What is your definition of A TEASE?

I recently had a lengthy discussion with a Virgo female friend as to what is and isn't considered a TEASE. Now, this is not the exclusive domain of females, there are male teasers too. So, in the interest of open and equal opportunity discussion (regardless of astrological origin) how would you define a TEASE?

Personally, if someone is open, friendly, a little flirtatious and demonstrative (e.g. peck on the cheek, a hug) I don't consider them a tease; some people are genuinely affectionate. Now, if you kiss me on the mouth, grab my ass, stroke my knee, press your member against me, or kiss me on the neck, I qualify this as invitation. Now, if after multiple "invitations" you haven't made a SERIOUS attempt at putting the ?nail in the coffin? so-to-speak, then you?re a TEASE in my book.

Oh yeah, a solid mouth kiss and an ass grab, or a neck peck are definitely signs of extreme horniness!

That IS teasing if they get you wired up and split! GGGRRRRR!

I wonder if my Cappy GF is a tease. On our first date, I went to give her a hug, and she kissed me on the lips.

By the third date we were spending several hours french kissing.

On the forth date, we French kissed for hours, with her sitting astride my legs. Then later, while nuzzling her vulva thru her pants, I ask if I can take them off and she says NO!

We've been talking about sex for over a month now, and I finally ask her what's taking her so long to make up her mind and she says "I don't know", and "I don't know when I'll be ready".

She's accusing me of RUSHING her... sigh. Then doesn't return my calls for a whole week, then after I get grumpy about it, says "but I thought we were just casual friends?"

And we're not teenagers. I'm 45 and she's 52.

Is she a tease?

>OMG...Old folks gettin it on! LOL

OLD? hehe

Ya, could be self concious... but who knows why... she's very cute, petite, a "pixie". Nice little booblets, nice hips... sigh.

I have put the kabosh on kissing. I told her NO more kissing, NO more talking about sex, from now on we are just platonic friends. If you decide you want me in the future, let me know and we'll discuss it. She seems ok with that... sadly.

I figure I'll give her a little more time, a few weeks maybe and if we're still just friends... will start looking for another GF.

DYR,

See now, you're being a tease because you KNOW I can't get that close. And with everything you've written, I'd be all over you like stank on sh#t. Oh, sorry, not very sexy. You know what I mean....

FC, I agree with AB, women of a certain age either become more liberated or more reserved with the passing years. If it doesn't work out you just let me know. I'd find way to accommodate ALL you manly girth. And besides, I love horses and wide open spaces. I would love to be on a cattle drive through Montana. I am great with animals, love the snow, the cold, and cowboys.

Pardon me a minute... gonna test something... seems when you make a comment and put it between two of these " >test

If you're saying what I think you're saying then yes, you can slide between my boobies.

>I'd find way to accommodate ALL your manly girth

LOL... I'm blushing! You're a feisty one Catfish = )

Ya, I'd say she's MORE reserved. It's like being back in HS... too much for me. Kissing is WAY to intimate for me to just do it casually. She says she believes "friendly kissing" is ok, but "going all the way" would indicate that she was "easy" and she says she's NOT easy. I don't think having sex after four dates would make you easy by any means... sheesh.

PS: that "test" I did above only turned up another problem, as the word TEST showed up this time, but also cut the rest of the sentence off. Guess I'm gonna have to do some tests on another board, to keep from clogging this one with them, heh.

>If you're saying what I think you're saying then yes, you can slide between my boobies.

OMG... LOL and blushing again.... = )))))

LOL... um...no, I was just testing how to make a comment that denoted an action if I was there in RL... but the way I usually have done it in other forums, causes the "action" to be deleted upon posting the message, heh.

Hmmm, not sure what to say about your lady friend. I am not in her age range but I am not a young chippy either. Sounds like some major heartache has got her aorta in knots.
This is where the VIRGO CONTRIDICTION comes in. To truly meld with a Virgo it takes time, patience, a lot of love, and a calm and steady heart to get to the BEST part of you. Yet, and don't take this personally, you don't seem to be capable of investing the same amount of time in an partner that you want to be extended to you. At least in the beginning. It doesn't sound to me that deep down, you don't feel she's worth the time and effort.

Edit - It DOES sound to me that you may feel she's may not be worth the time and effort.

Let's call it a Dance. The Dance of Life if you will. If I come to you half-way, and you come to me half-way, one of us will eventually have to lead. In my experience, the Virgo is not the kind of guy to tap a lady's partner on the shoulder and say "May I have this dance?" He's more likely to sit in the corner with his punch cup, wait till the end of the dance to see if is intended is still on the dance floor, wait till everyone is gone, and then, ask her to slow dance with him, with or without the music.

