a major in electronics) She was teaching her friend some time ago as well. Then from there, I could ask here for her sn and get to know her/continue learning. What's everyone's take on this?

Thanks

Well... I sent a message saying hi and that I found her profile through a friend. She was just online but has not replied to it. Let's see what happens and hopefully she isn't freaked out.

"...that she'd like a guy that can speak both english and korean fluently so I'm gonna ask her to teach me."

i think this is her polite way of saying that she prefers korean guys. do you know if her ex is korean? i know some koreans and they only date within their ethnicity, they don't even date other asians (and this is coming from their mouths directly, then again, not all are the same). just make sure she's open. best of luck to you.

I agree with you. It just seems as though I have a chance. She keeps showing little signs, hopefully I'm not mistaken, that she seems interested, but I kept ignoring because I just thought it wouldn't work. Let's see what happens I guess. I'm getting a strange feeling that I'm in a for whole lot of hurtin'. Let's hope I'm wrong.

"I'm getting a strange feeling that I'm in a for whole lot of hurtin'. Let's hope I'm wrong."

i hope you're wrong too...but i guess if you don't give it a chance, you'll never know huh? best wishes.

Well I feel a little more concerned. I sent another message yesterday but she hasn't replied yet. Does she not want to talk or is shy and is meticulously writing out what she has to say? More insight needed. How can you tell if a virgo girl isn't interested?

Thanks for the insight!

She answered and replied saying of course she will. Stay tuned for the next episode...

In need of an analysis of this message. I told her I was willing to learn korean and this was her reply:

"OH COOOOL. of course i can 🙂 hahah. how should i teach you? i'll give a word of the day or something. or you can write out what you want to learn. 🙂 Hello--- ahn nyung. friend--- chingoo."

What do you see? Anaylsis needed.