What is it?

We had that virgo who is cheating with his wife, at our place for dinner last night, my virgo invited him to ease somethings. He mentioned when he was in dating phase he was seeing multiple people at once. Based on many conversations three of us - me, my virgo and him had, I am wondering about the following:

First of all it takes a very long time for virgos to make any decision, in particular in personal relationships.

During that very long phase,it is natural that many new people can and will cross their paths. Some virgos like the one we are talking about, starts getting attracted to a new person per their mutability characteristic. When they start the cycle with a new person, they DO NOT LET THE previous person go. They use the experience they had and are still having with the previous person they keep in the loop to get to know and win the newer person with "more" things to offer to them! In essence, they play at both sides for their benifits from one point of view. They may then justify that the newer person is more "compatible" , "appropriate", etc and it would be more "practical" to explore the newer connection more.

Mind well, during this phase, still they do not let the person "in the loop" go and make a clear break. The person in the loop sometimes may not know what the virog is doing and keep on waiting for years, which at their end may make them get emotionally more involved which could turn out dangerous for them.

Let's think about third scenario, WHAT IF, a third person enters the scene, almost when the virgo is about to say yes to the second connect? This third person has YET MORE things to offer to the virgo. The virgo has now two people in the loop.

My question to virgos are as follows:

1. Personally I could not explore multiple profiles at once. How is it possible for you to explore multiple profiles at once?

2. Are you always looking for more and more and YET BETTER AND YET PERFECT person in your mind w/o being considerate of others?

3. Is it your insecurity/fear/lack of confidence that makes you keep all the back ups ready and options "open" incase it does not work with the "most suitable" current contact you are exploring?

4. Is it being "rational", "practical", "realistic" , "not making mistake in selecting" the "right" mate etc. in your mind?

5. What about the "sacrifices" you demand from others but be selfish for your self while keeping all others in the loop with out telling them any thing clearly

Virgo's say what they mean and mean what they say ... it's all a matter of whether you are actually listening to them, or only hearing what you want to hear.

1. Personally I could not explore multiple profiles at once. How is it possible for you to explore multiple profiles at once?

I can understand this if you just started dating both people . . .however I really can only focus on one person at a time. I want to lavish all my attention and effort on one person, I can't split it up. It's like having 2 projects at once.

2. Are you always looking for more and more and YET BETTER AND YET PERFECT person in your mind w/o being considerate of others?

I don't allow myself to become close enough with another person in "that way" to even discover if the person is hypothetically "better" or "perfect".

3. Is it your insecurity/fear/lack of confidence that makes you keep all the back ups ready and options "open" incase it does not work with the "most suitable" current contact you are exploring?

I personally, don't have any "back-ups", however maybe some others keep back-ups because they want to make sure they are never in a position of being alone. I can see doing this if you are in the early stages of dating and not certain if you even really like the person or not, however I don't understand doing this this if you are in a long term relationship or married. Why make that type of commitment if still feel as though you need "back-up".

4. Is it being "rational", "practical", "realistic" , "not making mistake in selecting" the "right" mate etc. in your mind?

Yes and no. While love or infatuation can blind you to flaws in the beginning, I think that many Virgo's know deep down they are not going to stay with someone who is not "long term material". Ex: no job, lives with parents and is too old to do so, immature, alcohol problem, etc.

5. What about the "sacrifices" you demand from others but be selfish for your self while keeping all others in the loop with out telling them any thing clearly

I can't speak on this one, not even exactly sure what you mean . . .

All,

Thanks for responses, I find them honest.

I also liked this :

" I don't string her along because I'm not in a relationship now."
That is how it should be.

I have seen some people changing interests seeing "better than" the current profile. When I say better, it is on a materialistic level only, the new person is better in looks, has better paid job, can make more money in future etc..

If materialistic things are the only goal, it is of no point..
It should be based on interpersonal affinity in depth, in terms of being able to understand each other, etc.

Their priorities are tangile, surface or materialistics things.
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SG:
EXCELLENT!

That's what I was waiting to hear when I created this thread.

For virgos emotions and/or feeling have no place but the materialistic, superficial things on which they try to build the castle. In my book, that has no place.

About checklist , yes - we all do have/had sort of a check list,but, virgos checklist ONLY includes their needs WITHOUT any flexibility at their end. Some of them are extremely self centered and selfish.

I knew one virgo was dealing with two girls, with exact same birthdate at once. The game he was playing was using the experience of either end to the other end to "win" the girl. One of those girls found out accidently and dumped Mr.V right there and then.

I think some of them are mentally sick, manipulative players. Imagine life with such a person who will play head games with you for every thing, everyday. So sick! I also think this indicates lack or absence of full commitment with any one to workout the relationship because you can not fully focus on multiple people at once.

Very well said, SG.

"What others may see as silly he will likely not forget, because he's not here doing it to you." "CN"


maybe if they would communicate, these folks would not have to vent here.....to strangers who have no real effect on their lives unless they allow it.....

I am guilty as charged, and if the man would have answered the phone or text and gave some closure instead of a disappearing act, I would not have been here and done that......GUILTY!

The one thing virgos I know will never understand, is their mate railing about them on a site full of strangers.
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Cybernikes..
You may not know, I am engaged to a virgo, this is not about my virgo. Good or bad I have many virgos in my circle and in my extended circle. Some of those virgos are really not perfect.
As you must be knowing, like virgos , caps can see below the surface too and know what is being conyed in a seemigly subtle and nice way.

Not all virgos are great, some are at the extreme other end.

cybernikes,

Trust me, I have seen and personally experienced what SG said about virgo preferences. She is right ON, taking the cover off that so called nice/loya/genuine virgo souls..