Catfish> you don't seem to be capable of investing the same amount of time in an partner that you want to be extended to you. At least in the beginning. It doesn't sound to me that deep down, you don't feel she's worth the time and effort.

Time is more a problem for her. She works a lot. I think it's safe to say she's a workaholic. She only has one weekday off each week, works odd hours, sometimes till 9pm. Says she hasn't had a vacation in NINE years. And tho she hasn't elaborated yet, think she includes in that vacation days... NONE taken.

I have been writting her every day but haven't called because my cell minutes are too expensive, so finally got a landline again and although she sounded excited at first... wouldn't return any of my daily calls for a whole week... till I got hurt and told her so in an email... THEN she calls.

I am very passionate. BUT, I would not have kissed her on the first date. I wanted to get to know her better first. Now, with other women, I've even made love on the first date. Once back in the eightys, I met a gal at a Scottish club, we went to her place afterwards and stayed in bed untill the next evening.. must have played 12 times, LOL. But this time I was trying to be careful and get to know her better first... and she kissed me, which sent my mind reeling. We started emailing about sex a lot.. what we liked didn't like etc... so I was getting pretty worked up. But still behaving like a gentleman, never pushing her farther than she would allow... but it gets frustrating when it gets to the point that you wonder if you're being teased. You start to wonder whats going on. I finally had to just tell her NO MORE. NO MORE KISSING. I can't handle all that pressure and not go on to share complete passion. I'd just as soon move on... but she's so sweet... I hope something happens for us... but I have very little patience left.

I want to give her time, but how long? Don't know how long I can take this... I'm not a teenager... I'm a man, 45, been married and divorced, and am looking for a casual OR LTR with a good horse woman. She KNOWS this.

I do have doubts but they are in reguard to time. Her lack of time. Too much time at work, too little time for US.

VGM> Let me tell ya this buddy, if someone was nuzzling my vulva through my pants, (at the age of 50 no less), and asked if he could take my pants off....my answer would be yes......WITH YOUR TEETH! She must be crazy!!!!

Somebody agrees with me at least, LOL. I even told her I would not take mine off. She knows when I promise something I will not go back on my word. I wanted to please her pussy with my mouth... it would have shown me that she was really into me and passion. Her refusal seems all the more like a tease and no real interest in passion except as relationship maintience during an LTR. I'm stumped.

FC,

Did you ask her outright why the resistance? If you're astride a guy then I would think this would be an "open key" policy no? May be she's wants you to be more forceful?

Well, AB, that would be my best guess. Time to rip those panties off in one, swift, hard, yank. I better stop now...

Oh why not? Would be a good excuse for him to take you shopping at Victoria Secret no? That's one place men DON'T mind going. Well, that or Home Deport. Either way, power tools are involved so may be there's a connection.

Horny is more like it! "-)

Catfish36> Did you ask her outright why the resistance? If you're astride a guy then I would think this would be an "open key" policy no? May be she's wants you to be more forceful?

Yes, I've asked her... she says "I don't know", LOL. sheesh.

Heh... I'll never be that forceful unless it's a game that we both agree upon. I'm a gentleman. Since she kissed me first on that first date, every other kiss I've started. I asked her to sit in my lap, then across my legs on top of me facing me... then later I moved her off, asked her to lay back, while I gently nuzzled her vulva with my nose and mouth thru her pants... then looked up at her and asked if I could take them off... I'll always ask. I'm a gentleman. No one will ever accuse me of forcing them. Nor will I ever play that "NO, NO, DON'T.. but I really mean YES YES" game, unless it's agreed upon before hand.

Aprilbaby> But damn, FC, if this thing doesn't work out with me and my Virgo bf, I'll cum give ya some too...lol.. A man who likes pussy...that's my kinda man!! Whooohooo!!

LOL... now YOU'VE got me blushing VB! LOL.

>LOL... now YOU'VE got me blushing VB! LOL.

D'OH... meant You've got me blushing AB! hehe.

"I don't know?" WTF! It seems like your doing all the asking and she is complying. It's wonderful you're a gentleman, most Virgos are, may be what's required is more action, less asking. For me, if I don't want a man to do something I'll just tell him. I'm sure she'll let you know if wants you to stop.

I DON'T KNOW? Sorry, still can't get over that.

Catfish36> I'm sure she'll let you know if wants you to stop.

Good point = ) I'll consider that next time we're together, hehe.