What's your take on signing a preup

So me and a dear friend of mine got into a heated discussion about prenup over the weekend... he says he wants his next wife to sign a prenuptial agreement in his next marriage , but i think his reason for doing this is because of his previous marriage ...Which i told him is not fair to the next person he marries just because the first person screwed him over...

I don't know but to sign a prenuptial agreement overall, i just don't like the idea and him talking about it now just makes me wonder what if the person who im going to marry asks me to sign a prenup what would i do—

I get some of the pro's and cons of a signing a prenup and not signing one...but i would like the opinion of others on this topic...

I think that if a person has an issue with signing one, then it's an indication that they are the ones who would take the money and run.

A person who isn't in it for the money .. wouldn't have an issue with a pre-nup because the thought of having the others money would never enter into the mind, so it would never become an issue in the relationship.

If a person feels like they need to protect themselves, even if this stems from a prior injury, then if you love that person and want the best for that person, and they would feel safe and secure in having a pre-nup ... then if you truly love them and want them, then you should want to sign one also, for their emotional well-being.

If you don't want to sign it and think only about yourself in how you think it isn't fair or right, then you have no consideration in the other person's feelings.



When the chips are down, and a relationship is finished ..... people tend to strike out at those very things in which they loved, or accepted. We see it daily in here. People in real life see it kids, all the time.

A woman would tell him that she would never use the kids against him ... never. And those woman are the first ones to use their kids as pawns to manipulate the men.

don't believe me .. take a poll. I'd be willing to wager that every man who is being used by his ex for the sake of the kids was told by her that she would use the kids against him.


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Even your own flesh and blood will turn on a person when money is involved ...

I would probably break off a relationship withh a guy if he was wealthy and didn't ask for a pre-nup ... because that would cause me to question is integrity.

I just had a discussion about this with a friend who is dead set against it.

I'm pretty much for it.

Then again, I'm very independant and plan to always be working if I can, so I don't see me relying on anyone else's money if I can make my own.

Plus, it'd be nice to know that if I'm making good money and he isn't, he isn't entitled to anything.

I'd let him make that decision on whether or not to request a pre-nup, however.

wow... great insights...never actually opened up my mind to this pre-nup thing like you guys did...I always thought of it being selfish...until i was awaken by the conversation me and my friend had the other day...ellybd your right prenups does protect both parties... what you come with is what you leave with and what we both earned together shall be split half way...Thanks Guys.. U gotta live and learn

Posted by P-Angel
I think that if a person has an issue with signing one, then it's an indication that they are the ones who would take the money and run.

A person who isn't in it for the money .. wouldn't have an issue with a pre-nup because the thought of having the others money would never enter into the mind, so it would never become an issue in the relationship.

This basically.

I can't tell you how many times I have gotten into an argument about this exact issue. Most of my exes used to get so angry when I said "If I get married to anyone there will be a pre-nup." Let the fireworks begin. The only people that have been cool with it are the guys who made MORE than I did. Most didn't however and those were the ones arguing. PFFT....