when we meet again

I will still not speak to him because I reserve the right to change my mind. He thinks just because he feels like/ or a slot has opened in his schedule that I should jump to speak to him. Sorry it doesn't work that way the sun doesn't rise and set on his A**.

Me: Sun Libra, Moon Libra, Venus, Mars and Mercury Virgo, Rising Sag
Him: Sun Virgo, Moon Cancer, Venus Leo, Mars Sag and Mercury Libra, Rising Scorp I think?

here is some background Sorry so long

Well the last time we spoke was Dec 21....I really just got tired of his back and forth and asked him striaght up what the deal was are you doing this or are you not because this "situation" doesn't benefit me you fly in whenever it suits you and I might as well fine someone new because this is stupid thats what i told him either you are gonna make time for me or not I said tell me right now the buck stops here....he says I don't have a GF and not looking for one and then goes on to say but now I hurt your feelinds and thats not cool...

Wow at this guy so i say to him what hurts my feelings is the fact that I brought this to you on several occasions that if you are not ok with the way things are now to let me know and I will show myself to the exit (giving him the benefit of the doubt here is his chance to not string me along and be straight up) I said to him I can't be mad about the way you feel but I gave you chances to tell me what you want, I told him that I have feelings for him and that it was obvious that he didn't share those feelings so it would be best to leave it here... I told him that this is no reason to be enemies that if we see each other we could be cordial. he said ok.

fast forward a month or so later he text me hey how are you doing....typical. I didn't respond. I don't like to be manipulated and I'm not on his time. I feel some kind of way toward him anyway because towards the end he was blowing me off which was not cool and pissed me off,I miss him but I don't like to be made to look like a fool.

Virgos what do you think?

*Also I seen him this past week. I went into a venue to cancel a party that I was supposed to host he was there. when i pulled up he was talking to a woman a co-worker of ours(not mine anymore)the convo seemed really intimate. So inside I walked past him to the restroom and walked back out and he didn't say anything to me, but text me an hour later saying I could have spoke. HUH?! If he took the time to text me that what was wrong with his lips!?

Posted by GloriousSadness

... what hurts my feelings is the fact that I brought this to you on several occasions that if you are not ok with the way things are now to let me know and I will show myself to the exit ..

He obviously doesn't want a girlfriend at this time and has told you, and he is sorry for your feelings getting hurt ... you bring this situation up to him "on several occasions" .. which can only mean one thing = you aren't accepting of it, and attempt to put it in his face so that he will change his mind = you attempt to manipulate him by exposing to him your hurt feelings

Posted by GloriousSadness

fast forward a month or so later he text me hey how are you doing....typical. I didn't respond. I don't like to be manipulated and I'm not on his time.

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Most people don't like to be manipulated ... however, you don't seem to mind being the manipulator in this particular situation.

If the man tells you he's not interested in having a full-blown relationship, then leave it the fuck alone ... this doesn't give you justification to keep shoving how you feel in his face.

Posted by GloriousSadness
*Also I seen him this past week. I went into a venue to cancel a party that I was supposed to host he was there. when i pulled up he was talking to a woman a co-worker of ours(not mine anymore)the convo seemed really intimate. So inside I walked past him to the restroom and walked back out and he didn't say anything to me, but text me an hour later saying I could have spoke. HUH?! If he took the time to text me that what was wrong with his lips!?

What the fuck?

He's not your boyfriend and doesn't want to be ... what the hell is this dramatic response from you? He doens't owe you anything.


What the fuck is going on with women in this world?

You think you are entitled to something?

I don't blame him for not wanting to have a serious relatinship with you .. you cannot even control yourself.

Posted by GloriousSadness

I will still not speak to him because I reserve the right to change my mind.

You try to act like you make the decisions, and that you are confident .. but, that's all just smoke and mirrors .. the reality is quoted below ...

.. which is .. he doesn't want you, not the other way around .. because the reason for this thread is to try and find out how to get a man that doesnt' want a girlfriend.

Posted by GloriousSadness

... he says I don't have a GF and not looking for one ..

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Posted by GloriousSadness

... what hurts my feelings is the fact that I brought this to you on several occasions that if you are not ok with the way things are now to let me know and I will show myself to the exit ..

He obviously doesn't want a girlfriend at this time and has told you, and he is sorry for your feelings getting hurt ... you bring this situation up to him "on several occasions" .. which can only mean one thing = you aren't accepting of it, and attempt to put it in his face so that he will change his mind = you attempt to manipulate him by exposing to him your hurt feelings

Posted by GloriousSadness

fast forward a month or so later he text me hey how are you doing....typical. I didn't respond. I don't like to be manipulated and I'm not on his time.

Most people don't like to be manipulated ... however, you don't seem to mind being the manipulator in this particular situation.

If the man tells you he's not interested in having a full-blown relationship, then leave it the fuck alone ... this doesn't give you justification to keep shoving how you feel in his face.

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first there is way more to this story then what I posted. I brought it to him on several ocassions to tell me what he wanted and he would not. nevermind this was stupid when someone is not privy to the entire sit its kind of hard to get appropriate advice

DELETE

the man is 41. He was 38 when we met. I was not interested in a relationship when we met as I was still on the tail end of a really toxic relationship. we worked together 5 months (that's how we met) and he had been trying that long to get me and I gave in which I never thought I would because he is significantly older than me. Then i decided to move away so I quit, after i quit the job I didn't move right away....and a love affair began. it was really romantic so much more than what I thought it would be. everything was good and simple which was good for me (and him)becuase my last relationship did a number on my esteem. it was good for me at the time and i always told myself that I would it was like a boost I needed. But I caught heavier feelings.

anyway its such a long story... too much to fill in, so much more that I'll just go to my friends who already know it. no shade.

Forget him a guy who is so into the chase is not about the catch.