Grael1975
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Virgos All Changeable/contradictory ?
Virgos want to be in a relationship. Virgos want to be alone. Yes.
Posted by Grael1975
I am just wondering if all virgos are very changeable, or if it is just the one I spend time with.
He can go from walking along hand in hand with me, and kissing my hand in the afternoon, to coming round my place later on and analysing and criticising everything, in particular, movies that are about love, music that gives emotional 'feedback' and the like. I am admittedly, finding it very difficult, being someone who tries to find the positive in life, to deal with. I do not understand how, in the space of 6-7 hours, he can switch from being quite warm, approachable and almost loving, to being unapproachable, detached and harshly critical of all the things that I enjoy, which happens to include movies and yes, music. When he arrived, I had on a video of a show about notre dame, and he just sat looking at the floor or the wall. Put on the video he bought along, and he watched it. I am finding it very hurtful, not to mention confusing. He told me tonight he finds having someone in his place invasive, yet he continues to ask me round. I honestly cannot understand. Why hold my hand, kiss my hand, invite me round and suggest a beer round my place, if he finds it so terribly intolerable, lol? When I never ask or suggest either option.
Virgos are critical by nature. If you cannot take it, then he might not be the right type of guy for you. When a virgo cares for someone, they usually TRY to be less critical. Or should I say that it comes more natural for them to be less critical to the object of their affection.
This guy that you speak of seems to be kind of embarrassed by all the music and movies with love being the subject. Do you know what kinds of things that he likes? Does he know what kinds of things that you like? Notre dame? Really?
Invasive? Changeable is not the word. He's just weird.
PMG, I like quite a large variety of things, film wise, enjoy a lot of documentaries as well. None of the material I have is actually an outright love story, but the majority of films have some sort of love theme running in them, or seem to so it is pretty hard to avoid it altogether. Notre Dame De Paris is a French musical I have on videotape, and it had no English so you cannot hear what it is about, but as soon as I mentioned the themes in it, he took to looking at the floor. He seems almost bitter towards these movie related love themes.
As to what he likes; very, very little. The only thing we have watched that he really enjoyed was a video of a Led Zeppelin concert he bought along the other evening, because it gave him no 'feedback'. By this he means that it did not make him feel any sadness or love or joy etc. He thinks televisions should be banned, and music should be banned, lol, and says that music and film give people false emotions and influence violence. This is the area where we clash. I like theatre and some film, and am not prone to sitting in a room with only silence for company.
The only solution I see is to not have him round again as in the end, when I go to his place, I sit and listen to his classical radio station that he constantly has on, and accept he has no tv and only listens to that same station, and no entertainment there so to speak. And in the end, I feel that when he comes round my place, I should be able to do what is comfortable for me in my own home. For two evenings he was here, it was great, he was relaxed and thanked me and said he enjoyed it all. Suddenly, last night, there was this tension and irritability, and I felt totally stressed by it. I felt it should be okay for me to watch something I enjoy and then put on the tape he bought with him, which happened, ironically, to be 'the making of Gone With The Wind'. Instead I felt impelled to stop watching my own choice and put his in right away, rather than sit with him staring at the floor and the wall for another hour. It made me uncomfortable and I could not work out why he had gone from being relaxed the last two evenings, to being snippy and irritable. He did say a trapped nerve in his leg was causing him pain and he couldn't get comfortable, but surely that would not impact his whole attitude all evening?
As to what he likes; very, very little. The only thing we have watched that he really enjoyed was a video of a Led Zeppelin concert he bought along the other evening, because it gave him no 'feedback'. By this he means that it did not make him feel any sadness or love or joy etc. He thinks televisions should be banned, and music should be banned, lol, and says that music and film give people false emotions and influence violence. This is the area where we clash. I like theatre and some film, and am not prone to sitting in a room with only silence for company.
The only solution I see is to not have him round again as in the end, when I go to his place, I sit and listen to his classical radio station that he constantly has on, and accept he has no tv and only listens to that same station, and no entertainment there so to speak. And in the end, I feel that when he comes round my place, I should be able to do what is comfortable for me in my own home. For two evenings he was here, it was great, he was relaxed and thanked me and said he enjoyed it all. Suddenly, last night, there was this tension and irritability, and I felt totally stressed by it. I felt it should be okay for me to watch something I enjoy and then put on the tape he bought with him, which happened, ironically, to be 'the making of Gone With The Wind'. Instead I felt impelled to stop watching my own choice and put his in right away, rather than sit with him staring at the floor and the wall for another hour. It made me uncomfortable and I could not work out why he had gone from being relaxed the last two evenings, to being snippy and irritable. He did say a trapped nerve in his leg was causing him pain and he couldn't get comfortable, but surely that would not impact his whole attitude all evening?
Caribbean, he is Virgo sun, his Mars is in Taurus, his Mercury and Venus are in Leo and his ascendant is either Leo or Cancer, the former I am fairly sure. His Moon is in Aries. It is true, I can be easily hurt, but I am a lot thicker skinned than I used to be when younger. It does take quite a lot to really trigger me. For the most part, I can deal with his criticisms, and joke about them and it lightens the mood, but sometimes, if he seemingly changes within a day from loving and warm to critical and distant, I find that quite difficult to understand.
I did look into our synastry online, and this is what I got.
sun trine sun
my moon square his saturn
my moon opposes his ceres
my moon trines his vesta
my sun squares his uranus
my sun trines his ceres
my mercury squares his pluto
my venus trines his moons northern node
my mars squares his saturn
my mars opposes his ceres
my mars trines his vesta
my jupiter conjuncts his moon
my jupiter trines his uranus
my ascendant opposes his sun
my ascendant opposes his juno
my midheaven trines his venus
my midheaven conjuncts his saturn
I did look into our synastry online, and this is what I got.
sun trine sun
my moon square his saturn
my moon opposes his ceres
my moon trines his vesta
my sun squares his uranus
my sun trines his ceres
my mercury squares his pluto
my venus trines his moons northern node
my mars squares his saturn
my mars opposes his ceres
my mars trines his vesta
my jupiter conjuncts his moon
my jupiter trines his uranus
my ascendant opposes his sun
my ascendant opposes his juno
my midheaven trines his venus
my midheaven conjuncts his saturn
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He can go from walking along hand in hand with me, and kissing my hand in the afternoon, to coming round my place later on and analysing and criticising everything, in particular, movies that are about love, music that gives emotional 'feedback' and the like. I am admittedly, finding it very difficult, being someone who tries to find the positive in life, to deal with. I do not understand how, in the space of 6-7 hours, he can switch from being quite warm, approachable and almost loving, to being unapproachable, detached and harshly critical of all the things that I enjoy, which happens to include movies and yes, music. When he arrived, I had on a video of a show about notre dame, and he just sat looking at the floor or the wall. Put on the video he bought along, and he watched it. I am finding it very hurtful, not to mention confusing. He told me tonight he finds having someone in his place invasive, yet he continues to ask me round. I honestly cannot understand. Why hold my hand, kiss my hand, invite me round and suggest a beer round my place, if he finds it so terribly intolerable, lol? When I never ask or suggest either option.